re: Update (w/a twist): This girl wants a first date that isn't a bar or restaurant.

Take her skinny dipping.

Bumble lane couples massage. Maybe they can get her rectum to relax long enough for the stick to fall out...

I vote coffee house as well ... curious ... did she say why not one of those places?

This wasn't a demand. It came up in casual conversation before I asked her out. On second thought, you are probably right. That could be a demand in female speak.

Btw. First date, but we met once through mutual friends before and hit it off. This is just the first planned date.

Bowling?????

Damn....can't a girl be happy that she has someone interested in courting her?

I understand wanting to break from the normal dating routine but why set restrictions?

She obviously has something particular in mind...just say it. Quit playing games, no wonder she's single.

Bar/restaurants and movies are terrible first dates when you don't know much about each other. I've always enjoyed a date that involved an activity, especially if you can make it competitive in a playful way. The activity helps keep you entertained without forcing awkward conversation and will give you more to talk about. I think it's a lot easier to determine compatibility in those situations as well.

Putt-putt. go carts, batting cages, bowling, painting/drinking places, etc. Even if she sucks you'll both enjoy the day more and won't feel like you completely wasted your time. She's 31 and is over the whole standard bar/restaurant thing.

Just be sure to have your shite together. If the date goes south, in a bad way, you can end it after the first activity. If it's going great, you better have the next activity planned and ready to go.

The wine and painting is good idea, also see if there is somplace that does couples cooking classes.