re: Two incidents in my first marriage. Who was at fault?

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I never admitted fault

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Have you ever?

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Incident one: I hear a loud swear at me in the middle of the night from the master bathroom. Seems my wife had fallen into the commode because the seat wasn't down. Of course, I always lift the seat before peeing and almost always put it down when I'm done... just so happens that on this night I went to take a leak earlier from the middle of a sleep and failed to do it. Who was more at fault? The man who is not perfect or the woman who failed to look out for her own safety before sitting? She never forgave me for her accident, though I never admitted fault.

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This is your fault.

If you found the seat in the down position, it is the reasonable responsibility of the user to return the seat to the down position at the completion of the restroom activity.

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never understand the toilet seat conundrum with women. I ALWAYS look before I sit. It's just common sense.

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... women ... common sense.

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I don't see what you aren't understanding here.

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Of course, I always lift the seat before peeing and almost always put it down when I'm done

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Rex. You sit, you tuck. You are a girl-pisser.

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So....your dick?

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walked into that one

First one is equal fault on both sides. You owe her the courtesy of putting the seat down when you finish, but she has a duty to check before falling into the toilet. This accident only happens if you both fail in these responsibilities.

Second one is your fault. You don't put the windows up (especially with no warning) without checking to make sure they are clear. Even if she hadn't had her fingers in the window, it would have been rude of you to put it up without asking her after she had obviously cracked it herself (since I assume you didn't), signifying that she wanted it cracked for some reason.

I enjoy these posts.

Nobody's fault, shite just happens.

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Incident two: Getting your fingers stuck in the window doesn't hurt that bad. Sounds like she is a drama queen. You should have told her to get the frick out the car.

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I was angrier than she was because as I saw it she almost caused an accident. Imagine peacefully driving along and then hearing a bloodcurdling scream from out of nowhere.

Rex, if you want your second marriage to last, just accept that even if something is clearly her fault, it is still your fault. Just the way women are wired.