re: mid 30s and tired / burned out...

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busts my arse 6 days a week

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Start by putting up some work boundaries on that 6th day.

If taking every weekend off wont work, alternate. Get time away to clear your head. I spent too many years at work 6-7 days a week. It gets to you.

I am in pretty much the same boat and I get in the same rut that you mention every couple of years...

trouble with me is, I typically take very little time off from work...same old grind all day every day for months on end...

what I typically do is to just loosen up and head up to the high mountains of colorado for some fly fishing...you can do it by yourself and it is perfectly enjoyable and relaxing...

Drugs

Ask yourself this:

What could you do to help someone else today?

When you give, you live.

It works.

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Ask yourself this: What could you do to help someone else today? When you give, you live. It works.

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Ask yourself this:

How is any of the above going to help a single man with no children when he is seventy-five?

This guy needs to ball out if he wants a good life. It's on him. Favors for the relatively selfish, ungrateful whole of society and the Warm fuzziness that accompanies them is not going to fund his in home medical care.

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Give it to God

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Didn't read a single post but op

Find passion. Whether it is love, hobby, or work and go % 100 at it.
I started to feel a rut and it affected every part of my life. But after a while I realized that I needed to be selfish and take care of me.
I started by taking care of a hobby. .. mine was painting. It led to not worrying about social life and gave me time to self reflect.
then I moved to family. Spending close and personal time with those that I have unconditional love for.
After that I tackled work. My line of work is stressful and demanding of personal time and often interferes with every aspect of a social entity.
I decided that although I love what I do, I need to find my end game and grab it.
Set goals, and motivate others to pick up slack. .. you will find that even the most stressful of jobs can be rewarding if you take a more uplifting and motivated approach.
To keep your own spirit high you need a good spot at work where you can have lunch and piece together the second half of your day. Put together a work or personal strategy and move.

Bottom line is you have to take care of you before you better any situation

Balling out is one reason we live in this obese, alcoholic drugged out violent society. People beholden to the lie that materialism brings true happiness. Good luck with that. As long as Americans keep believing that keeping up with the Jones' is the reason we were put on this planet they will stay miserable chasing that illusion.

I'm not saying he needs to do any of that shite, certainly not. But he needs to raise significant capital to fund a solo retirement, living a high standard like most highly educated professionals do. People don't bust their arse to eat fricking mcdonalds at 80, waiting to die.

I think what is lost in his thread is that very realization. There is a prospect of remaining single here, given his situation. He needs to be planning for the worst.