re: Was It Rape? Or Was It Regrettable Drunk Sex?

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I tell you what. If I was a single guy, the last thing I'd be doing is taking home random intoxicated girls I couldn't trust. I keep warning my newly single friend to be fricking careful. It is just too with this shite happening.

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People think I'm a prude, but this is exactly how I feel.

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You've never woken up blackout next to a chick you didn't know you fricked?

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Honestly, no. I may not remember every single detail leading up to culmination, but I've never woken up and said "oh gee, who's the bitch and where did she come from. I wonder if we had sex."

"LouisianaLady"

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bro

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Yeah this isn't theory. Like you, I'm a guy with a penis who has done more than his fair share or drinking and boning. I'm 32, so college hookups aren't that damned far in the past, and the rules still pretty much apply in the grown-up world, though obviously we get less sex in our 30s and the women who come home with us aren't curious wilting flowers looking for acceptance in the scene. I can't speak for your body, but enough alcohol to send me in and out of a fugue state is enough to make maintaining an erection difficult, and enough to make the idea of physical exertion somewhat less appealing. Not saying the guy wasn't drunk. I'm saying he probably was so drunk that he couldn't keep the count. Even when I'm drunk it's not hard to spot the people who are obviously much, much drunker than I am.

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All I can say is that on many hungover mornings I asked my gf at the time if we did it the night before. Granted it was a mutual decision.

Maybe that's the solution here- only get blackout drunk with people you feel comfortable doing it with at the end of the night. Though that may require a higher level of responsibility.

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You've never woken up blackout next to a chick you didn't know you fricked?

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Do you mean you fricked a chick you didn't know?

Or you didn't know you fricked the chick?

Either way, my answer is no. As it is for most people. Even when drinking really heavily, I'm able to remember having sex.

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Maybe that's the solution here- only get blackout drunk with people you feel comfortable doing it with at the end of the night.

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You may have been saying this lightly, but I take this one step farther. I only get drunk around people I trust. And before someone says, "just don't get drunk at all" I'll preemptively reply "frick that shite."

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Here's How I Was Raped

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TL;DR but I'll just say this. Y'all know women are crazy so stop drunkenly hooking up with them. This will reduce your risk of being a baby daddy and of catching aids.

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This is something I've thought about recently as the father of a son just entering his teens. I know in a few years he'll go off to college. And before he goes, I know I've got to sit down and warn him about the possible consequences of going out, getting shite-face drunk, and then hooking up with a girl... Namely that girl who was all "go" the night before suddenly deciding she was "raped" the next day.

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Also, why is it that for rape accusations people who would normally subscribe to the saying of "better 10 guilty men go free than 1 innocent man be convicted" are suddenly of the mindset of "believe every word the woman says and let men fry?"

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C'mon, don't be ridiculous, that isn't what I'm advocating for at all.

However, to address your concerns, you have to be conscious of the fact that rape, like murder and other assaults, has a human victim. We're not dealing with property crimes, and you can probably argue that rape is right behind murder when it comes to crimes that have the most devastating human impact.

I think the false accusations are a problem, don't get me wrong, but I'm not ready to swing to the other side and start blaming true victims as well. I find the hypocrisy in these threads to be ridiculous. Most people agree that it is disheartening to see someone's life ruined because people immediately believe the accusations and treat the accused like he is guilty already, yet they are all to ready to belittle the accuser in these type of situations. That doesn't make any sense, and some people are just as bad as those they despise.

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I know I've got to sit down and warn him about the possible consequences of going out, getting shite-face drunk, and then hooking up with a girl... Namely that girl who was all "go" the night before suddenly deciding she was "raped" the next day.

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do you even Go-pro for the POV sex vid bro?