re: Does your wife "want" to work?

quote:

---

I "held her back."

---

chicks these days

My wife enjoys her career. She is an excellent homemaker, but also thrives on being productive outside the home.

quote:

---

Her life basically revolves around going to the gym when she wants, getting massages when she wants, shopping when she wants, volunteering at my kid's school where she gets to hang out with her best friend who works in the office there, and traveling a couple times a month. Rough life. And not one ounce of gratitude.

---

Dam, sounds like you resent her a bit. She should be grateful...Next thing she will tell you is that she needs to find herself because she is just who you want her to be. Papers served. lol

quote:

---

My wife works, she loves to work. She's not a stay at home mom. Both my kids have been in daycare since 2 months and they are well adjusted and socially advanced.

---

This. Kids who go to daycare usually are superior in their immune systems, social intelligence, and tend to be much more advanced in kindegarten-2nd grade than kids coddled by a mom with no other human interaction.

My wife "works" @ her dad's office. Which consists of her coming in when she pleases and leaving when she pleases. Which is often around the babies schedules.

Vacation's for all the office and their families on conpany dime. Top notch insurance. And bonuses.

I don't give a frick if she's happy or not about it. she has never had to work a real job and never will and gets better benefits than a lot of people who actually need them and. Work hard for them.

quote:

---

Her life basically revolves around going to the gym when she wants, getting massages when she wants, shopping when she wants, volunteering at my kid's school where she gets to hang out with her best friend who works in the office there, and traveling a couple times a month. Rough life. And not one ounce of gratitude.

---

Good luck with your divorce.

quote:

---

My fear though is that she's in a different social-economic class than you or different intellectual class than you. That's really hard to reconcile.

---

This.

Don't be shocked if she leaves you for a tatted up dude that works at Tire Kingdom.

quote:

---

Does your wife "want" to work?

---

She's not going through 8 years of school to sit at home and watch soap operas.

Once we have kids she'll probably work part time, until they are in school.

Let her work. She will get it out of her system in six months. She gets to pay the child care and all other her work related expenses. She will find she is working for free and give it up. If I won the lottery I would work a couple of months to make my transition seamless and never work again.

quote:

---

I smell a deeper issue with your lady. Good luck.

---

Have to agree with you. At this point, she's reconciled with it because we travel a lot for my kid's karate tournaments. She knows that a normal job wouldn't allow her to take off whenever she wants, so our kid wouldn't be able to do his tournaments if we couldn't travel at will.But she has this feeling that she hasn't done anything with her life because she hasn't worked. That's what I don't get. I don't see how someone could place more value in or derive more sense of worth from doing meaningless tasks for someone else to collect a paycheck as opposed to raising your own children. For me, work is the necessary evil that pays the bills to allow you to live your life. For her, it's what defines you. Since I retired a few years ago due to back problems, I can't say I miss work at all.