re: Need advice from fathers of older sons

I guess you either have that in your family or you don't, the work ethic, this world is full of winners and losers. You show your kids you are watching them and love them it'll work out.

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I remember this pastor who spent a lot of times at hospitals with families when the fathers were on their dying beds. He told me that he had never once been with children with their father that were crying and telling their father they wished he had earned more money, bought them nicer things, had a bigger home, etc. They always talked about the time they spent together. I always think about that.

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Yup

Nobody ever regrets not working enough

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I father's job is to be a provider.

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A father's job is way more than just that.

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A fathers job is to be a provider

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But

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My son is 17 and I missed half his life

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You haven't provided shite bra.

I'm pretty sure no one is saying to give in to the "whims" of a four year old child. Those of you who quoted my "He's telling you what to do," and followed it with something asinine ... are asinine. And too fricking literal.

Bring your work home if you can. I'm usually home by 6. Spend as much time with my kids (one of which is a 4 yr. old boy) and then spend a few hours on the computer after everyone is asleep. Take one day a week to leave at 5 and coach his soccer team.
I don't feel the need to change my routine. He complains from time to time, especially when I travel, but he and his sister are expensive. Plus, if dads on here want to talk about the lasting effects, how about that he understands the value of hard work.

yes there is such a thing as to much work but he needs to learn good work ethics. most of the younger guys we hire have no work ethics or dedication to work.

and make the most of your time. if you don't have quantity give quality

If I have extra work to do I go early in the morning while they're sleeping.

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Take one day a week to leave at 5

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If I'm still in the office at 5 something is wrong

kids these days don't even play to win, they get "participation" tropheys and now they have to play with their dad all the time? wtf, this country is going to shite.

Nobody ever said they wished they would have worked more before they died. My grandpa had to work a ton just to feed his family and maybe take a vacation every few years. He told me he wish he had more time off just to enjoy his family at home. He missed meals, games, plays, etc to work as a necessity. But if you aren't about to go broke and you have young kids, you shouldn't ever work too much. I work no more than 40 hours a week and I tell my boss I pick up my kids every day. It has never affected me on promotions or raises and the people above me with families actually respect it more. Your family will be there long after your job ends. I wouldn't die for my company but I would for my family. There is no reason I should ever work late to sacrifice the time I get with them. People who do either hate their life or only value money.