re: Man rejects 2nd Tinder date due to woman size. Meltdown ensues.

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She's not that bad

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She's like a 1.5. Maybe a 2.

Reminds me of one of those chicks on lower Decatur who aspires to sell her art in the same area.

But doesn't have a layer of topsoil on her skin.

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She's not that bad, but if the guy's not attracted to you then he's not attracted to you. The only mistake he made was he was honest.

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She's got on the trademark FUPA bathing suit. She's pretty bad bro.

I suspect she's a histrionic handful based on that stupid pose, the ridiculous hair and loud makeup. He should have just told her thanks but no thanks to a second date.

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He could have just not said anything...It is kinda sociopathic to feel the need to tell someone all that after one date.

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Two true stories from the dating world:

Both are first dates after meeting online.

First one is a French girl. Great conversation, smart, down to earth type. But I wasn't that physically attracted to her. In particular, her teeth were kind of jacked up. Like, she had a gray tooth in the front. Ick.

I promise you... it probably would have worked if her teeth were in good shape. But I couldn't handle it, man. So I just didn't say anything and I tried to avoid her... give her the ol' soft shove away. But the girl just kept after me, week after week, and couldn't figure out why I didn't want to do anything with her. I'm really not proud of the way I handled this. I think I made a mistake in not being honest with her up front, but I was afraid of telling her that there was something physically wrong with her that I didn't like. So which is crueler? Telling her the truth or dragging it out? Those who say the truth... it's not always as easy as it sounds. But I think that was the better thing to do.

Second first date - real cute blonde physical therapist. Funny, good conversationalist, I enjoyed her company. I was attracted to her. I thought the date went really well. I asked her out again. She says, no, I just don't think we're a good fit. I was surprised, but, I guess she had her reasons. I'll never know what they were. But it doesn't matter. I think she handled me better than I handled the French girl. She was more mature about letting me know it wasn't a good match... and I was more mature about not making a big deal out of it and moving on.

I learned from those experiences, and that's that.

I just don't get people who take to the internet to vent their rage over someone who DARED to reject them because of something they didn't like. I've been rejected dozens of times in my life, sometimes by people I really cared about. But every rejection and failed date brings you one step closer to who you are supposed to be with. And that's where I am now. That's just the way you have to view it.

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Another said that Thomas' anger was misguided. "He didn't shame you for being fat, all he said was he wasn't attracted to fat women," he wrote.

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