re: Possible job change.. I'm scared. Need OT advice.

I don't have any experience relocating a family, but the most important thing for me in making that decision would be contingency and future growth to provide for the family. What is the job market like for that career in the location where you would have to move? If the answer is better than where you are now, then you have not only a contingency plan in case it sucks, but you also have more options to grow in the future, which will make it easier to settle down there longer term.

If you are young, you may as well make the move now, because if you have any ambition whatsoever, you're going to have to at some point. I am brushing up against the ceiling in my career in BR right now. As soon as I am ready to take it to the next level, I am going to have to leave Louisiana because there simply aren't any opportunities here left that would provide a challenge (or a bump in pay).

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I have a two year old son and wife is < 2 weeks away from due date with baby #2

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Just saw this. This is important - your wife could have issues adjusting - she gets to stay home with two kids in a city where she knows no one while you get to go to work everyday, play video games and make new friends. Just be aware of this. Work together to make sure it doesn't happen that way.

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Or maybe he's not a wiener and can handle some stress in his life without going into full on bitch mode

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Have YOU ever made the kind of move he's contemplating--a move with a new kid on the way in a couple of weeks? If you accomplished this without stress or turmoil, it's probably because you have:
• The brain of a turtle
• A steady supply of xanax and Valium

I DID make the same kind of move the OP's thinking of making and I can tell you from personal experience, that the combination of new family member, new job, new company, new career--and in an unstable industry to boot--is going to make the next 1-2 years of this guy's life a roller coaster ride.

If it was just the guy himself, or him and his wife, I'd naturally say, Go for it. But NOT with a kid on the way.

Tell you what: have the guy report back to us in 6 months. If he says the move and transition were stress-free, I'll take the wiener/bitch label you hung on me. If, however, he reports that he regrets making the move, you'll then wear the Imbecile/Moron label I've got ready for you.

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This is important - your wife could have issues adjusting - she gets to stay home with two kids in a city where she knows no one while you get to go to work everyday, play video games and make new friends.

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BINGO--and this is just one of the negatives the guy will have to deal with. The OP can go ahead and dismiss this now, but when he comes home every night to an exhausted wife without family or friends to provide SUPPORT … well, I guarantee you he'll remember what I'm writing now.

And, as I said, this is just one of the many shite piles he'll be wading through as he tries to establish a new life for him and his family in a new town.

Jesus, this isn't that hard to understand: making a high stress move (new job/city) when you're already dealing with a stressful event (new family member)--only an imbecile would say this is a good situation in which to move.