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Deadbeat dads - in a gay marriage



Just how in the hell is that going to work in the case of a divorce where child support will be mandated to the "dad" or the "mom"? I might not have worded that just right but I hope you see what I'm asking.

Several legal questions arise, imo, on gay marriage that I haven't seen asked just yet.







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Eighteen
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I never really thought about it, but that is a good point. Maybe gay marriage has will help make divorce settlements/custody rulings/child support more fair and balanced since they will have to rework the laws




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Dudes are going to be hitting and quitting it.





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Dudes are going to be hitting and quitting it.


I predict the divorce rate to be much higher between two dudes than two lesbos.






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"dad"


pitcher

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"mom"


catcher






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Homesick Tiger
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Problem is the "pitcher" and "catcher" can swap out their title whenever they want. My wife and I don't have that privilege.

I'm just wanting to know if there is a law designating who throws and who receives in a gay marriage. If not, then aren't they being afforded privileges that other straight couples don't or won't receive? If not, then we're back to square one about marriages being equal to all couples.






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Just how in the hell is that going to work in the case of a divorce where child support will be mandated to the "dad" or the "mom"?







Surely, the legal verbiage is not "mom is custodial parent" etc.

I would suspect it would be more like "Susan Q. Public shall be the custodial parent". Am I wrong?



If correct, it becomes simple: "John Q. Public is custodial parent. John Doe shall pay ____ in child support"








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There was recently a case about a lesbian couple that wanted a child. A male friend of theirs donated his sperm. The couple later "divorced." One of woman was on disability and I think the other woman lost her job. Ultimately the court decide the "sperm donor" was responsible for child support.





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I think the other woman lost her job. Ultimately the court decide the "sperm donor" was responsible for child support.


I remember that.


i think the LEGAL issue was that the doctor was not licensed / allowed? to do that particular procedure. Therefore, it was easier to unwind.

I am NOT saying it was good. Just that the state did not recognize the casual agreement.


Had they taken the legal steps required by law, then there would be no responsibility toward the donor.






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Homesick Tiger
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Ultimately the court decide the "sperm donor" was responsible for child support.


Holey shite. A lot of worms will be crawling out of a lot of cans before this is all said and done imo.






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Problem is the "pitcher" and "catcher" can swap out their title whenever they want. My wife and I don't have that privilege.



Get her a strap-on for Mother's Day.






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Granted they did not go through a traditional "sperm donor" facility but the original intent of the lesbian couple was NOT for the sperm donor to have access or responsibility of the child.





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Eighteen
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Surely, the legal verbiage is not "mom is custodial parent" etc.

I would suspect it would be more like "Susan Q. Public shall be the custodial parent". Am I wrong?



If correct, it becomes simple: "John Q. Public is custodial parent. John Doe shall pay ____ in child support"



The point he's saying (at least, I think) is the way the laws are currently set up/how judges rule always heavily favor the maternal parents in terms of custody, child support, alimony after divorces, etc...

Since the current default is currently the mom, what will the default be for these new situations? What criteria will be used to determine who the best parent is, how assets will be split, child support percentages, etc...



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There was recently a case about a lesbian couple that wanted a child. A male friend of theirs donated his sperm. The couple later "divorced." One of woman was on disability and I think the other woman lost her job. Ultimately the court decide the "sperm donor" was responsible for child support.




Now that's justice.






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Problem is the "pitcher" and "catcher" can swap out their title whenever they want. My wife and I don't have that privilege.



Problems like this are only the start of the confusion that will ensue if gays are allowed to marry. The crowd that thinks they'll be no ramifications and is always asking," how will it affect you" need to open their eyes. It will affect everyone and through taxes, it will affect everyone in the pocketbook.






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Homesick Tiger
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Get her a strap-on for Mother's Day.


Don't know where she'd use it. Several years ago I had "DO NOT ENTER" tattooed across my arse just to let the people in the "home" I'll eventually end up in know my arse is an exit only avenue.






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Since the current default is currently the mom, what will the default be for these new situations?


I think the lack of "default" is a good thing






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Just how in the hell is that going to work in the case of a divorce where child support will be mandated to the "dad" or the "mom"? I might not have worded that just right but I hope you see what I'm asking.



I'm sure they'll figure something out. There are already a quarter of a million legally married gay couples raising kids in this country. I would imagine this situation has already presented itself.

Interesting question though.






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Eighteen
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I think the lack of "default" is a good thing



Exactly my thinking.

They will be forced to come to a more fair/common sense approach to it...which hopefully could spill over into hetero marriages, too.

Could end up being a good thing for the country.



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Serious question....traditional marriage consist of husband and wife. In gay relationships how do they introduce themselves? This is my husband, spouse or partner? In lesbian relationships sometimes it is very obvious that one female is much more "masculine" than the other. Do they differentiate their roles? Just curious.





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