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Posted on 3/18/24 at 9:23 pm to jscrims
there isn't a damn thing you can do. What hell on earth it must be to lose a child.
Posted on 3/18/24 at 9:31 pm to jscrims
There is nothing that you can really say, honestly. Just be there for him and let him vent. What he talks about, you talk about. If he doesn't, you don't.
Posted on 3/18/24 at 9:33 pm to Cosmo
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Only time will fix it
The biggest myth out there..... Time don't fix it.
The pain lessens over time but will ALWAYS be there.
It never gets fixed and you learn to live with the pain.
Posted on 3/18/24 at 10:00 pm to jscrims
This exact thing happened to me four years ago except my 22 year old son died instantly. So I speak from experience when I say just being there is the first thing to do. They will remember that you showed up in their time of greatest need. Truly, nothing has to be said but words do matter. If you can say anything about the son, by all means, do it. At least from my experience talking about my son helped. I don’t even mind talking about details of the wreck. Just anything that tells them you’re thinking about the son that died. I’ve heard the “I know how you feel” and that’s probably not the best thing to say. Be there. Listen. Talk. Share pictures. Cook or bring food. Mow their grass. Clean their car for the funeral. Literally do these things. They won’t forget it and you won’t regret it. And remember, talk about the son. Remembering him because of his life is better than ignoring him because of his death. I wasn’t trying to make this about me I was just speaking from experience. God bless this family and their friends.
Posted on 3/18/24 at 10:04 pm to JoBo68
Im sorry your family has had to..and Im still are dealing with tragedy
Posted on 3/18/24 at 10:24 pm to jscrims
Just be there for them...your words do not mean anything
Posted on 3/18/24 at 10:27 pm to Postalhitman
As sad as it sounds
So sorry
So sorry
Posted on 3/18/24 at 10:35 pm to jscrims
Offer to help with any needs they might have. One thing that helped a lot when my family experienced a loss was a neighbor who volunteered to go to the airport and pick up family members who were flying in for the funeral.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 1:23 am to jscrims
I used to worry about what to say in these situations but the best advice was given to me in 2007 when my stepdad of over 25yrs died in a wreck at 52yrs old. A lady came up to me at the wake and said, “It’s not true that time heals the pain but I can tell you that time does dull the jagged edges.”
I’ve never forgotten what she said to me. It was the raw truth and she was so right.
I’ve never forgotten what she said to me. It was the raw truth and she was so right.
This post was edited on 3/19/24 at 1:25 am
Posted on 3/19/24 at 7:03 am to JoBo68
Remembering him because of his life is better than ignoring him because of his death
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This is so well said. We do okay as a society talking about those who’ve passed after a long life, but are not good about talking about those who pass too soon. It’s hard and sometimes awkward but talking about our children, wives, husbands and others who have passed is so important to grieving and honoring their legacy.
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This is so well said. We do okay as a society talking about those who’ve passed after a long life, but are not good about talking about those who pass too soon. It’s hard and sometimes awkward but talking about our children, wives, husbands and others who have passed is so important to grieving and honoring their legacy.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 7:25 am to jscrims
I saw a sign at Texas Roadhouse that said “any time is the perfect occasion for a Texas Roadhouse gift card”. So maybe you could get him a Texas Roadhouse gift card?
This post was edited on 3/19/24 at 7:26 am
Posted on 3/19/24 at 7:47 am to jscrims
When I was a sophomore in HS I had a classmate die in a boating accident. He lived in my neighborhood. I knew him and his parents well. At the funeral I just walked up to his mom and dad and hugged them and said, “there is nothing I can say except that I am going to miss him”. There isn’t some magical thing you can say. You can’t possibly know what they are feeling. Some on here can, I’m sure, and that’s a different take on what to say. But just saying how it affects you is the most honest thing you can say, IMO. Even if you didn’t know the kid. Sad situation though. Hate to hear it.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 8:08 am to Screaming Viking
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I buried my roommate at LSU almost 30 years ago. to this day it is odd any time i see or visit his parents or his sister.
Was it Kipp? If so, we might know each other.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:18 pm to SouthEndzoneTiger
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Was it Kipp? If so, we might know each other.
no sir. sorry you had this experience. my buddy passed on July 3rd, 1998. 11 days before his 24th birthday.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 1:24 pm to slinger1317
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I know I'm an a-hole but why in the world people bring shite like this to a public forum always baffles me
Only way you can get advice from other people or gain knowledge from the experiences of other people is to talk to them.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 2:40 pm to Roll Tide Ravens
Just don't tell him your son Bo died in an auto wreck while serving in WW2 while battling the north Vietnamese, it comes accross as disingenuous.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 2:53 pm to jscrims
No question, the most devestating loss a person can endure - the loss of a child.
Prayers for your friends.
Prayers for your friends.
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