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How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


away? Or, do you not get married again?

Do you expect your spouse to move on if you pass away?

I thought of this whilst perusing deadspin yesterday and reading this:

What's the appropriate amount of affection for a remarried widow to show for her first husband? If you were husband #2 would you be okay with there being a picture of her and her first husband on your fireplace? I think you'd have to be cool with it and act like he was the greatest guy ever, as he's not really a threat, but it's pretty shitty to have to believe that she probably liked him better and thinks of him during sex.

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I think it depend on the length of the marriage. Let's say you're 80 years and old and you meet some smoking hot widow playing shuffle board at the assisted living facility. Let's say her husband died a while back and they were married for sixty years. I think, if you're that old, you totally let it go. Even if she screams out his name during intercourse, big deal. You're both old. You accept the parameters quickly before you die alone.


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But, if you're 30 years old and the girl you married was only married to her hubby for a year before he died in a fiery car wreck, I think that's completely different. There's still time to construct an entire life out of your relationship, with kids and everything. She should be allowed to have a picture of him in the house and all that. But no fricking tats of his name. And no wearing some locket with a picture of him tucked inside. That's unfair. You can't compete with a dead guy. He's DEAD! He can't possibly frick up now that's gone. You can't live up to that standard. You're gonna fart and forget to do the dishes and do all the things that dead people don't have to worry about. She's gotta have some respect for you on that front.


What do you think abotu that question?








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SG_Geaux
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How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes
away? Or, do you not get married again?


There is not correct answer to this. Depends on the individual.


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Do you expect your spouse to move on if you pass away?


I sure hope they would.



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Jwodie
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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


At least a week...(see John Edwards)





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boosiebadazz
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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


are you talking legally or morally?





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pwejr88
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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


Depends on the situation.

There will be no correct answer in this thread.






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away? Or, do you not get married again?

Do you expect your spouse to move on if you pass away?


frick no will I remarry. One and fricking done.

Yeah, I expect she will remarry. The $1 million in life insurance will help her attract a mate.






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TigerDeacon
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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


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How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


Good taste, says one year . . . but no mandatory waiting period.






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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


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Depends on the situation.

There will be no correct answer in this thread.


This



And anyone who honestly doesn't want their spouse to move on after they die is 1)incredibly selfish and 2)doesn't truly love their spouse.






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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


until yo dick dries





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WikiTiger
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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


If my partner dies before me then I'll likely never get into another relationship again. But that's just my personality. If I die before her then I would want her to do whatever makes her happiest, and if that means being in a relationship with someone else, even if its my best friend, then that is just fine with me.





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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


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How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes away?

It is different for every person/situation.

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Do you expect your spouse to move on if you pass away?

I hope they would.






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Cajun Revolution
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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


Two years.





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boosiebadazz
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If my partner dies before me then I'll likely never get into another relationship again. But that's just my personality


so you're one of those "soulmate" people?






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Duckie
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morally






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OneMoreVol
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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


I like the original question but let me take it another step. If you were married for a lengthy period of time, say 30 years, then widowed and remarried, would you want to be buried next to your original spouse or most recent.

My family is going through this now. My great aunt and uncle were married a loooong time and after he passed away she remarried. Now they have been married 10 or 15 years but she's in poor poor health. Her husband has already said he wants her buried in his family cemetery but my family strongly disagrees. What say the masses?






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bradwieser
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How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


away?


why make the same mistake twice.






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Kracka
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away? Or, do you not get married again?


I am never getting married again. I know never is a long time, but for starters, if my wife died I would have a hard time getting over that. Secondly if she died or we divorced, I wouldn't want a step parent raising my kids. Especially with all the crazies that abuse step children and or kill them.

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My family is going through this now. My great aunt and uncle were married a loooong time and after he passed away she remarried. Now they have been married 10 or 15 years but she's in poor poor health. Her husband has already said he wants her buried in his family cemetery but my family strongly disagrees. What say the masses?

Another reason for me not to get married again. I would likely just frick around.



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Duckie
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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


I thought of this because of deadspin:


quote:

What's the appropriate amount of affection for a remarried widow to show for her first husband? If you were husband #2 would you be okay with there being a picture of her and her first husband on your fireplace? I think you'd have to be cool with it and act like he was the greatest guy ever, as he's not really a threat, but it's pretty shitty to have to believe that she probably liked him better and thinks of him during sex.


quote:

I think it depend on the length of the marriage. Let's say you're 80 years and old and you meet some smoking hot widow playing shuffle board at the assisted living facility. Let's say her husband died a while back and they were married for sixty years. I think, if you're that old, you totally let it go. Even if she screams out his name during intercourse, big deal. You're both old. You accept the parameters quickly before you die alone.

But, if you're 30 years old and the girl you married was only married to her hubby for a year before he died in a fiery car wreck, I think that's completely different. There's still time to construct an entire life out of your relationship, with kids and everything. She should be allowed to have a picture of him in the house and all that. But no fricking tats of his name. And no wearing some locket with a picture of him tucked inside. That's unfair. You can't compete with a dead guy. He's DEAD! He can't possibly frick up now that's gone. You can't live up to that standard. You're gonna fart and forget to do the dishes and do all the things that dead people don't have to worry about. She's gotta have some respect for you on that front.






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WikiTiger
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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


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so you're one of those "soulmate" people?


No, I'm one of those hermit introvert type people that just happened to find a woman that puts up with me. If she goes, then its off to live in the woods for me.






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NoHoTiger
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re: How long do you have to wait to remarry after a spouse passes


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Her husband has already said he wants her buried in his family cemetery but my family strongly disagrees. What say the masses?


I say it's between her and her current husband and everyone else should stay out of it.

My mom remarried after my father died. Her burial plot is next to my step-father's






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