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re: Divorced Dads of the OT who don’t raise their kids
Posted on 10/23/17 at 11:56 am to FLBooGoTigs1
Posted on 10/23/17 at 11:56 am to FLBooGoTigs1
I am dealing with this with not only my kids but also my wife's youngest daughter. My ex-wife cheated with her ex-bf from high school, we split up. She won't even let them mention my name or my wife's at her house (can't even sit in their vehicles because their mother owns them). My wife and I on the other hand, always listen to them when they bring up their mother and step-dad (same guy she cheated with). My girls know I am there for them, they are seeing how their mother really is. As far as my step daughter now, her dad has been very inconsistent, to the point now that he has told her he is done with her because she doesn't want to go to his house. He packed all her things up, put it trash bags and left it on his front porch for her to pick up. We are going back to court to change the custody from a week with us and a week with him. She has begged for his attention in the past but he has been to busy with all the women he brings over to his place. I feel sorry for her, it isn't hard to care about your child...
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Posted on 10/23/17 at 11:59 am to DemonKA3268
quote:pics?
My girls
Nothing like some daddy issues to boot.
Posted on 10/23/17 at 12:03 pm to djangochained
My ex wife bailed and the left the kid with me, because I had made it very clear to her early on that with my training in criminal forensics I could easily make a body disappear.
Posted on 10/23/17 at 12:05 pm to SuperSaint
Supersaint,
Yeah, that's not going to happen. As far as the daddy issues, it is tough for her, no doubt.
Yeah, that's not going to happen. As far as the daddy issues, it is tough for her, no doubt.
This post was edited on 10/23/17 at 12:07 pm
Posted on 10/23/17 at 12:07 pm to SuperSaint
SS I don't believe this is your area of expertise 
Posted on 10/23/17 at 12:13 pm to DemonKA3268
Sounds like you are doing the right thing. Kids are smart and they figure it out real quick. Far as your step daughter and her dad sounds like a POS I talked about earlier just do your part a be a ear for your step daughter if she wants to talk to you. Down the road she may thank you for it.Good luck 
Posted on 10/23/17 at 12:16 pm to djangochained
I'm divorced and pay 2K a month CS. As much as I love my kids, my job would not allow me 50/50 custody due to the fact that I work all over the country.
Posted on 10/23/17 at 12:20 pm to djangochained
quote:What if your soon to be ex wife would make sure she got custody by any means necessary?
nah, i would make sure i got custody by any means necessary
Posted on 10/23/17 at 1:12 pm to FLBooGoTigs1
FLBooGoTigs1,Thank you, That's what I am trying to do, I hate seeing the pain she is going through. We have developed a better relationship now because she sees that I am there for her and her mother.
Posted on 10/23/17 at 1:26 pm to Lou
quote:
50/50 chance you will eventually eat those words.
My daughter calls me Daddy even though she lives with her mother. I really don't care what anyone else calls me.
Make sure you defend single Mothers or children born out of wedlock when the self righteous come bashing.
Many kids born out of wedlock have both parents in the home unlike the formerly married. And just because the father isn't in the home doesn't mean he's completely out of a kids lives.
Posted on 10/23/17 at 1:40 pm to djangochained
I know divorces get ugly, but if I had kids and got a divorce, I think I would try to do what I can to work out the situation with the kids so that the courts do not have to decide.
Just seeing divorced couples and the problems they have with custody. Especially if the parent (usually the dad) works shift work.. One particular situation, the dad works shift work so he gets the kids on his days off. So in the middle of the week the kids have to go from one parent's house to the others for two or three nights.
Then there are times when he will suddenly work overtime so instead of going over for two nights, the kids will go stay with him for one night, which is pretty much them going to his house after school, wake up, go to school then have to go back to their mom's.
The dad also makes a big deal about how when he works nights , he needs a day to himself
If the parents didn't divorce, he wouldn't just get "days to himself". If anything I would hope to be able to work that part of the divorce peacefully because I would want to do it in away that's best for the kids. I wouldn't want to have to uproot their lives during the week or have them miss out on activities just because they have to go to the other parent's house, etc.
If it was up to me, I would try to stay together until they graduate HS. We can have separate lives, but not in front of the kids.. Just for their sake. It's the responsible thing to do.
Just seeing divorced couples and the problems they have with custody. Especially if the parent (usually the dad) works shift work.. One particular situation, the dad works shift work so he gets the kids on his days off. So in the middle of the week the kids have to go from one parent's house to the others for two or three nights.
Then there are times when he will suddenly work overtime so instead of going over for two nights, the kids will go stay with him for one night, which is pretty much them going to his house after school, wake up, go to school then have to go back to their mom's.
The dad also makes a big deal about how when he works nights , he needs a day to himself
If the parents didn't divorce, he wouldn't just get "days to himself". If anything I would hope to be able to work that part of the divorce peacefully because I would want to do it in away that's best for the kids. I wouldn't want to have to uproot their lives during the week or have them miss out on activities just because they have to go to the other parent's house, etc.
If it was up to me, I would try to stay together until they graduate HS. We can have separate lives, but not in front of the kids.. Just for their sake. It's the responsible thing to do.
Posted on 10/23/17 at 1:43 pm to OweO
:LongStoryShort:
Posted on 10/23/17 at 1:47 pm to Steadyhands
yeah, I do not live with my oldest but do have 50/50 which is the best I can do. It's not easy that's for sure but I also cant change it sadly. Had to fight like hell just to get = split time(still pay plenty). I do agree, idk how some dads let a relationship ending/end their relationship with their kids. I cant even fathom how and i'll never understand it.
Posted on 10/23/17 at 1:50 pm to djangochained
I wonder how many of the guys who like to constantly shite on black men's parenting habits are divorced
Glass houses, y'allllll
Glass houses, y'allllll
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