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Posted on 3/5/15 at 11:11 am to Austin Cajun
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Any of you ever faced a decision like this? How did you handle it?
Yes. I valued my children more than money or a position.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 11:12 am to ZereauxSum
I'm not familiar with the area but is there a nice place to live between austin and houston to live? You could then only be 90 minutes away.
Also it doesnt seem likely that this will be the only opening for your dream job considering one company is offering 8-10 postions at one time.
Also it doesnt seem likely that this will be the only opening for your dream job considering one company is offering 8-10 postions at one time.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 11:25 am to Austin Cajun
There was never a question when it came to my kid. She was always first priority.
To Hell with the job.
To Hell with the job.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 11:32 am to Austin Cajun
As much as you may want the job, choosing between that and your child is a pretty easy call IMO. I don't know if you're that unhappy with your job or if it's not providing you with enough.... I do wish you the best with it all and hopefully somehow someway it works out. Sometimes things don't always go the way we want but there's a plan.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 11:33 am to Austin Cajun
The kid won't resent you for choosing a job over spending time with him/her
Posted on 3/5/15 at 11:40 am to Austin Cajun
How about wait and see if you even get the job.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 11:51 am to Austin Cajun
Dunno what's happened in the interceding 7 pages of this thread, but after reading the OP, it's easy.
Stay close to the kid.
Stay close to the kid.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 11:52 am to Austin Cajun
I'll never understand how people need to "think" about something involving their child. I had my son around 70% of the time (supposed to be 50-50) and lived less than 5 minutes away from his mom. I waited until I had custody (took around 7 years) before I even moved 45 minutes away. No amount of money could have made me sacrifice more time with my kid. How do people even consider losing time with their child over money? Makes me sick to think about it.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 11:54 am to Austin Cajun
Think about yourself in 5, 10 or 15 years with each option.
I think it's much easier to live with "I didn't have as much but I had was always there for my kid" than "I've got all this stuff and career but can never get back the time with my kid".
Plus:
The negative effects on him.
The limited special time that kids are that young age vs when they're older and busier with stuff and friends.
I think it's much easier to live with "I didn't have as much but I had was always there for my kid" than "I've got all this stuff and career but can never get back the time with my kid".
Plus:
The negative effects on him.
The limited special time that kids are that young age vs when they're older and busier with stuff and friends.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 12:12 pm to Austin Cajun
Split the difference. I can drive 2hrs from Houston and still be in Houston.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 12:20 pm to Austin Cajun
you are a good dad , the position isn't yours yet and all you can think of is your son. Personally, I think you should go for it. Many Dads work out of town or offshore and the kids adjust. Explain to your son that this move would benefit him in the long run ie..more money more opportunity for him to have a better life.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 12:26 pm to CorkSoaker
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How about wait and see if you even get the job.
Becuase to hell with trying to plan ahead amirite?
Posted on 3/5/15 at 12:27 pm to Austin Cajun
I doubt I could do it, but at the same time it is your dream job. It would be so hard to be away from you kid and not see him as much.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 12:33 pm to Kingwood Tiger
With a higher salary, can you provide more for you son?
As in, can you start to save for his college, and provide better living for him, etc?
Also, as others said, it isn't uncommon for dad's to be gone. My stepdad worked as an offshore engineer with schlumberger and would be gone weeks at a time.
As in, can you start to save for his college, and provide better living for him, etc?
Also, as others said, it isn't uncommon for dad's to be gone. My stepdad worked as an offshore engineer with schlumberger and would be gone weeks at a time.
This post was edited on 3/5/15 at 12:34 pm
Posted on 3/5/15 at 12:39 pm to Austin Cajun
I don't have kids but I say stay where you are for now and hope for opportunity later in life. Moving when he's in high school seems reasonable to me but 7 years old is so young.
A close friend of mine had a similar situation when at that age and the father moved ~4 hours away but to be CEO of a major manufacturing company and the guy has been true OT baller status ever since - last I checked he was pulling in bout 3million per year. Their relationship deteriorated within a year and now almost nonexistent, except on paper. He's got more money than I'll ever dream of but I know the family well enough to know that he wishes more than anything he could fix the relationship now. My friend now makes no effort to see him.
Of course that's not all of the details but it's been mentioned several times that his absence really hurt the chances of them having a solid relationship.
A close friend of mine had a similar situation when at that age and the father moved ~4 hours away but to be CEO of a major manufacturing company and the guy has been true OT baller status ever since - last I checked he was pulling in bout 3million per year. Their relationship deteriorated within a year and now almost nonexistent, except on paper. He's got more money than I'll ever dream of but I know the family well enough to know that he wishes more than anything he could fix the relationship now. My friend now makes no effort to see him.
Of course that's not all of the details but it's been mentioned several times that his absence really hurt the chances of them having a solid relationship.
This post was edited on 3/5/15 at 12:48 pm
Posted on 3/5/15 at 12:40 pm to Austin Cajun
This is an easy choice. Do right by your child. A job doesn't define you, but not spending as much time as possible with your child will be a regret that haunts you forever.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 12:42 pm to Austin Cajun
quote:Without reading OP or seven pages of comments, I'll just say . . . You came to the right place!
Possible life changing decision on the horizon
Posted on 3/5/15 at 12:51 pm to Austin Cajun
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Just taking a shot in the dark. The size of this company and the number of resumes they receive, I never thought I'd get a call back. Especially for this position. I've never stopped chasing my dream job and to see it open up 3 hours away is much too tempting to not apply for.
It comes down to this: If you go it will be a selfish act, changing life for your benefit. If you stay it will be an act of love for your son, sacrificing yourself for him.
Who do you love more, yourself or your son? Make a decision based on that, because that's the bottom line.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 12:59 pm to Enadious
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Who do you love more, yourself or your son? Make a decision based on that, because that's the bottom line.
Disagree. You can still provide (and possibly provide much more) for your son being a few hours away.
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