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What happens the moment we learn someone we love has died ?
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:17 pm
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:17 pm
Its incredible to me that more people don't freak out.
and what is the difference between those that do and those that don't ?
Wont share personal anecdote cause this is a real question
and what is the difference between those that do and those that don't ?
Wont share personal anecdote cause this is a real question
This post was edited on 6/6/15 at 9:28 pm
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Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:21 pm to OWLFAN86
the death of a loved one is such a life-changing event that we typically have trouble grasping the reality of it...when I have experienced this, it just takes a while for us to process exactly what has happened...
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:21 pm to OWLFAN86
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antidote
What's the difference between an antidote and an anecdote? These things are a mystery, I guess.
This post was edited on 6/6/15 at 9:22 pm
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:22 pm to OWLFAN86
For the one that hurt the most, I honestly don't remember my initial reaction. I talked to so many people that night and rushed to pack to be home. All I know is I truly believed it was an evil joke.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:25 pm to OWLFAN86
Prayers sent, dude.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:27 pm to OWLFAN86
It was a relief to me the last time I experienced this because I knew the pain he was in battling cancer. I've since determined that his pain was temporary but the loved ones left behind is permanent.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:29 pm to OWLFAN86
Shock--your body goes into shock.
Your mind is trying to process the loss and the ramifications that will go along with it. That is why later the week of the loss of a loved one is usually more like a dream or blur. Your body and mind and are just trying to come to grips with the new reality.
Your mind is trying to process the loss and the ramifications that will go along with it. That is why later the week of the loss of a loved one is usually more like a dream or blur. Your body and mind and are just trying to come to grips with the new reality.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:29 pm to Bullfrog
quote:thanks,, but not necessary
Prayers sent, dude.
this is from a conversation from last night,,
my loss that is relevant was 19 years ago
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:32 pm to OWLFAN86
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and what is the difference between those that do and those that don't ?
Nothing that can be discerned by that act alone.
You don't know what's in their heads.
Personally I'm very good at compartmentalizating pain away until it is convienant for me to deal with it.
One particular blow had me still in the midst, taking the news in stride until tangential related problems could be resolved. Doesn't soften the blow when you allow yourself to settle down and reopen that door though.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:33 pm to OWLFAN86
It is just a white,numbing, cold thing.
Then you realize, things have to be done. Your life, and the ones left behind, continue on. You work to make the loss fit into the new normal and after awhile, it does.
Life goes on for the living, as it should.
Then you realize, things have to be done. Your life, and the ones left behind, continue on. You work to make the loss fit into the new normal and after awhile, it does.
Life goes on for the living, as it should.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:34 pm to OWLFAN86
quote:
my loss that is relevant was 19 years ago
Sucks it never goes away.
Some people just have such a huge impact on your life.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:34 pm to OWLFAN86
I think your reaction depends some on how the person died. If they've been sick a long time, you kind of come to expect it so you prepare yourself and it's not as much of a freak out.
But if someone dies unexpectedly in an accident or from a heart attack, your reaction will likely be more dramatic. Even then, to some people the death is more of a shock so they sit there in disbelief until it finally sinks in.
There are supposedly 5-7 different stages of grief, but not everyone goes through all of them:
- Shock or Disbelief
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Guilt
- Depression
- Acceptance and Hope
Sorry you're dealing with this. It sucks, no matter how you handle it.
But if someone dies unexpectedly in an accident or from a heart attack, your reaction will likely be more dramatic. Even then, to some people the death is more of a shock so they sit there in disbelief until it finally sinks in.
There are supposedly 5-7 different stages of grief, but not everyone goes through all of them:
- Shock or Disbelief
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Guilt
- Depression
- Acceptance and Hope
Sorry you're dealing with this. It sucks, no matter how you handle it.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:41 pm to OWLFAN86
We grieve over the death of any loved one. I still miss my Dad who died in August of 2003 after living with the results of a massive stroke in late 1997. This strong self-made successful man lived his last years totally dependent. I prayed that he would die. When he died it did not lessen the loss I felt for him even though he was "gone" for many years before his actual death. But I was relieved that he was no longer suffering.
On the other hand, when my nephew was killed in a small plane crash in August 2002 at the age of 23 I was crushed. I learned of it when I called one of my sisters to sing her Happy Birthday from my car after playing golf. I was doing my Bill Murray lounge lizard version and could hear my sister crying. I thought, "Damn, I've gotten good at this!" When I finished she said, "I guess you haven't heard. JP was killed in a small plane crash this morning." I nearly drove off the road I was crying so hard.
I cannot imagine what my brother, his wife, and 3 other kids went (and are still going) through. The death of a young person is simply heart-breaking. I know that my brother's family will never be the same.
When I speak of death, I usually in a cavalier fashion throw out the line "Nobody gets out alive." But the death of a young person is gut wrenching and hard to ever get over.
If my Faith is indeed true, the dead would not come back for anything. While we mourn the dead, we are truly sad for our own loss.
On the other hand, when my nephew was killed in a small plane crash in August 2002 at the age of 23 I was crushed. I learned of it when I called one of my sisters to sing her Happy Birthday from my car after playing golf. I was doing my Bill Murray lounge lizard version and could hear my sister crying. I thought, "Damn, I've gotten good at this!" When I finished she said, "I guess you haven't heard. JP was killed in a small plane crash this morning." I nearly drove off the road I was crying so hard.
I cannot imagine what my brother, his wife, and 3 other kids went (and are still going) through. The death of a young person is simply heart-breaking. I know that my brother's family will never be the same.
When I speak of death, I usually in a cavalier fashion throw out the line "Nobody gets out alive." But the death of a young person is gut wrenching and hard to ever get over.
If my Faith is indeed true, the dead would not come back for anything. While we mourn the dead, we are truly sad for our own loss.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:44 pm to OWLFAN86
frick this subject.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:46 pm to VetteGuy
quote:this was very true in my case
Then you realize, things have to be done
its just weird how some FREAK THE frick OUT
Posted on 6/6/15 at 9:50 pm to OWLFAN86
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its just weird how some FREAK THE frick OUT
We don't know your situation. Don't think it's fair to judge people who FREAK THE frick OUT if you don't know the situation.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 10:12 pm to OWLFAN86
I cried immediately when I was told my grandfather died even though I knew it was coming for months. Was very sad but only cried softly and for a short time
When I got the call at 3am that my best friend died unexpectedly at age 21 I didn't say a word, sat in silence for probably 2 hours, and when I finally called and woke up my mom and told her and actually said out loud the words is when I started sobbing. That lasted the entire next day and then off and on the next week until after the funeral.
When I got the call at 3am that my best friend died unexpectedly at age 21 I didn't say a word, sat in silence for probably 2 hours, and when I finally called and woke up my mom and told her and actually said out loud the words is when I started sobbing. That lasted the entire next day and then off and on the next week until after the funeral.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 10:22 pm to OWLFAN86
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Its incredible to me that more people don't freak out.
There are certain deaths you can prepare for: parents, grandparents
There are certain deaths you can never prepare for: kids, spouse
I don't know how people who have lost a child can go on. It scares me to have children because I doubt I would make it if one of them died before me.
Posted on 6/6/15 at 10:23 pm to OWLFAN86
Instantly wish we could have one more day
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