That's not what I meant but don't let that keep you from being ridiculous..
Of course that's not what you meant, but that's basically what you said. You just need to think it through a bit more and approach it from someone who doesn't have your point of view on life.
Take a funeral, particularly an untimely or unexpected one. There's always those women (usually older) who go up to the family and say "Jesus was ready for him to come home" or "it was all part of God's plan". Really? Was it really part of god's plan for him to get mowed down by a drunk driver when he was merely 16?
And that's not a story I made up by the way. One of my best friends growing up was killed by a drunk driver (and the guy got away with it), and I'll never forget some old ladies coming up to us telling us those two things. I was simply incredibly insulted by that, and if I thought they had any malice behind those words, were younger, and male, I would have punched them right in the face.
But typically, these people have no malice behind these words. They think they are comforting, but are too stupid to understand that anyone who doesn't have their complete line of thought is going to find this incredibly offensive and insulting.
Sure you and your "sane" cohort may not have meant this towards the atheist mother and her son, but you unknowingly implied it with pretty every other major victim of this tragedy. Why was she spared over the others? Was she just that special and God wanted to make sure he came to her side. He was apparently willing to kill 24 less deserving people within her own neighborhood to teach her to be grateful to god. You may not think you're saying that, but it's heavily unknowingly implied by you both.