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re: Thinking of adopting a kid
Posted on 4/11/17 at 8:56 am to TigersHeisman225
Posted on 4/11/17 at 8:56 am to TigersHeisman225
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Posted on 4/11/17 at 9:00 am to TigersHeisman225
My parents adopted my youngest sister.
She tried to kill my mother. When she was 13 she invited two guys to the house in the middle of the night to sandwich her. She's 24 and been married twice and has two kids by two different men. She's covered in tattoos. She was a stripper, a truck driver, and now a medical receptionist.
It's great. Would do again.
She tried to kill my mother. When she was 13 she invited two guys to the house in the middle of the night to sandwich her. She's 24 and been married twice and has two kids by two different men. She's covered in tattoos. She was a stripper, a truck driver, and now a medical receptionist.
It's great. Would do again.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 9:03 am to TigersHeisman225
Refresh your page, then hit upvote. Then refresh again. It will only tally the last vote you hit.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 9:22 am to bconne1
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Why do you have to be a dick all of the time? I imagine it must be exhausting.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 9:26 am to SlapahoeTribe
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I never said anything to them about it, but I always wondered why they didn't adopt an American kid.
I would say comparatively that US foster children have a pretty easy life compared to an unwanted Chinese female baby. I have friends that have adopted little girls from China. The outlook was very bleak if they weren't adopted.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 9:30 am to fr33manator
Yeah, I get it. And not every joke is for every person.
I understand this is no place for thin skin, but I think we all have an issue or two we'd rather not have other people poke fun at.
There's no reason to be a douche bag at every opportunity.
I understand this is no place for thin skin, but I think we all have an issue or two we'd rather not have other people poke fun at.
There's no reason to be a douche bag at every opportunity.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 9:34 am to TigersHeisman225
We are nearing the end of the adoption process for a brother and sister. We got them at 19mo and 7mo old. We are Mommy and Daddy. They are amazing little ones and the process, while it can be challenging, is worth it. Oh and your wife is totally getting pregnant right around the time of the adoption. So, be prepared for that. We now have 3 under 3.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 9:39 am to fr33manator
Posted on 4/11/17 at 10:05 am to mark65mc
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We are nearing the end of the adoption process for a brother and sister. We got them at 19mo and 7mo old
Was this through an agency, state system, etc.? I'm curious because me and the mrs are considering adoption as well.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 10:08 am to graychef
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Cost is big though. With legal fees, you're looking at $20k+.
This is ridiculous!!! I'm assuming this is a through private adoption agencies but still this is beyond absurd.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 10:15 am to bconne1
If you didn't get it you really MMissed the joke
Posted on 4/11/17 at 10:33 am to lsunurse
china isnt exactly 3rd world, although i know parts of it are
Posted on 4/11/17 at 10:52 am to AFtigerFan
It was a private adoption. We put the word out to various organizations. We got a call from someone from Healing Place's adoption ministry about a brother and sister that needed emergency placement and that it would be an adoption and not just a foster situation. We have an attorney. We did not use an agency. We felt like a large majority of what is paid to an agency goes to marketing and to birth mother expenses. I am ok with some birth mother expenses but you are at risk of losing all of those if the BM changes her mind, which can happen.
We decided that it was more important to help some kids locally than it was to give a BM who made a bad choice a reset button. So, that is why we ended up with a toddler and a baby. We were also comfortable with siblings and/or twins as long as they were under 2. That worked out well. By the time that we got the kids, they were sleeping all night long.
We decided that it was more important to help some kids locally than it was to give a BM who made a bad choice a reset button. So, that is why we ended up with a toddler and a baby. We were also comfortable with siblings and/or twins as long as they were under 2. That worked out well. By the time that we got the kids, they were sleeping all night long.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 10:57 am to TigersHeisman225
I've got one you can keep anytime you want until you decide you reallllly want to go forward. I will even let you watch her for free.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 11:16 am to Wtodd
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NO IT'S NOT!!
It actually is the same principle. It's not the same exact thing, but in principle, they are the same.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 11:28 am to terriblegreen
Im all for adoption, and hope to adopt one day, but I will definitely be going the international route.
My family adopted a girl from an orphanage in central America. Dad met her on a mission trip there and fell in love with her. We worked for more than 3 years to get her here, but it was well worth it.
My opinion on in-country adoptions is biased, but I think there is some truth in it. Its quite heartless, but you are adopting someone else's problems. Unless you are adopting at a very young age, infancy, they are going to have mental issues beyond your wildest dreams. I'm not saying these issues arent present in international adoptions, but you are not only taking an international orphan out of a bad group home, or area, you are literally changing their life. My little sisters home was a dirt hut, no running water, no electricity. Her "reward" for being good was sweeping! She literally swept constantly for the first two weeks she was here. haha Maybe we were lucky, hell I sure think we are, but the experience has been great.
Piece of advice on international adoptions: consult an attorney BEFORE going anywhere or paying anything. There are tons of adoption agencies out to capitalize on the situation and will charge you >100k for what should cost a fifth of that. They can let you know what the rules are, and what can and cannot be done.
Also, donate, and consult with your local US congressman/senator. They will be a world of help in the process.
My family adopted a girl from an orphanage in central America. Dad met her on a mission trip there and fell in love with her. We worked for more than 3 years to get her here, but it was well worth it.
My opinion on in-country adoptions is biased, but I think there is some truth in it. Its quite heartless, but you are adopting someone else's problems. Unless you are adopting at a very young age, infancy, they are going to have mental issues beyond your wildest dreams. I'm not saying these issues arent present in international adoptions, but you are not only taking an international orphan out of a bad group home, or area, you are literally changing their life. My little sisters home was a dirt hut, no running water, no electricity. Her "reward" for being good was sweeping! She literally swept constantly for the first two weeks she was here. haha Maybe we were lucky, hell I sure think we are, but the experience has been great.
Piece of advice on international adoptions: consult an attorney BEFORE going anywhere or paying anything. There are tons of adoption agencies out to capitalize on the situation and will charge you >100k for what should cost a fifth of that. They can let you know what the rules are, and what can and cannot be done.
Also, donate, and consult with your local US congressman/senator. They will be a world of help in the process.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 11:53 am to TigersHeisman225
I would avoid international.
Read the stories of the scams that they are. Some of these places are stealing children or babies to put into these adoption agencies. It is very good and easy money for bad people so you should discourage it. Find something local. It really is a bad to go international. It just encourages the bad companies to keep doing bad things.
There was a lot of "rumors" about the Russian kiddies getting molested a ton here in the states. That is why they don't let you adopt Russians anymore.
Good luck to you.
Read the stories of the scams that they are. Some of these places are stealing children or babies to put into these adoption agencies. It is very good and easy money for bad people so you should discourage it. Find something local. It really is a bad to go international. It just encourages the bad companies to keep doing bad things.
There was a lot of "rumors" about the Russian kiddies getting molested a ton here in the states. That is why they don't let you adopt Russians anymore.
Good luck to you.
Posted on 4/12/17 at 6:39 pm to TigersHeisman225
I do not have children of my own, adopted or not. However as you appear to be looking for some advice, I will provide you with some knowledge I have come across. Although now it may be outdated, it may be useful for you to know that research on Romanian orphanages states that kids with any institutional rearing had a 53% chance of psychiatric disorders, while in comparison, the rate corresponding with kids who were raised in a home is 22%. Personal recommendation: You should do some extensive research prior to making that decision. But anyways, best of luck! 
This post was edited on 4/12/17 at 6:41 pm
Posted on 4/12/17 at 6:47 pm to TigersHeisman225
Light or dark?
Just kidding I know this isn't a Popeyes question..
Have either of y'all had children previously? Basically do you want to go through the baby/infant process?
Just kidding I know this isn't a Popeyes question..
Have either of y'all had children previously? Basically do you want to go through the baby/infant process?
Posted on 4/12/17 at 6:57 pm to darnol91
I am adopted by my father, my sister is my cousin (adopted) and I have a cousin out there somewhere who was adopted (he could reach out to us, but not us to him. He didn't show when his "bio mom" (my aunt) died). My "sister"/cousin is my polar opposite.
I knew a guy who adopted Romanian siblings. Went for a trip for 2 weeks, during wartime, come home empty handed. Went again, and got 2 brothers. The orphanages there have kids with mental and physical problems. Prostitutes who spawn AIDS babies. Also, if you are committed to a mental institution, I have heard they will just make up reasons to keep you a ward of the state, not matter your state of mind.
Last story, a friend, mom was hooked on drugs, in Poland. She and her adoptive brother, same circumstances...He is fine, she is hooked on heroin. You never know how people will turn out.
I knew a guy who adopted Romanian siblings. Went for a trip for 2 weeks, during wartime, come home empty handed. Went again, and got 2 brothers. The orphanages there have kids with mental and physical problems. Prostitutes who spawn AIDS babies. Also, if you are committed to a mental institution, I have heard they will just make up reasons to keep you a ward of the state, not matter your state of mind.
Last story, a friend, mom was hooked on drugs, in Poland. She and her adoptive brother, same circumstances...He is fine, she is hooked on heroin. You never know how people will turn out.
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