Two incidents in my first marriage. Who was at fault?

Incident one: I hear a loud swear at me in the middle of the night from the master bathroom. Seems my wife had fallen into the commode because the seat wasn't down. Of course, I always lift the seat before peeing and almost always put it down when I'm done... just so happens that on this night I went to take a leak earlier from the middle of a sleep and failed to do it. Who was more at fault? The man who is not perfect or the woman who failed to look out for her own safety before sitting? She never forgave me for her accident, though I never admitted fault.

Incident two: We get in the car for a short trip... it's a pretty sunny day... I'm driving along for a short while when I hear a whistling of wind coming from one of the windows, so I pull up all four windows on the driver's door control panel. Then I hear the most terrifying scream you could ever imagine... so bad that I immediately slammed on the brakes, from instinct, and risked getting rear ended. Well, as it turns out my wife's fingers were stuck in the window... she had been riding along with her fingers sticking through a very narrow opening at the top of her window. It didn't even immediately connect with me that her fingers were being smashed... I asked why the frick are you screaming like that? Then I saw her situation. She never forgave me for that one, either, though I never admitted fault.