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re: People Without Kids?
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:23 am to Jones
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:23 am to Jones
I never wanted kids until I was 31. Ended up adopting at 32. My husband I had a lot of disposable income before adopting and did pretty much whatever we wanted but we also saved a good bit of my salary.
We only have 1 but still do a lot. We don't fly off to Vegas every weekend, but we go somewhere every 4-6 weeks for a weekend trip. The kid stays with my mom. When we want to go somewhere longer, we bring my mom & the kid along. Enjoy family time during the day and adult time at night.
I really do feel like we have the best of both worlds and wouldn't change it for anything. If we had more than one child, though, we couldn't do as much and bring my mom along without saving less which isn't an option. Still plan to retire by 55 or so. If you want kids or a kid, it can be done.
We only have 1 but still do a lot. We don't fly off to Vegas every weekend, but we go somewhere every 4-6 weeks for a weekend trip. The kid stays with my mom. When we want to go somewhere longer, we bring my mom & the kid along. Enjoy family time during the day and adult time at night.
I really do feel like we have the best of both worlds and wouldn't change it for anything. If we had more than one child, though, we couldn't do as much and bring my mom along without saving less which isn't an option. Still plan to retire by 55 or so. If you want kids or a kid, it can be done.
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Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:23 am to LSUJuicer
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The down side is we may be lonely in our older years.
You can't let that be the reason why you have children though.
Having a child doesn't guarantee you won't be lonely when you are older. What happens if they die before you?
My coworker just lost her 3 oldest children in an accident. I'm sure she always thought she would have a house full of kids until they all moved away. Now she only has one child left.
It's weird....that whole ordeal has made me realize even more that I want to be a parent.
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:23 am to SuperSaint
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I still have plenty of stories to tell the grandkids as it is.
I don't think my stories would be suitable for progeny until they are 25.
"Son, did I ever tell you about the time I barebacked the Brazilian girl at the Allgood Festival after being up 3 days on a combination of cocaine and LSD?"
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:23 am to lsunurse
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Yall never wanted to adopt or foster?
We talked about it a lot, but just never moved on it. Too old now. We had friends who adopted and had lots of issues, that can be such a blessing or ordeal.
The worst part is our family name will end. My brother only had girls, and with me having no kids, it ends there. Kind of sad. I think about it a lot.
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:24 am to HempHead
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I do a lot of drugs, go to concerts/festivals, and generally piss away money on what I like without it putting me in dire straits.
shite's thoroughly enjoyable.
this, you do w/e you want without any worry that you are wasting your money. Kids are fun, they are like walking journals who will remember you and take care of you (if lucky) when you're old. I used to want to have them, but now have no desire. I'd only do it for the experience, and to make my parents happy.
fyi; have many friends who blow their money on good times and not day care/school/college funds
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:24 am to TheIndulger
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Sounds fun now, not so much when you're old and no one else cares about you
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Also, what do couples in their 60s and 70s do when they have no kids?
Like Nurse just said, great reasons to have kids
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:24 am to Jones
quote:When it's a neuva-ring and you literally feel it while fricking and taking it out and putting it back in after sex for her, it's pretty easy to know that she is "on" her birth control or if she has an IUD
i dunno i guess im just in another mindset. i can be 20 beers in and that shite is going everywhere but the vag.
I can understand if it's a pill and you are trusting the girl to take it without you even knowing or not.
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:25 am to Adam4848
Kids are great. I've fulfilled my biological imperative (the only thing I've done right) and they give me a reason to be a better person.
If I didn't have kids I'd likely be off in the orient screwing some Taiwanese whore and making money
If I didn't have kids I'd likely be off in the orient screwing some Taiwanese whore and making money
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:27 am to Jones
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I will be spending it on all the fun stuff that parents cant go do.
Being spontaneous with money is something parents cant do.
Oh hey, im off of work for the week, lets go to Napa and drink some wine and go to French Laundry.
Yea parents arent doing that
This sounds awesome to me (both of us), and it's the kind of thing we know we'd have to give up with kids.
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:28 am to kywildcatfanone
One deterrent to having kids is that they may grow up to be shitheads/addicts. Tons of kids from well to do families have drug problems. I would definitely rather not have a kid than have one with a drug problem
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:28 am to kywildcatfanone
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The worst part is our family name will end. My brother only had girls, and with me having no kids, it ends there. Kind of sad. I think about it a lot.
This would probably be my #1 motivation for having children. I'm sure I have 4th cousins or so with my surname, but none that I am aware of. I am the IV of my name, and it would be a shame to not see some poor bastard not have to deal with being V.
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:29 am to HempHead
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I am a very selfish and fun-loving person, and I'd be doing a great disservice to a child by making myself its father. I just have the self-awareness to know that I'd be a shitty parent, which is not as common as I'd like.
I'm extremely nervous I'd fall into this category.
I look at how flexible and understanding and selfless my parents were growing up, and I honestly don't know if I would be. I'd like to hope I would be, but I really don't know.
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:29 am to SuperSaint
So youre cool with having a kid with just any random girl that youre dating?
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:31 am to fr33manator
quote:I hate to admit it, but if i'd have had a kid whenever I thought I was going to have one, my life would have turned out a shite ton different and I would have never got caught up in a lot of the selfish behaviors that got me in a shite ton of trouble over the years........... but i guess things happen for a reason
and they give me a reason to be a better person.
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:31 am to Jones
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So youre cool with having a kid with just any random girl that youre dating?
That seems like a recipe for disaster
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:31 am to Jones
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So youre cool with having a kid with just any random girl that youre dating?
If there is a hell, I'm certainly on my way there for more than one reason, but the few trips I've paid for to, uh, clinics have secured me as a first class traveler.
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:32 am to Navytiger74
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Well I'm single without kids (at 31), make a good but not great living, save and invest $3000 per month, have a nice car and home, eat out most nights, and buy pretty much all the toys I want (incl recently 3 watches worth about $14000).
I intend to get married, but having most of your earnings to yourself can be sweet.
This is how we are. We're 28 and combined put away about $4K a month. We each have a nice apartment (soon will have just one nice apartment), drive nice cars, and do whatever the f we want.
Get off early Friday, Southwest direct to Key West? Fvck yea! I'm all about that, and I would hate to resent a kid for not being able to do that anymore.
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:33 am to LSUJuicer
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The down side is we may be lonely in our older years.
This is probably my biggest fear.
As someone mentioned, WTF do you do when you're 60 and have no kids?
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:33 am to lsunurse
Yeah I don't recommend having the kids with randoms parent plan.
Posted on 4/23/14 at 12:34 am to FootballNostradamus
I soo need to save more
I'm horrible at saving money.
I'm horrible at saving money.
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