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Death of a spouse or unwanted divorce???
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:29 pm
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:29 pm
Which one is harder to deal, cope with and move on from? I've always heard that losing a spouse is one of the hardest things to cope with, but seems like it'd be easier to accept than having your spouse blindside you by walking out on you one day.
What says the OT?
What says the OT?
This post was edited on 7/7/16 at 1:32 pm
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Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:30 pm to BabyTac
Kind of a morbid choice. What brings this up?
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:30 pm to BabyTac
quote:
unwanted divorce
for husbands with kids is hardest.
death you just go new mommy shopping.
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:30 pm to BabyTac
Death is always harder. How is this even a question?
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:31 pm to BabyTac
Unwanted divorce. You don't lose half your stuff to, fight for custod with, or pay alimony to a dead spouse.
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:32 pm to BabyTac
I imagine catching your wife in the act with a BBC would be devastating
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:34 pm to BabyTac
Are you contemplating murdering your wife before the divorce?
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:35 pm to BabyTac
I would imagine that anyone who has been through either, probably thinks the other would be better.
To get a real answer to this you're gonna have to find some poor bastard who's done it both ways. Any divorced widows on here?
To get a real answer to this you're gonna have to find some poor bastard who's done it both ways. Any divorced widows on here?
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:36 pm to BabyTac
Death
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/thread
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:37 pm to LucasP
quote:
I would imagine that anyone who has been through either, probably thinks the other would be better.
To get a real answer to this you're gonna have to find some poor bastard who's done it both ways. Any divorced widows on here?
Generally, divorce sucks and is a giant pain in the arse but people move on. I've seen men and women completely shut down after the death of their spouse.
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:38 pm to MightyYat
quote:
Generally, divorce sucks and is a giant pain in the arse but people move on. I've seen men and women completely shut down after the death of their spouse.
I would imagine that most guys going through a shitty divorce wish they would become widowers
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:39 pm to MightyYat
quote:
've seen men and women completely shut down after the death of their spouse.
See I don't think I would have this problem. Pretty sure I'd bounce back pretty quick.
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:43 pm to MightyYat
quote:I'm confident the stats are about even. Add to that how many men have killed their wives over divorce. I vote unwanted divorce.
I've seen men and women completely shut down after the death of their spouse.
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:47 pm to BabyTac
I'd say it's subjective, but I dealt with a very difficult divorce and I think it would have been harder for my ex-wife to have died at any point when our marriage was still happy. I was able to cope with the divorce by realizing that our relationship wasn't as good as I thought it had been, that I would ultimately be happier in the future when it was over, etc.
But if she had suddenly died while the marriage was going well, I think it would have been much harder to cope with, because I wouldn't have been able to rationalize it as being a good thing in the long run.
But if she died after the marriage fell apart but before the divorce was final, that wouldn't have been so bad. Sounds fricked up, maybe, but I wouldn't have had to pay alimony. (And we never had kids so there would be no traumatized child).
But if she had suddenly died while the marriage was going well, I think it would have been much harder to cope with, because I wouldn't have been able to rationalize it as being a good thing in the long run.
But if she died after the marriage fell apart but before the divorce was final, that wouldn't have been so bad. Sounds fricked up, maybe, but I wouldn't have had to pay alimony. (And we never had kids so there would be no traumatized child).
This post was edited on 7/7/16 at 1:48 pm
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:50 pm to Chad504boy
Speaking as a widower, they are both awful. Who cares which is worse.
Yep, just like going shopping! You are a fricking idiot.
quote:
unwanted divorce
for husbands with kids is hardest.
death you just go new mommy shopping.
Yep, just like going shopping! You are a fricking idiot.
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:51 pm to TheDude
quote:
You are a fricking idiot.
Why you judging me, you don't know me.
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:52 pm to Chad504boy
I know enough about you. Almost nothing, but enough.
This post was edited on 7/7/16 at 1:53 pm
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:52 pm to TheDude
quote:
Yep, just like going shopping!
there's a major for women in college for this, no?
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:53 pm to TheDude
hate the thread; don't hate the replier.
Posted on 7/7/16 at 1:53 pm to BabyTac
Death because then I wouldn't have to split shite in the divorce or pay spousal support.
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