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Friends Who Drift Apart

Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:36 pm
Posted by SaintlyTiger88
Louisiana
Member since Apr 2013
1973 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:36 pm
One thing I've realized in life, and it's a depressing realization, is that some friendships, no matter how close, will inevitably fade to where your once close friend becomes just like a casual acquaintance. I know that life's circumstances will cause people who are best friends to drift apart... work, family, distance, etc. and especially people who are best friends in school, once they leave school and they go their seperate ways, it's hard to maintain that close friendship.

I've experienced this, having a close friendship fade out like an old pair of jeans. This one particular friend, we were best friends for several years, talked on the phone almost every day, hung out all the time, and had each other's backs in everything. Those years seem like forever ago, because now that friend feels like just an acquaintance, like the history we had doesn't really hold much value anymore.

So, how many of y'all have gone through this, having a once close bond be disintegrated over time?
Posted by lsuwontonwrap
Member since Aug 2012
34147 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:37 pm to
everyone goes through that. just make new friends.
Posted by FloridaMike
Member since Dec 2012
1524 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:37 pm to
Weird. I ran into an old friend today.
Posted by AUCE05
Member since Dec 2009
42560 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:37 pm to
Everyone. What are you really asking?
Posted by Paul Allen
Montauk, NY
Member since Nov 2007
75183 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:38 pm to
It gets worse in your 30's.
Posted by GreatLakesTiger24
One State Solution
Member since May 2012
55588 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:38 pm to
It happens.

It's nothing to be sad about imo. It's just life, mannnn.
Posted by UFownstSECsince1950
Member since Dec 2009
32601 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:38 pm to
Imagine once you both die. Then everything that you ever did together will not matter. All of your great memories will just disappear into thin air....might as well never happened. Same goes for everything with your kids, parents, siblings, etc.
Posted by Schmelly
Member since Jan 2014
14469 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:38 pm to
Part of life bro. Good news is you'll meet new people that you will grow close to
Posted by The Mick
Member since Oct 2010
43103 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:39 pm to
Several unfortunately. Marriage kids work etc and you get consumed in your own stuff. i wish I had put forth more effort with my old friends.


PS. - been reconnecting with them recently which is great
This post was edited on 11/16/14 at 9:42 pm
Posted by Schmelly
Member since Jan 2014
14469 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:39 pm to
quote:

It gets worse in your 30's.
exponentially
Posted by BRgetthenet
Member since Oct 2011
117692 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:40 pm to
You mean better.
Posted by tgrbaitn08
Member since Dec 2007
146214 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:40 pm to
quote:

talked on the phone almost every day,


Tell me you're a woman.
Posted by Paul Allen
Montauk, NY
Member since Nov 2007
75183 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:41 pm to
No, I mean worse
Posted by SaintlyTiger88
Louisiana
Member since Apr 2013
1973 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:43 pm to
Basically my question is how many of y'all lost close friendships and what are your thoughts about how to deal with that aspect of life.
Posted by Jim Rockford
Member since May 2011
98180 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:43 pm to
It happens. With some old friends, we can pick up right where we left off after months or even years. Others, we have nothing to talk about and after a few minutes there's an awkward silence. Nothing is static, life moves on.
Posted by Epic Cajun
Lafayette, LA
Member since Feb 2013
32442 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:43 pm to
Happened with all of my best friends from high school. We're just in different places in life (both literally and figuratively). They are already popping out kids and "settling down" in the same town that we grew up in. That life isn't for me, I still talk to them rarely, but I've moved on and found friends with interests similar to mine. Now that I think about it, I'm not really sure what we had in common in the first place. shite happens
Posted by SaintlyTiger88
Louisiana
Member since Apr 2013
1973 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:44 pm to
Lol no, I'm not, but the friend I was referring to is a woman.
Posted by prostyleoffensetime
Mississippi
Member since Aug 2009
11434 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:45 pm to
Yeah. Going through a similar thing. It's difficult to find new friends too being single in a small town.

It's also difficult to put as much trust in those new friends that you have in ones that you've had since childhood.
Posted by tgrbaitn08
Member since Dec 2007
146214 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:47 pm to

Figures
Posted by AUCE05
Member since Dec 2009
42560 posts
Posted on 11/16/14 at 9:49 pm to
I have a job that takes most of my time. A family that takes the rest. I have no time for anyone else.
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