re: Divorce Experience

Very important to change any of your passwords that your wife may know of. As far as Facebook, Instagram, TikTok…. Shut it down and stay off social media. Anything posted on social media can be used against you in court. Go into the courtroom with both barrels firing. It’s a war.
Hopefully you will change your mind and get back together.

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Most men are self-centered children, and any ruling short of them being able to walk away consequence-free is “being bent over”.

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So you disagree that in most states, divorce courts lean heavily toward the mother? Interesting. You should probably crawl out from under that rock.

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A lot of these stories are BS. Most men are self-centered children, and any ruling short of them being able to walk away consequence-free is “being bent over”.

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It cost me 25K in legal and PI fees to get custody of my daughter from my whore ex wife who left an 8 yr old at home for 12 hrs. frick off with your BS stories.

Buddy of mine had his wife leave him 2 days after Christmas with a 2 and 4 yr old at home because she didn’t want to be married anymore. Left her kids and husband for some younger dick. He owns his own business so she was a stay at home mom. Lawyer has already told him he is going to get raked. Again frick off with your BS stories.

Many good fathers and husbands get destroyed financially and emotionally by women who think the grass is greener.

Courts incentivize women to leave marriages. It’s all by design.

Best you can do is stay with her as long as possible before involving courts. If that is completely out of the question, just hope for shared custody.

Expect to be royally screwed over by the state. They will take your money because the state makes money if they collect your child support through what’s called “support enforcement” and Title IV D funding from the fed. wherein they start fleecing it straight from your payroll. $.29¢ for every dollar that they spend collecting child support goes to state coffers to fund the big fancy courthouses and in some cases the family court judge’s retirement funds. They be rakin’ in dat doe bro.

They will scrutinize everything in your life to find something, anything that can remotely be construed as a reason to take the majority of time away from you and give the kids to mom. (So they can hit that payroll for more $$$ from the fed (title IV D at the end of the year.) Hope that you get Worksheet B when they decide to calculate how much the state gets to take from you.

If you get a gf in the future, expect baby mama to immediately flare up with petty and juvenile behavior, refusing to allow you phone calls with your child and vice versa. Also, expect very little accountability for your baby mama for any said petty behaviors. You’ll just have to eat a ton of lil bitty shite sandwiches over years. It just flares up much worse if you are dating someone, due to baby mama insecurity. It doesn’t matter how polite your new gf will be, how good of a person she is. She could be mother theresa with kindness and the baby mama will make her a villain due to insecurities or whatever.

Also, family court does not punish people for perjury. It’s known as a Perjury Palace because of all the lying that goes on without consequence. My advice: document everything. It’s a royal pain in the arse to have to document and record everything. Just do it. It is your only hope.

Try to make a deal between the attorneys for 50/50 custody and both of you parents need to try to agree where your kids will attend school and get it in writing. Otherwise baby mama gonna have your kids dragged all over the place as she meets new men to shack up and live off of, all while collecting your child support. Try to keep it from going to a trial. Trial puts it in the judge’s hands and you don’t want to risk that. Try to make a deal with opposing counsel if at all possible.

Do NOT EVER trust an attorney. Not even your own. Verify everything that say. All attorneys around Louisiana know each other very well and they’re drinking beer and bbqing when not in court. Don’t have the mentality that they really dislike each other. They really don’t. They’re all cut from the same cloth. Often they will make a phone call and shoot the shite with opposing counsel and the two attorneys will imagine some deal and then encourage each other to convince you of what they decide is best for them, but not you. Question everything your own attorney tells you. He is not your friend. He is an instrument. Repeat he is NOT your pal. He’ll speak to you as if he is, as long as you are paying him/her. You need to scrutinize and question everything he tells you. Attorneys are trying to create billable hours. Judges are trying to move cases off their dockets quickly. (the more cases moved through the court the more $$$ from the fed)

You’re really screwed with the deck stacked against you. It’s all a big shite show and I can go on and on about the different ways children get screwed.

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If a divorce happens years later the man should have to fill the gap between what she can make and what she might have been able to make had she stayed in the workforce.

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Why? It's not like that in some other countries. If the nature of the contract is changed, then the benefits of that contract should change.

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If a divorce happens years later the man should have to fill the gap between what she can make and what she might have been able to make had she stayed in the workforce.

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You know, the ceiling on "shite I might have been able to do had I not met my first wife" is pretty limitless.

My wife and I get along okay, but the sex has dried up and we're really more like roommates at this point. There's no way I'll file for a divorce though, because I know how it will end and I don't want to give her half of my money to only get to see my kids every other weekend.

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When the decision is made for the woman to stay at home with the children, her earnings trajectory starts changing. If a divorce happens years later the man should have to fill the gap between what she can make and what she might have been able to make had she stayed in the workforce.

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bullshite, the woman gets to make a decision and the man has to pay for it?