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re: Anyone here have any transgendered friends?
Posted on 1/31/15 at 9:50 am to OWLFAN86
Posted on 1/31/15 at 9:50 am to OWLFAN86
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if someone is your friend and have been for most of your life you don't stop being their friend because they are changing .
So why should one stop being someone's friend if not because that person is changing? Are you still close to all your friends from childhood? If one of your friends from childhood or college or whatever started becoming more douchebaggy (yeah, it's a word), you couldn't see yourself drifting apart?
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Posted on 1/31/15 at 10:03 am to twoliter
It's a valid point. I mean, I would likely try and maintain the friendship, but this is big stuff. If you became best friends with a straight guy or a guy at all, and you later learn he's gay or he's becoming a woman, that may or may not be the same person you were friends with.
Obviously if a friend told you he was gay and continued to be largely the same, then it doesn't make sense that it'd have to screw up the friendship. But if his life becomes about "being gay" (gay bars, restaurants, friends, etc) that's a huge thing you don't have in common.
I've seen it happen a few times with families, where a guy's sister or other family member really struggles with it. Some people would probably criticize it for her, but people grow up envisioning something, like having a sister in law, and then it doesn't happen. It's a big thing and while certainly not the fault of the person coming out, I can't blame the person struggling with the adjustment either.
Obviously if a friend told you he was gay and continued to be largely the same, then it doesn't make sense that it'd have to screw up the friendship. But if his life becomes about "being gay" (gay bars, restaurants, friends, etc) that's a huge thing you don't have in common.
I've seen it happen a few times with families, where a guy's sister or other family member really struggles with it. Some people would probably criticize it for her, but people grow up envisioning something, like having a sister in law, and then it doesn't happen. It's a big thing and while certainly not the fault of the person coming out, I can't blame the person struggling with the adjustment either.
Posted on 1/31/15 at 10:04 am to Pettifogger
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But there is just so much subjectivity
The issue is that there isn't any subjectivity with respect to gender. It's just patently absurd that people are upvoting these imbeciles posting bullshite attempting to legitimize this practice.
Posted on 1/31/15 at 10:27 am to Pettifogger
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It's a valid point. I mean, I would likely try and maintain the friendship, but this is big stuff. If you became best friends with a straight guy or a guy at all, and you later learn he's gay or he's becoming a woman, that may or may not be the same person you were friends with.
Yep..changing is normal and usually not a big deal, changing how you look, act, where you go, who you associate with is a big deal.
Posted on 1/31/15 at 10:37 am to twoliter
quote:drifting apart and to cease the friendship are two different things.
you couldn't see yourself drifting apart?
Can you not understand that we are discussing the later and not the former?
Posted on 1/31/15 at 12:02 pm to OWLFAN86
I can definitely see myself drifting away.
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