- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
re: Study:Telling your kids that they are special turns them into narcissistic jerks
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:01 pm to theunknownknight
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:01 pm to theunknownknight
quote:
My mom always told me I was special. Because I AM special. I turned out ok.
I know you saw Forest Gump where Forests mom fricks the principal? Are you that special?
0
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:01 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
quote:
Dog people are so fricking weird
So you're a dog person?
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:20 pm to ByteMe
That's even weaker than normal
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:22 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
quote:
That's even weaker than normal
What is normal?
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:36 pm to League Champs
This is why these "studies" are misleading, and usually ridiculous. ... There is a gargantuan difference between "praising" children and telling them they are "superior" to others. I would hope that anyone with an ounce of common sense would know this. ... Praise for doing their best regardless of outcome - YES. Teach them to be self absorbed, entitled, elitist asshats by telling them they are "better" than others - NO. ... Huge difference.
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:43 pm to Arkla Missy
quote:
There is a gargantuan difference between "praising" children
So what exactly are you praising them for?
For doing what is expected?
For trying their best?
Thats the point of the study. If you continue to falsely prop up your childs self-esteem, then they cant handle it when their peers dont glow on about their averageness
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:48 pm to League Champs
Yes, it's called positive reinforcement. It works better than negative every time. You know, "good job," along with CONSTRUCTIVE, INFORMATIVE, INSTRUCTIONAL criticism, when warranted. ... It's a pretty well-known fact that people who are constant & consistent assholes to their children produce assholes.
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:49 pm to League Champs
quote:Just so we are clear, where do you stand? Are you against praise and reinforcement altogether?
So what exactly are you praising them for?
For doing what is expected?
For trying their best?
Thats the point of the study. If you continue to falsely prop up your childs self-esteem, then they cant handle it when their peers dont glow on about their averageness
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:49 pm to League Champs
quote:
Thats the point of the study. If you continue to falsely prop up your childs self-esteem, then they cant handle it when their peers dont glow on about their averageness
What if your child has self-esteem issues? Do you try to encourage them and try to build it up or tell them to deal with it? I'm wondering how many people in this thread have kids.
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:50 pm to League Champs
Well, I am special, and my parents told me that. My parents never told my sister that, and she's far more narcissistic than I am.
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:51 pm to Arkla Missy
If there's no communication, you don't have anything, good or bad reinforcement, even if you have to use your phone to communicate with them.
This post was edited on 3/9/15 at 9:55 pm
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:51 pm to Arkla Missy
quote:
Yes, it's called positive reinforcement. It works better than negative every time. You know, "good job," along with CONSTRUCTIVE, INFORMATIVE, INSTRUCTIONAL criticism, when warranted. ... It's a pretty well-known fact that people who are constant & consistent assholes to their children produce assholes
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:55 pm to ByteMe
I have kids, if they do good, I say good job little men. If they disappoint, I say I am disappointed, usually for just being disobedient. I don't know what else people do, and frankly I don't give a damn. I will raise my kids just how I feel is proper.
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:57 pm to tigerfoot
I'm calling your old Principal. 
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:57 pm to tigerfoot
quote:
I have kids, if they do good, I say good job little men. If they disappoint, I say I am disappointed, usually for just being disobedient. I don't know what else people do, and frankly I don't give a damn. I will raise my kids just how I feel is proper.
I'm the same way, FTR.
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:59 pm to ByteMe
quote:
You people are amazing
What does this mean?
I love dogs.
Had one ever since I've been alive... Prob 6-7 of them total.
But they aren't humans and to treat than as such is amazes me.
I don't get it.
Furthermore, people that treat them that way want everybody else to do the same.
That's what's amazing.
And retarded.
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:59 pm to TIGRLEE
The thing is, you've got to be able to recognize your kid's strengths or wants and help them get there.
I am not a parent, but I have seen Stepbrothers like 100 times
I am not a parent, but I have seen Stepbrothers like 100 times
Posted on 3/9/15 at 9:59 pm to Oyster
That's because they are sociopaths.
Posted on 3/9/15 at 10:00 pm to Ole Geauxt
You know Odean Jones?
Posted on 3/9/15 at 10:06 pm to TIGRLEE
quote:
I don't get it.
I might not get it either, but I'm not going to criticize them for being emotional when a pet they've had for 10-20 yrs dies.
Page 3 of 4
Popular
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News