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re: Anyone else had this problem after first child born?
Posted on 6/1/14 at 11:06 am to nolatrain504
Posted on 6/1/14 at 11:06 am to nolatrain504
How old are yall? Who really knows what's going through her mind, could be depression of being labelled a mother, could be overprotection of the baby, could be depressed about her appearance (gained weight).
you need to step up and create activities. Say, you're going to the park for a picnic with Junior. If she refuses to go, insist that you will take junior by yourself. See if she stays home alone or will go with you.
I don't know what your places to go were, perhaps thet aren't baby appropriate, but if they are, go there for an afternoon with Junior.
you need to step up and create activities. Say, you're going to the park for a picnic with Junior. If she refuses to go, insist that you will take junior by yourself. See if she stays home alone or will go with you.
I don't know what your places to go were, perhaps thet aren't baby appropriate, but if they are, go there for an afternoon with Junior.
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Posted on 6/1/14 at 11:22 am to nolatrain504
Got kids a little older and she was never like that. I suggest a vacation. One with and one without kids.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 12:12 pm to nolatrain504
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Any advise?
Make your own plans and invite her along. She's bound to accept one or two invitations.
Another poster had a good idea with hiring a babysitter so she basically can't refuse.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 12:19 pm to AtlantaLSUfan
A friend of mine back home is waiting for his wife to move past that phase as well. His daughter is now fifteen...
Posted on 6/1/14 at 12:21 pm to greystreettoker
Don't tell me that lol
Posted on 6/1/14 at 12:32 pm to nolatrain504
It could be PPD, also some first-time mothers think that little Janie or Johnnie couldn't survive one day or one hour without specifically their own mother's constant hoverage. A good mother's consciousness never forgets she has children out in the world. I liken it to a program on a computer that's always running in the background. Sexist Alert: Good fathers can "forget" they have children for whole work days at a time. Good mothers always have the mother program on and up.
Good luck, your problem was a "her" problem that's now a "y'all" problem.
Good luck, your problem was a "her" problem that's now a "y'all" problem.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 12:36 pm to nolatrain504
Once women have children they forget that they had a life before. They lose their entire identity. It will come back when they start high school or so.
Just do work around the house or suggest y'all all go do something together.
Or cheat and get a divorce. Your move chief.
Just do work around the house or suggest y'all all go do something together.
Or cheat and get a divorce. Your move chief.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 12:37 pm to nolatrain504
Just tell her what plans you have and make sure she knows she's included....if she opts out, so be it. Grasp the freedom to hunt. fish, ballgame, etc without her....Handle our shite and help her around the house, but when it's time to relax and she decides to sit home, have fun.
And Im telling you this NOT condoning you going to bars and crap like that.
And Im telling you this NOT condoning you going to bars and crap like that.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 12:39 pm to nolatrain504
That happened for a bit.
Start doing things without her. Not like going clubbing and shite. Go play golf. Go fish. Whatever you like to do. Tell her how much fun you're having and that you wish she was having fun w you.
Different women respond to different things so you've just got to figure it out and solve the problem. People change in marriage. Y'all have to grow together.
Start doing things without her. Not like going clubbing and shite. Go play golf. Go fish. Whatever you like to do. Tell her how much fun you're having and that you wish she was having fun w you.
Different women respond to different things so you've just got to figure it out and solve the problem. People change in marriage. Y'all have to grow together.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 1:39 pm to loopback
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PPD 17 months later?
I have a 18 month old and wife needs to take progesterone cream to get hormones balanced. Dr told her to start taking back in January and she is finally going to take it this week. Stubborn woman.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 1:41 pm to nolatrain504
Suck it up. It's called having a wife and kid.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 2:37 pm to nolatrain504
A.) Help out a bit more around the house.
B.) Set up a date night every week or two, complete with baby sitter. The first few might not last that long as she will be a bit wary of being away from her baby. However, as you do more of these, the times will lengthen. When you have her to yourself, make her feel like the most important person in the world.
C.) If the above don't work, she may need to see the doc.
D.) If A, B, and C fail, you are either going to have to cope with things as they are or get out. Warning: "getting out" is going to cost a lot of money i.e., child support and with the kid being so young .. alimony. Get used to sleeping under bridges and eating out of garbage cans.
Good luck to you.
B.) Set up a date night every week or two, complete with baby sitter. The first few might not last that long as she will be a bit wary of being away from her baby. However, as you do more of these, the times will lengthen. When you have her to yourself, make her feel like the most important person in the world.
C.) If the above don't work, she may need to see the doc.
D.) If A, B, and C fail, you are either going to have to cope with things as they are or get out. Warning: "getting out" is going to cost a lot of money i.e., child support and with the kid being so young .. alimony. Get used to sleeping under bridges and eating out of garbage cans.
Good luck to you.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 2:52 pm to nolatrain504
Buy a boat.
Problem solved.
Problem solved.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 4:14 pm to damnedoldtigah
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A.) Help out a bit more around the house. B.) Set up a date night every week or two, complete with baby sitter. The first few might not last that long as she will be a bit wary of being away from her baby. However, as you do more of these, the times will lengthen. When you have her to yourself, make her feel like the most important person in the world. C.) If the above don't work, she may need to see the doc.
These are all good ideas.
OP....didn't read all the responses...but does she ever get time for just herself?
Maybe offer to take the baby and insist she go out for some time to herself. Get one of her friends to take her shopping or to lunch or for mani/pedis together. Let her have some time to feel like a woman again, instead of just a mom.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 4:37 pm to lsunurse
Nurse telling him to let her stray 
Back to nights this weekend
Back to nights this weekend
Posted on 6/1/14 at 4:38 pm to nolatrain504
Travel ball will give you an outlet for all your time and money.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 4:40 pm to FLBooGoTigs1
Am not. Just saying....he should give her some time to herself. I'm sure that is something any new mom would greatly appreciate. Watch the baby while she shops or gets her hair done. She'll feel more like a woman for a moment.
She'll feel prettier, more confident, refreshed.
More willing to get out of the house more maybe? For date nights with her husband where she gets tipsy on wine and he gets lucky that night.
Trying to help the OP
Posted on 6/1/14 at 4:40 pm to Jim Rockford
If it don't work out for OP some travel ball moms are 
Posted on 6/1/14 at 4:48 pm to lsunurse
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refreshed
Oh is that what they call it in Az.
Nurse I am out have a good nite.
Posted on 6/1/14 at 8:11 pm to lsunurse
In addition to what I posted, Nurse's suggestions are legit. Giving her the opportunity to be a woman once again instead of a mom would be quite beneficial.
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