re: Not being able to break up with someone

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Holy shite, that post makes me want to drink whiskey alone in the dark. You're quite the hopeless romantic aren't you?

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I wish you would drink antifreeze in the dark.

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3rd page and no request for pics?

I mean...

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Page 2 pic request...

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she has multiple attempts at suicide.

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Do, or do not. There is no try.

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Was it a real stab or a bull shite flesh wound for attention?

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real stab. Cops called, she ended up in the hospital. he is lucky he didn't get arrested.

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She better hope he has a car because that bitch wouldn't have a ride home.

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fricking right!!

I have been divorced for awhile, and will probably stay that way. That said, I have had a number of dates. One girl I was with a couple of years back had a body at 45 that would have made a 25 yr old hang their head in shame. Probably the best bed partner I have even had, including my days in college as well as my then wife. Long story short, her craziness started seeping out, along with an Adderall addiction. Hated to give up a fine piece of arse, but needed to cut bait for my own sanity. She is out there riding the cock train and will until she hits the wall. As nice of a trophy as she was, she wasn't worth my piece of mind.

I actually ditched off another relationship who got drunk and called me one night wanting to know "why her pussy was not good enough for me?". Not sure where the question came from, as she actually had a pretty nice puss. However, once I finally got her marital history out of her (five marriages), it was time to cut bait.

Just recently, I met this girl who I went out with. It got evident that she wasn't who she said she was, and since she insisted on coming in separate vehicles, I insisted on her carrying her arse home. Thereafter, I finished enjoying my dinner in piece and went to have a few drinks and watch a good band.

Then, you run into those who are mature, know what they want, and know how to behave. Overall, they are comfortable to be with. The two of us will be seeing each other again, and hopefully more than just that.

I am well over 50, which is ancient by the standards of most folks posting to this board. However, my point is that sometimes you have to go through a few in order to find someone decent. When you do, it's worth it.

P.S. The person who indicated that having a baby would not help but instead complicate a relationship is right. It might be a nice romantic notion, but if you are having problems before, the added stress of a baby is only going to make things worse. A baby is a lot of personal and financial responsibility. Getting up at all hours of the night, trying to figure out what the baby is crying for (which sometimes is not as easy as it seems), arguing whose turn it is to get out of bed and check on the kid when they are crying (bottle feeding, diaper changes, etc.) can definitely add stress to a relationship, and if the relationship is not that solid in the first place, it generally won't be good. That baby is not going to be a baby forever. One day it will turn into an adolescent and things can really get interesting then.

I helped raise two children and wouldn't trade them for the world. Even though my ex and I are now divorced, things were ok back when those kids came into the world. Even so, it still puts a degree of emotional stress on a relationship, and I have seen otherwise ok relationships go bad over less. The responsibility for the kids doesn't end once they are 18. You never stop being a parent although the roles will change over time.

But back to the original problem: Tell the girl your concerns about her behavior from the other night, how it made you feel, and that both of you will be better off WITHOUT each other, and then cut the rope. If she wants to hurt or kill herself, that's her happy arse. The guy can notify one of her family members via text a few minutes before doing the deed, and then text them once it's over, and they can keep an eye on her. If the girl REALLY wants to kill herself, she will find a way no matter what. If she is wanting to use this to induce guilt, then she might pull some shite and there is a possibility that she might accidently kill herself or just wind up in the hospital because the efforts weren't successful, but successful enough to warrant hospitalization. Any way you look at it, you do what you have to do and don't look back.

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let the random dude fondle her breasts and arse

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while he was there

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He didn't leave her at the party

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well imagine what would happen if he left

Stay out of it. This is not a 16 year old! If he is not strong enough to handle this situation then he will just get into another situation just like this one.

Some people are addicted to disaster.

P.S. See the Samuel L. Jackson character in "Changing Lanes" with Ben Affleck.

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He is worried she will try to commit suicide if they break up

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She'll fall neatly into one of these categories: LINK And she thinks she's so clever and original...

Note: This forum use to be very useful - where people like your friend could trade notes with fellow "victims" and figure out what's really going on - but the moderators really fricked it up when they shifted the focus to those afflicted with the disorders. Sad... it's as if they gave the foxes the keys to the hen house. You still might find it useful.

So she lets some random dude feel her up, but is worried that she would kill herself if he left?

Sounds to me like he needs to encourage her to be with said random dude and let her be his problem.