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re: Meeting my daughter - Very Nervous ( * UPDATED * )
Posted on 5/15/14 at 8:36 am to CajunSoldier225
Posted on 5/15/14 at 8:36 am to CajunSoldier225
Thanks for your service and congrats on coming home!!! 
Just spend time with her and love her, that's the best thing you can do for any child and all that they really want or need. Don't sweat the small stuff. When my son was younger he would want nothing but mommy for a week or so, then flop back to daddy, they go through phases. Just remember, it's only a phase.
My wife started working a few weeks ago and I have been getting my son ready in the mornings and getting him on the bus or taking him to school. It's been some great times! It's got me thinking about cutting back on my work some to spend more time at home, doing little things like getting him ready in the mornings.
It's the little things that count the most. Best of luck to you bud, I'm sure you'll do fine.
Just spend time with her and love her, that's the best thing you can do for any child and all that they really want or need. Don't sweat the small stuff. When my son was younger he would want nothing but mommy for a week or so, then flop back to daddy, they go through phases. Just remember, it's only a phase.
My wife started working a few weeks ago and I have been getting my son ready in the mornings and getting him on the bus or taking him to school. It's been some great times! It's got me thinking about cutting back on my work some to spend more time at home, doing little things like getting him ready in the mornings.
It's the little things that count the most. Best of luck to you bud, I'm sure you'll do fine.
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Posted on 5/15/14 at 8:38 am to CajunSoldier225
No kids but Thanks for your Service! 
Posted on 5/15/14 at 8:41 am to Camo Tiger 337
Everything has already been stated here that you need / should do.
Enjoy the day because you will never forget it and treat momma like a queen. Give her a break with the baby - she is going to need it.
Most of all - thanks for the service.
Enjoy the day because you will never forget it and treat momma like a queen. Give her a break with the baby - she is going to need it.
Most of all - thanks for the service.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 8:43 am to CajunSoldier225
Love that kid, hold your wife tight, come home safely. Thank you for your service to this nation.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 8:49 am to AFtigerFan
We'll be glad to have you back home...Also great for a brother in arms to make it back safely.
enjoy every second with your babygirl and give your wife as many breaks as you can
enjoy every second with your babygirl and give your wife as many breaks as you can
Posted on 5/15/14 at 8:56 am to CajunSoldier225
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CajunSoldier225
Thank you. quote:Good choice.
I post this here
I haven't experienced it myself but my sister/BIL have twice. The only big thing I heard come out of their dealing was to try and keep expectation out of the way. Just come home and float through it enjoying small things.
I'm sure you're jacked about seeing your little girl. I know I'd be.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 8:58 am to CoastieGM
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It's best to arrive home as an extended "guest".
That's what I've heard from a lot of people lately. Thanks for the advice and I will most certainly be using it.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 8:59 am to CajunSoldier225
This will probably be an experience you will never be able to prepare yourself for, it will be so great. I must give your wife as much credit as yourself, she has made an ultimate sacrafice also.
My dad was and has been gone overseas for more than 15 of my 27 years. He served military for 23, and has supported for 7 through USO in Iraq and Afghanistan.
He sets up skype sessions for the guys over there like yourself to see their babies being born, and still does not know how they (and the wives) keep strength to do something like that from 7-10,000 miles away.
You are a special breed, go home and love your wife and daughter. Dont try to make up for lost time, just enjoy the moment and look forward to the future.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 9:15 am to CajunSoldier225
Thanks for your service and congrats to getting to meet your baby girl.
Have someone video it, so can watch that precious moment over and over again.
Have someone video it, so can watch that precious moment over and over again.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 9:21 am to CajunSoldier225
Awesome man. Congrats.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 9:33 am to CoastieGM
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Now for the baby. Rule #1. Every kid is different.
Kid #1: Folks (and myself) tried to force me upon the kiddo, and the kiddo upon me. I was ok with it, but the baby knew I was different and reacted adversely....he could simply smell the difference between me and Mama.
I learned to take it slowly...to just be a helping guest. Start out in the kid's vicinity (not even talking to him), then gradually make eye contact and progress to help with feeding and diapers. What I found to break ground was to lay on my back on the floor with the kiddo. Not even interacting, but just letting him check me out to ensure I was OK. Then increase to facial interaction, then eventually play and then to snuggling.
Kid #2:
She was an instant match. Just put her on my chest for nap within 30 minutes of getting home and she settled in like I had been there from day one. Zero introduction issues.
I was retired and at home when the other 3 were born. The big thing to remember is that each kid will be different...very different. it's imperative that you first be attuned to the baby's cues to see what kind of personality your wee one has and then adjust your approach from there.
Also, be prepared to get it "wrong" a few times before you figure out what works. That's just part of the process and it's normal.
Spot on. And don't get your feelings hurt if she doesn't warm up to you immediately. It takes time.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 9:35 am to CajunSoldier225
Congratulations man. That is great. I am sure you are barely able to contain yourself. Don't have any answers just wanted to say Congrats.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 9:43 am to CajunSoldier225
Thank you for your service and have a safe journey home. As a parent I can't possibly put it any better than Coastie did.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 9:58 am to CajunSoldier225
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CajunSoldier225
Thank you for your service Sir!
I'd definitely take all of the advice that Coastie has given. I've never been in the military, but I have 5 kids (only 1 biological). All of my kids love me as their father. We spend tons of time together. 1 of my adoptive daughters immediately warmed up to me. The other took quite a while (we're like best friends now). Just take it slow and easy and enjoy every single moment of it.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 10:02 am to CajunSoldier225
Maybe getting her a present or something would make you feel more comfortable.
Just a little light humor.
Don't worry man. You're just going to go through what every father does the first time he sees his child.... your experience is just going to have been delayed for a little bit.
Just a little light humor.
Don't worry man. You're just going to go through what every father does the first time he sees his child.... your experience is just going to have been delayed for a little bit.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 10:10 am to CajunSoldier225
Congrats and thank you for your sacrifice in serving this nation!
Posted on 5/15/14 at 10:35 am to MisterSenator
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Congrats and thank you for your sacrifice in serving this nation!
This.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 10:45 am to CajunSoldier225
That's great.
Proud day is coming, remember it always.
Proud day is coming, remember it always.
Posted on 5/15/14 at 11:16 am to TIGRLEE
Congrats and thank you for your service
Posted on 5/15/14 at 12:08 pm to AFtigerFan
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Best advice I can give is to just be there for them as much as possible. Give your wife as many breaks as you can. If your wife is not breast feeding, do some of the feedings for her during the night so she can finally get some much needed rest. If she is breast feeding, ask her if she is willing to pump so you can do some of the night feedings for her. Not only will it give your wife a break, but it will help you bond with your daughter even faster. It's the little things like this that will go a long way, and it's the little things like this that can be missed by the husband. Congrats!
This and good to hear you are looking to make your family together again.
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