Prefer at least one manual safety along with an intergraded grip safety.
If by this you mean the gun should have a grip safety, ala the 1911, then your choices are basically limited to the Springfield XDs series or the 1911. To get a light weight 1911, you'll have to go w/ an alloy frame. Doing so will cost additional $$. I know that Kimber and S&W make alloy frame 1911's and I'm sure there are others.
If indeed the safety issue is negotiable, you can look at the S&W Shield (no grip safety), Beretta Nano, Kimber Solo, Ruger LC9 and Walther PPS. The Kahr series (CM9, CW9, CW45) would be good choices except they have neither an external safety lever nor a grip safety.
I handled my first XDs (it was the 9mm) last Thurs in Monroe and was impressed. It fit my hand very well. Looked like a quality gun. The blued version was $600 while the bi-tone was $660.