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re: Tips for dealing with young kids and "traumatic" experiences?
Posted on 3/3/15 at 11:07 am to TIGER984
Posted on 3/3/15 at 11:07 am to TIGER984
i have a 3 year old and we will soon be dealing with the loss of her great grandmother, who she calls "grandmaw".... i doubt she'll ever remember her personally, but i know for a while after her passing, when we make trips to my parents' house, where my grandmother currently lives, she'll look for her to be there, as she "knows" grandmaw...
losing my grandmother (the only grandparent left) is gonna be hard on us, i know, but i doubt she'll ever remember it.... she's too young, i think, to fully have long lasting memories of sentimental value yet... guess we won't really know until later down the road, but yeah....
losing my grandmother (the only grandparent left) is gonna be hard on us, i know, but i doubt she'll ever remember it.... she's too young, i think, to fully have long lasting memories of sentimental value yet... guess we won't really know until later down the road, but yeah....
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Posted on 3/3/15 at 11:07 am to TIGER984
anymore dogs outside there? Set a foothold trap, coyote caught... do with it as you please
Posted on 3/3/15 at 11:08 am to TIGER984
You need to kill coyote
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:09 pm to TIGER984
No way in hell I am reading that wall of text.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:22 pm to Tigerlaff
quote:
No way in hell I am reading that wall of text.
Summary for you:
3 year old daughter and her Nana watched helplessly as coyote grabbed beloved rat terrier for dinner. Daughter is now scared of the dark and other things.
OP, that really sucks for her, but as others have said, she will eventually get over it. And you suck for putting up the picture of Ace which just makes the story even sadder.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:27 pm to kingbob
Hail to the King! 
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:35 pm to TIGER984
The bigger you make it, the bigger it will be, and the bigger impact it will have on her. So don't make it more drama than you absolutely have to. Only address the issue if you absolutely need to directly respond to a question from her about it.
Let her know that she is safe and protected without directly addressing the situation, the dog, or the coyote.
If you want to kill the coyote, don't involve her in any of it. Don't even let her know that you did and certainly don't show her the dead coyote.
Let her know that she is safe and protected without directly addressing the situation, the dog, or the coyote.
If you want to kill the coyote, don't involve her in any of it. Don't even let her know that you did and certainly don't show her the dead coyote.
This post was edited on 3/3/15 at 12:38 pm
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:38 pm to TIGER984
my youngest was that age when our old dog died. it wasn't violent or tramatic like that, but his breathing changed and he started to try to find a place to hide, so I knew. I wound up telling my boys, about 3 and 5 at the time, that Miles was going to die and we needed to go say goodbye and give him hugs, etc. They took it well, and the young one still mentions missing him from time to time, but in a sweet, not sad way.
kids are tough and/or too young to understand completely, which helps. she'll be fine. especially when you bring her a hooded cape made of coyote pelt and a coin purse made from yote scrote
eta: very much this
kids are tough and/or too young to understand completely, which helps. she'll be fine. especially when you bring her a hooded cape made of coyote pelt and a coin purse made from yote scrote
eta: very much this
quote:
The bigger you make it, the bigger it will be, and the bigger impact it will have on her.
This post was edited on 3/3/15 at 12:47 pm
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:41 pm to MSMHater
This is what I was going to say. But we both know that the circle of life is something a 3-4 year old can't comprehend. They don't start being able to until about age 6 and then it still seems unjust to them. At age 6 or so they just want to know why the evil coyote could not have just eaten something other than their pet. Hard to make them understand that the coyote does not view their pet as a pet, rather, instinctively as an opportune and vulnerable necessity for survival.
For the OP. It's a hard one just because she witnessed the attack. Just try and comfort her and tell her that coyotes only kill small animals like squirrels, rabbits and tiny pets when they can. Put your hand to about the level of her waist and tell her they don't mess with anything bigger than that and that they are scared of all humans...even her.
For the OP. It's a hard one just because she witnessed the attack. Just try and comfort her and tell her that coyotes only kill small animals like squirrels, rabbits and tiny pets when they can. Put your hand to about the level of her waist and tell her they don't mess with anything bigger than that and that they are scared of all humans...even her.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:57 pm to TIGER984
This is why dogs are a bad idea.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 1:00 pm to TIGER984
That's a bold coyote to do that in broad daylight with people right there.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 1:13 pm to TIGER984
Sorry to hear about Ace.
I'm a veteran parent. Your kid will get over it given time. They really are, like they all say, resilient. Might be a month or two.
That being said... it's your duty now to avenge your dog. You are going to take up coyote hunting. I'm not joking. Your family needs some fricking payback, and you are going to deliver.
I'm a veteran parent. Your kid will get over it given time. They really are, like they all say, resilient. Might be a month or two.
That being said... it's your duty now to avenge your dog. You are going to take up coyote hunting. I'm not joking. Your family needs some fricking payback, and you are going to deliver.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 2:26 pm to Salviati
We never bring it up in front of her, unless she starts talking about it or asking why. Its only been a few days, but she will bring it up a few times each day. Most of the time she'll bring it up after dark. i sat her down a few times when she started not wanting to go in other rooms by herself and explained that i will not let nothing happen to her, especially not in our house! She said ok and seemed like she gets it but it doesnt last long.
And the coyote is very brave.... But as i was walking through the woods after it happened i found very well used trails, like used so much they dont even have leaves on them! I found several fresh piles of scat, so im thinking they are starting to get hard up for food and taking chances! About 15 years ago my dad had chickens, and every now and then we would see one come and snatch a bird, but that was close to the woods and farther away from humans.
And the coyote is very brave.... But as i was walking through the woods after it happened i found very well used trails, like used so much they dont even have leaves on them! I found several fresh piles of scat, so im thinking they are starting to get hard up for food and taking chances! About 15 years ago my dad had chickens, and every now and then we would see one come and snatch a bird, but that was close to the woods and farther away from humans.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 2:40 pm to TIGER984
Seeing something so visceral has obviously tweaked the sense of security she felt in the company of mom and dad.
As mentioned by several posters, kids are incredibly resilient and time will eventually fade things. However, kids also have incredible imaginations, so it's possible that her experience of that incident has fueled some horrifying scenarios in her young mind.
The important thing is to keep reassuring her that things are ok and that nature is sometimes mean or unfair.
Also, ask her if she has any questions about what happened. You'd be amazed at the things that might be running through her head over this.
Also, sit with her and educate her about coyotes via the internet or a picture book.
It all seems like overkill, but it an help.
Kids have a great capacity to understand life. Sometimes better than adults.
As mentioned by several posters, kids are incredibly resilient and time will eventually fade things. However, kids also have incredible imaginations, so it's possible that her experience of that incident has fueled some horrifying scenarios in her young mind.
The important thing is to keep reassuring her that things are ok and that nature is sometimes mean or unfair.
Also, ask her if she has any questions about what happened. You'd be amazed at the things that might be running through her head over this.
Also, sit with her and educate her about coyotes via the internet or a picture book.
It all seems like overkill, but it an help.
Kids have a great capacity to understand life. Sometimes better than adults.
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