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Thinking of adopting a kid
Posted on 4/11/17 at 12:34 am
Posted on 4/11/17 at 12:34 am
Married, no kids, dog, and considering adopting. Anyone know of any adoption experiences?
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Posted on 4/11/17 at 12:35 am to TigersHeisman225
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This post was edited on 4/14/17 at 11:33 pm
Posted on 4/11/17 at 12:38 am to TigersHeisman225
you can raw dog your wife and save like 40 grand.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 12:39 am to TigersHeisman225
My cousin and hubs did. They went through like 5 kids and DHR kept giving them back to their shitty drug addled parents. They eventually got the little girl they originally "adopted" because the mother could never pass a piss test. The whole process almost made them divorce. They cant have kids and just seemed very stressful. You have good swimmers?
Posted on 4/11/17 at 12:40 am to TigersHeisman225
Posted on 4/11/17 at 12:55 am to TigersHeisman225
Worked with a couple that did this several years ago. They adopted from China. This was their third child (other two were their biological children). It took them well over a year from the point of meeting with a agency to getting their kid. I do believe they shelled out some serious dough too ($20+ grand).
I never said anything to them about it, but I always wondered why they didn't adopt an American kid. The numbers of kids in foster care are kind of crazy, but if just every other church in the US had just one family adopt just one kid, then there would be no more kids in foster care. Food for thought.
I wish you well in your endeavors.
I never said anything to them about it, but I always wondered why they didn't adopt an American kid. The numbers of kids in foster care are kind of crazy, but if just every other church in the US had just one family adopt just one kid, then there would be no more kids in foster care. Food for thought.
I wish you well in your endeavors.
This post was edited on 4/11/17 at 12:57 am
Posted on 4/11/17 at 12:57 am to TigersHeisman225
the older i get the more i think about adopting myself. the earth is overpopulated as is, why let kids who deserve a family grow up in an orphanage. plus, arent the odds of autism increased when a woman reaches 35? if true, this makes me very hesitant to have my own children. i mean i could always find a younger woman but then id have to deal with a younger woman. id rather be an autistic orphan than deal with that shite again.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 1:16 am to TigersHeisman225
Wife refuses to sleep with you already?
Posted on 4/11/17 at 1:24 am to TigersHeisman225
We adopted in 2007 and it was the best thing we've ever done. We adopted from Russia but that's no longer an option. China's waiting list is crazy long. There are other adoptions.
International adoption is much, MUCH more expensive but we went that route rather than deal with the emotional toll through the domestic foster care system. Private adoptions through Gladney can be a great option. Know several families who adopted at birth through Gladney and other such organizations.
International adoption is much, MUCH more expensive but we went that route rather than deal with the emotional toll through the domestic foster care system. Private adoptions through Gladney can be a great option. Know several families who adopted at birth through Gladney and other such organizations.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 1:55 am to TigersHeisman225
Tried for five years. No success. Considered adoption out of China. Paid the $3500 deposit. Five days later, wife was pregnant. fricking agency refused to refund.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 1:59 am to SlapahoeTribe
Sorry, meant to upvote and got down.
Yeah, I want to get a foster kid. Think it would be alright to get a kid nobody wanted. Why compete for babies. It kind of defeats the purpose of just giving someone a shot.
Yeah, I want to get a foster kid. Think it would be alright to get a kid nobody wanted. Why compete for babies. It kind of defeats the purpose of just giving someone a shot.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 2:05 am to TigersHeisman225
How long have you been considering this?
Posted on 4/11/17 at 2:08 am to pioneerbasketball
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It takes forever
Well, even having a kid the "old fashioned" way takes about a year. I have a few relatives who have adopted and it's all worked out for them. It's a process, but if you want a child badly enough it's worth it. Good luck with whatever you decide to do, OP.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 5:35 am to TigersHeisman225
We couldn't have kids but really wanted them. After 3 years of trying (with doctors) attempted adoption route. Seemed every mother had done drugs in at least their first trimester and there was no guarantee they would give them up until birth. Some required all their bills to be paid until baby was born. I said F that.
I heard Kelly Rasberry on kid kraddick talk about embryo.net one morning. Talked to wife and now have a 4 year old girl and 18 month old boy. Expensive but so worth it. Plus your wife gets to experience pregnancy.
I heard Kelly Rasberry on kid kraddick talk about embryo.net one morning. Talked to wife and now have a 4 year old girl and 18 month old boy. Expensive but so worth it. Plus your wife gets to experience pregnancy.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 5:41 am to TigersHeisman225
I will rent out you my autistic 12 year old. He stubborn, mean and manupalitive. He would be a good test for yoy
Posted on 4/11/17 at 5:47 am to Chiefagain
quote:Why would you adopt yourself?
the older i get the more i think about adopting myself.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 5:48 am to Chiefagain
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the earth is overpopulated as is
WRONG. Make some fricking babies, free loader
Posted on 4/11/17 at 5:55 am to TigersHeisman225
Some friends of our adopted 2 boys over the past 7 years. Both have emotional and behavioral issues due to birth mother's drug use. Being a parent is hard. Good luck.
Posted on 4/11/17 at 6:14 am to MBclass83
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Both have emotional and behavioral issues due to birth mother's drug use.
I grew up across the street from two families who adopted. One family had two girls and a boy, the other had one of each. The oldest girls from both of these families have major emotional issues due to drug using birth parents. I believe both are currently in jail or halfway homes. Both have ruined the lives of other people and produced kids that their adopted parents are now in charge of. Something in their brains just doesn't click like normal people. Their version of "rational logic" is anything but that.
I'm not trying to discourage you. I know even more dumbass kids who were born into wonderful homes and families. Just understand this is part of it.
This post was edited on 4/11/17 at 6:15 am
Posted on 4/11/17 at 6:29 am to TigersHeisman225
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Anyone know of any adoption experiences?
Yep....my wife & I adopted a 9 yr. old boy in 2004. Every state is different so you need to FIRST find out what's involved in your state. FL is the GOAT for adopting kids that are wards of the state and it's NOT EVEN CLOSE.
Something to remember: just like you & your wife, these kids that are wards of the state have 'baggage' so you & your wife need to understand and ACCEPT that. Also these kids have had to deal with a ton of shite their whole lives, like no one wants them which is a pretty big deal. Also school has been pushed down the list priority list so there's a better than average chance they'll be way behind in school. Also their maturity level will probably be "delayed". They can "catch up" but it will take awhile.
Also remember this....patience, patience, patience.
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