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re: My girlfriend tried to kill herself
Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:22 am to Zlatan
Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:22 am to Zlatan
quote:
Well, it's been just over 3 months since the darkest day of my life. I'm posting for all you BAWS that prayed for us and wondered what ever happened here.
My girlfriend is the one who attempted suicide back in June, and I had no idea what to do with my life when it happened. If anyone would like the original thread, you can go here to find it. It will tell you a little backstory.
A LOT has happened since that day. A tremendous amount of highs and a shite ton of lows.. It's been hard dealing with the aftermath. Adding in the pressure of school on top of that, Lord it's been a wild ride lol. Anyways, not a lot of major stuff has happened since then, but I'll fill y'all in if you'd like.
So flash forward to today.. we had been doing a lot better, to be totally honest. We were in love and I was watching out for her as best I could, to make sure she doesn't slip back in to depression. Things were great, honestly. We had mind-blowing sex yesterday and everything was looking up
Hell tbh, our sex life has been fricking incredible this last month or so
But today I get a text message from her that says her ex bf has been messaging her. He comes in saying "I'm sorry" and all that bullshite, just trying to win her back because he found out I fricked. I know that sounds childish, but it's the truth. She was a virgin and he only wants her so he can get laid.
Well, he is the reason she slipped into depression the very first time. He left her and broke her heart, to where she had attempted suicide before (before I was in the picture). Now she believes that he is here and won't do anything like that again, that he isn't going to cheat on her and ruin her again.
So.. flash forward to tonight. I met her after she got off of work and told her "Look: you either want to be with me or you want to be with him. I'm not going to keep doing this bullshite anymore with you of 'me or your ex'."
I told her that I loved her, and really just told it to her from the heart. I let out some things I've been holding in since her suicide attempt and she really got the message that I was really hurt.
So, she told me she was afraid. She said she's afraid of losing me, she's afraid that I'm going to leave her, her ex is going to be the same piece of shite he was before, and that she'll try to come back to me but I will not be there. She's worried she will slip back into that dark hole and this time no one will be there, that she will be scared and all alone and end up killing herself.
I told her that I'd always be there for her, that I wanted to make her my wife ffs, I'm not leaving. But you HAVE to tell him to frick off in order for me to stay..
I just found out she's talking to him AGAIN tonight. She's falling for his lies and bullshite all over again..
So I picked myself up, told myself that this girl will always be someone special to me, someone I will always love, but I had to do what is best for me. So I left her.
It was one of the toughest decisions and subsequent conversations I've ever made.
Leaving the girl you love? Tough shite boys.
What do y'all think I oughta do? I think I'm going to call her mom tomorrow, and tell her to watch her really carefully.. I'm so afraid of what might happen to her right now but I feel like I had to do what is best for my own future. Did I make the wrong decision fellas? Should I have given her another chance? I love this girl but I think that I made the right decision. My heart is heavy right now thinking of all the good times we shared together, but I believe that until she can figure out what she wants it's best for me to have left.
a lot of y'all said I should've left her in the OP back in June, do y'all now think my choice was the right one?
Oh and PS fellers: SHE AINT PREGNANT!!!
Now I don't have to worry about that "I missed" text after we've broken up.
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Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:22 am to Kafka
Thank you for posting this here.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:24 am to Kafka
OP is a goldennugget alter
Posted on 9/23/17 at 5:50 am to Kafka
Chalk her up to the game and keep moving. She was never yours you were just KEEPING her warm til a bad boy showed up. What happens now isn't your problem. She made her choice. Don't try to save her anymore. She doesn't want that. She wants drama.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 6:20 am to Kafka
Yeah, not trying to be harsh but fly little birdie fly.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 7:32 am to Kafka
Ex coming back was the best thing that coulda happened to ole baw.
If she's that messed up now can you even imagine married with small children?
If she's that messed up now can you even imagine married with small children?
Posted on 9/23/17 at 7:32 am to Kafka
Congrats on the sex.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 7:58 am to Kafka
This is your out. Take it and run.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 8:05 am to Kafka
quote:
What do y'all think I oughta do? I think I'm going to call her mom tomorrow, and tell her to watch her really carefully.. I'm so afraid of what might happen to her right now but I feel like I had to do what is best for my own future. Did I make the wrong decision fellas? Should I have given her another chance? I love this girl but I think that I made the right decision.
For your own peace of mind, let her Mom know what happened and that she may be at risk for some of her previous behaviors. Outside of that, cut all ties. Be done with it. Don't let her use her depression as an excuse to be a cheating bitch.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 8:30 am to Kafka
quote:Um, is Zlatan one of your alters? Because this "bump" is kind of bizarre.
Kafka
quote:
...do y'all now think my choice was the right one?
Posted on 9/23/17 at 9:10 am to Kafka
Crazy pussy always seems to be the best but not something you want to tie down.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 9:25 am to Kafka
It's honestly understandable that you truly care for her and are emotionally invested in her well-being and your relationship together. But from where I sit you have one life to live and you have to ask yourself if you really see this woman as a partner you can build a happy, healthy, stable life with. Is she someone you'd be comfortable leaving your small children with if you had to go out of town for business? She seems to have quite a lot going on and I honestly fear there's a better chance she won't get better as she grows older.
There may be some way for you to communicate that you care about her and will leave the door open to help if she needs a friend. But unless you want to spend your life miserable because you feel obligated to see to her safety, I suggest you walk away. I'm sure she's a sweet person whomsimcerely wishes she were mentally and emotionally more stable. But people like that, even if they aren't mean or evil, can be emotional black holes that spiritually bleed you dry.
There may be some way for you to communicate that you care about her and will leave the door open to help if she needs a friend. But unless you want to spend your life miserable because you feel obligated to see to her safety, I suggest you walk away. I'm sure she's a sweet person whomsimcerely wishes she were mentally and emotionally more stable. But people like that, even if they aren't mean or evil, can be emotional black holes that spiritually bleed you dry.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 10:48 am to Kafka
quote:
I love this girl but I think that I made the right decision.
Your instincts are right. You made the responsible and good decision. She is entirely self destructive from what you have described. If she is to fall for that a-hole when you've stood by her through a fricking suicide attempt, then you need to do what is right by you. She will lead you into the darkness that has consumed her, and you can not allow that to happen.
I told you a few months back to let her off lightly if you realized she's not worth this shite, which you have. Yes call her mother, surround yourself with friends, and probably get some therapy for a few months, which as a student it should be free for you. This is tough shite for sure, but you'll find your way out of this and be a stronger person as a result.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:19 pm to Kafka
I'm confused about where this update post is, but regardless, to the OP: You made the correct decision. You can care for her, but you need to be out of this permanently for your own good. She needs professional help. Seriously. If you want to tell her family, fine, but after that, cut all ties.
Can you imagine bringing children into this relationship and her still thinking you're going to leave her and that she might be successful in killing herself at some point?
Can you imagine bringing children into this relationship and her still thinking you're going to leave her and that she might be successful in killing herself at some point?
Posted on 9/23/17 at 8:10 pm to Kafka
Coming from a woman's point of view to I myself have been in HER position- leave her. Make her realize what she lost so that when she's in her 30's she knows she fricked up as she sees you married with a family. She's having her cake and eating it too and to be honest, you're being a pussy even CONSIDERING going back to her after she's 1- attempted suicide and put you and your emotions through hell (we have given you advice) 2- TALKING to her ex as well as 3-SLEEPING with him! SHE'S OUT!
Not trying to be insensitive to your feelings but indeed the ex coming into the picture should only solidify your decision. Good luck and don't make another mistake by posting in 2 months that she fricked you over again. Be like Frozen and Let it Go.
Not trying to be insensitive to your feelings but indeed the ex coming into the picture should only solidify your decision. Good luck and don't make another mistake by posting in 2 months that she fricked you over again. Be like Frozen and Let it Go.
Posted on 9/25/17 at 2:54 am to Kafka
All I can say is that her mental state is NOT a reason for you to be clamped down for the rest of your life simply for her sake.
This girl sounds selfish as hell when it comes to you specifically. She totally just wants you there because the other guy failed her and seems to not consider how her actions effect you at all.
Its sad her mental state has led her down this road where she is completely blind to her own ways. Hopefully she looks in the mirror and realizes there's a path out before she ends things.
Make no mistake, if she makes the decision to end her own life, IT WILL NOT BE YOUR FAULT.
She has clearly wound her mind into this state.
Just run from it and hope for the best. There's no way you can stay in the middle of that and expect to find a solution.
Lastly, word of warning: DO NOT GO BACK if she comes crawling back. DO NOT BITE. This might be twice as hard as your decision to let her go the first time.
This girl sounds selfish as hell when it comes to you specifically. She totally just wants you there because the other guy failed her and seems to not consider how her actions effect you at all.
Its sad her mental state has led her down this road where she is completely blind to her own ways. Hopefully she looks in the mirror and realizes there's a path out before she ends things.
Make no mistake, if she makes the decision to end her own life, IT WILL NOT BE YOUR FAULT.
She has clearly wound her mind into this state.
Just run from it and hope for the best. There's no way you can stay in the middle of that and expect to find a solution.
Lastly, word of warning: DO NOT GO BACK if she comes crawling back. DO NOT BITE. This might be twice as hard as your decision to let her go the first time.
This post was edited on 9/25/17 at 2:58 am
Posted on 9/25/17 at 8:28 am to Kafka
When I read the initial post back in June I wanted to tell you to leave her but I knew that would never happen and you weren't in a place to do that. Now you have a free pass and buddy, you better run with it!
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