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re: Marriage over or salvageable?
Posted on 11/28/22 at 11:44 am to Darth_Vader
Posted on 11/28/22 at 11:44 am to Darth_Vader
quote:I am glad you pointed this out. I never noticed that and thought it was you.
However, the babe threads are from the other Darth.
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Posted on 11/28/22 at 11:51 am to DeSantis_2024
Have an honest conversation with her about your feelings. I know that shite isn’t easy but it’s easier than telling her you want out.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 12:03 pm to DeSantis_2024
You’re 10 years older and have kids. Things change. Unless you are the type to hit refresh every decade and start over learning to accept the changes.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 12:08 pm to DeSantis_2024
Wait, you expected to stay in the dating infatuation phase forever?
Posted on 11/28/22 at 12:10 pm to DeSantis_2024
Either stay married or be broke with no money as she will get almost everything that you have in child support.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 12:11 pm to DeSantis_2024
quote:
maybe once a week now.
I know a strong marriage when I see one.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 12:15 pm to Sam Quint
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OP isnt going to read "take care of your wife how she needs to be loved right now
White knights are gonna white knight. Even when it's on a message board... they think it may end up bribing a woman into showing interest in them. Your wife doesn't need a pedestal. She needs you to be stable and honest with her. Marriage doesn't work with one side worshiping or spoiling the other. It works when both work together.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 12:27 pm to madamsquirrel
Me too… lol
Posted on 11/28/22 at 12:34 pm to DeSantis_2024
You have to be willing to speak openly to each other. You have have to both be willing to admit the times when you've been wrong. You have to both be willing to step up for each other when one of you have a terrible day, and agree to peace when you've both been suffering.
She may be suffering issues that she hasn't told you, and it's very likely that she misses sex too. May be that due to the kids' schedules and your schedules that you need to schedule date nights.
Communication is #1.
She may be suffering issues that she hasn't told you, and it's very likely that she misses sex too. May be that due to the kids' schedules and your schedules that you need to schedule date nights.
Communication is #1.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 12:59 pm to TheFitfulFire
Your thought process is what is in a rut. Focus on things to be grateful for. Focus on gratitude and abandon your 'poor me' thinking.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 2:42 pm to DeSantis_2024
I've been there for 10 years.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 7:50 pm to LSU Grad Alabama Fan
quote:
I know a strong marriage when I see one.
Odds say you don't
Wrong most of the time
The only thing thats suprising is that anyone with a functioning brain gets married. Zero upside. All kinds of downside.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 7:54 pm to Sam Quint
this is normal. Time to buck up and do what is right for the kids. When they are on their own as independent adults you can do whatever you want.
Be a man.
Be a man.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 8:44 pm to DeSantis_2024
Watch this marriage sermon series by a great pastor!
LINK
LINK
This post was edited on 11/28/22 at 8:45 pm
Posted on 11/28/22 at 8:47 pm to DeSantis_2024
Lyrics to an old song
“If you want to be happy for the rest of your life,
Fall in love with your wife”
Truer words never spoken. It’s really simple
Try to spend some time each day, doing something for your wife. Make the effort everyday. Talk to her. Call her on the phone when you get a few moments. Make your marriage a priority.
It will start to come around. Sometimes slowly, but it will.
Love isn’t just sparks and fireworks. Sometimes it’s just teamwork struggling through common goals and mutual respect. It will grow from there.
“If you want to be happy for the rest of your life,
Fall in love with your wife”
Truer words never spoken. It’s really simple
Try to spend some time each day, doing something for your wife. Make the effort everyday. Talk to her. Call her on the phone when you get a few moments. Make your marriage a priority.
It will start to come around. Sometimes slowly, but it will.
Love isn’t just sparks and fireworks. Sometimes it’s just teamwork struggling through common goals and mutual respect. It will grow from there.
This post was edited on 11/28/22 at 9:05 pm
Posted on 11/28/22 at 9:54 pm to DeSantis_2024
Wait, you’ve been married 10 years and still get sex once a week????
Posted on 11/28/22 at 9:54 pm to Sam Quint
quote:
what in the world does "take care of your wife how she needs to be loved right now" mean to a husband who is in the depths of frustration and hopelessness in a marriage?
With all due respect (sincerely), my advice was to the OP. He truly seems to be in the rut that having young children will cause in a marriage. I simply meant that he should focus on dating a married mother of 3 instead of the gal he married. It's just not the same, so sorry if sounded like generic sappy advice.
This time in life is HARD for even the happiest of couples! I just wanted the OP to feel like there is hope, because there absolutely is.
Posted on 11/28/22 at 10:04 pm to HouseMom
He should just have not gotten married
Like a functionally stable person
Then you can just walk away
It is really crazy how many lunatics want the government involved in their personal lives and finances for exactly no reason.
Like a functionally stable person
Then you can just walk away
It is really crazy how many lunatics want the government involved in their personal lives and finances for exactly no reason.
This post was edited on 11/28/22 at 10:05 pm
Posted on 11/28/22 at 10:05 pm to Caraway Rye
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Then you can just walk away
The world definitely needs more single parents
It doesn’t sound like OP is staying married due to the paperwork.
This post was edited on 11/28/22 at 10:06 pm
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