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re: Wife had a miscarriage..This sucks
Posted on 1/28/15 at 9:27 pm to Leonard Threenette
Posted on 1/28/15 at 9:27 pm to Leonard Threenette
Just be there for her. sorry about that, but God has a plan
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Posted on 1/28/15 at 9:39 pm to Leonard Threenette
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We were only like 9 weeks, but she's taking it pretty rough. I kind of feel helpless because I can't fix this, but I guess the only thing I can do is to be there for her.
Wife and I took a long sad nap. We called in sick for a day or two. Took her to lunch and we BOTH had the saddest beer ever. Bittersweet with 90% being bitter more bittersad. Nothing you can do. Be there, be supportive.
My wife told me "I am sorry". I damned near cried at that. Told her immediately frick THAT shite! It was better said but the thought was similar. Nobody's fault. She may feel that way. Quash that shite with quickness. Or at least let her know you disagree.
Sorry this happened. All you can do is keep plugging away. YSWIDT?
This post was edited on 1/28/15 at 9:40 pm
Posted on 1/28/15 at 9:50 pm to Leonard Threenette
Prayers
Posted on 1/28/15 at 9:53 pm to oleyeller
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not personally but a buddy of mine and his wife made it up to a week before due date. She wasnt feeling it kick, or move and went in. Baby didnt make it, so they had to deliver a dead child. they got to hold it and everything... then had to bury it.
mother of god.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 10:02 pm to Leonard Threenette
So sorry to hear that. It doesn't matter how far in, that is rough to deal with.
I have no experience in this but I'd say being there for her is all you can do. No words can make her feel better. It'll just be something that she will have to endure and being there for her while she's enduring it is the best thing you can do.
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Any other advice?
I have no experience in this but I'd say being there for her is all you can do. No words can make her feel better. It'll just be something that she will have to endure and being there for her while she's enduring it is the best thing you can do.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 10:15 pm to Winkface
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quote: but I guess the only thing I can do is to be there for her.
Sorry for your loss.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 10:55 pm to TakeAGander
Sorry man! My mom had a few... she still can not talk about it.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 10:59 pm to LSU_2012
quote:She had one too few
My mom had a few... she still can not talk about it.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 11:08 pm to sassyLSU
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sassyLSU
You have to be a troll. No way someone could be ignorant enough to come into a grieving man's thread and try to tell him his wife should ask for forgiveness. Either way, go frick yourself.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 11:12 pm to Leonard Threenette
Happened to my wife last spring, she was 11 weeks. There is nothing other than spending time together that makes it better. My wife and I took two days off and just hung out with our other child. Later on last year she conceived another... 14 weeks now. Just be there and don't rush things enjoy your time together... Sorry this happened to you guys.
This post was edited on 1/28/15 at 11:17 pm
Posted on 1/28/15 at 11:23 pm to Leonard Threenette
quote:dude,, Ive been there
Leonard Threenette
if you need to talk just get my contact info from the admins
Posted on 1/29/15 at 12:51 am to Leonard Threenette
Time is the only thing that can help. Hang in there.
Posted on 1/29/15 at 1:16 am to ShermanTxTiger
Proud of this thread.
Posted on 1/29/15 at 1:22 am to Leonard Threenette
Damn, I'm very sorry, OP. My sincere condolences.
Prayers for y'all.
Prayers for y'all.
Posted on 1/29/15 at 4:34 am to Leonard Threenette
Very very sorry to hear.
My advice... keep this intensely personal loss for your family off social media and seek advice from loved ones.
My advice... keep this intensely personal loss for your family off social media and seek advice from loved ones.
This post was edited on 1/29/15 at 4:37 am
Posted on 1/29/15 at 6:54 am to NOX
I had to come out of lurkdom to say I am so sorry for your lose. Except for the God has plan bullcrap, advice has been spot on so far.
I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks over Christmas. I'm surviving on logic right now: statistically speaking this is very common, over 85% of women who have miscarriages go on to conceive and have perfect pregnancies, if something was wrong with the baby I'd rather it happen at 8 weeks than 38 (which is just about the worst thing I can imagine).
The only other thing I can suggest is to be mindful of milestones of this pregnancy. The 12-week scan, if it was scheduled, the due date. And be there for her when the unexpected happens like some random FB friend announcing a pregnancy around the same due date. I just had one of those come out of nowhere a couple of weeks ago and I was pretty upset about it.
Good luck in the future and hopes for a healthy child to you guys soon.
I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks over Christmas. I'm surviving on logic right now: statistically speaking this is very common, over 85% of women who have miscarriages go on to conceive and have perfect pregnancies, if something was wrong with the baby I'd rather it happen at 8 weeks than 38 (which is just about the worst thing I can imagine).
The only other thing I can suggest is to be mindful of milestones of this pregnancy. The 12-week scan, if it was scheduled, the due date. And be there for her when the unexpected happens like some random FB friend announcing a pregnancy around the same due date. I just had one of those come out of nowhere a couple of weeks ago and I was pretty upset about it.
Good luck in the future and hopes for a healthy child to you guys soon.
Posted on 1/29/15 at 7:39 am to Leonard Threenette
My wife and I went through this. She will take it harder than you can possibly imagine. What made it worse for us was it took us about 9 months to get pregnant again so be prepared for that also. What we got after all that was perfect. So that will erase the memory.
Posted on 1/29/15 at 8:11 am to goatman1419
I've got two kids. We had 3 early miscarriages with the 1st one, and 3 early miscarriages with the second one.
The first one sucked. The second one sucked a little less, the third one sucked a little less than the second one, and then we had a kid.
the first one on the second kid didn't bother me at all. Just came to expect it.
Trying for that first kid is exciting and when you get your hopes up after that first ultrasound, it hits you hard when you lose it.
this happens to just about everyone and it doesn't even phase me in the least bit anymore. We are about to try for the third and i can tell you just like we did with our second kid, we can go to the doctor and they can tell us we are 7 or 8 weeks pregnant, but to me we aren't pregnant until we hit 12 weeks. I almost don't even consider us to be pregnant at 8 weeks, it's just a waiting game to get to that 11th or 12 week where you know the odds are greatly in your favor that you are having a kid now.
The best thing to do is talk to other people about it. It's not embarrassing or anything, and once you start talking to people, you realize that almost every couple goes through this.
The first one sucked. The second one sucked a little less, the third one sucked a little less than the second one, and then we had a kid.
the first one on the second kid didn't bother me at all. Just came to expect it.
Trying for that first kid is exciting and when you get your hopes up after that first ultrasound, it hits you hard when you lose it.
this happens to just about everyone and it doesn't even phase me in the least bit anymore. We are about to try for the third and i can tell you just like we did with our second kid, we can go to the doctor and they can tell us we are 7 or 8 weeks pregnant, but to me we aren't pregnant until we hit 12 weeks. I almost don't even consider us to be pregnant at 8 weeks, it's just a waiting game to get to that 11th or 12 week where you know the odds are greatly in your favor that you are having a kid now.
The best thing to do is talk to other people about it. It's not embarrassing or anything, and once you start talking to people, you realize that almost every couple goes through this.
Posted on 1/29/15 at 8:24 am to sassyLSU
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invite her to be confessed
OP, I would NOT recommend this advice.
Just be there for her. No matter how common it is, (and it is quite common), that never makes it feel better when it is yours. Y'all will get through it, but you should get through it together.
Posted on 1/29/15 at 8:24 am to Leonard Threenette
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