I helped coach a 9-10 travel team(as well as some intramural teams) with a couple buddies from high school from the time I was 18-23 and can provide the following advice.
The first issue is that I don't have a kid in the league.
Not an issue, and make sure your assistants don't either.....we didn't ever have parents on the coaching staff and it worked great.
I asked the poor rec director about how the draft would work and he went through this spill about assigning points to the coaches sons and assistants sons and so on
We had a process where the regular league would play games, and from that the coaches would vote on who made the all-star team, but coaches couldn't vote for their own players. We had 2 wildcards we could pick ourselves. Most years this went well......we did have a couple issues with parents over this, but nothing major.
That being said, does anyone have recent experience on what to expect from the kids and parents in this age group?
I also coached for intramural 11-12 league and this age is really good, they are at the point where they are finally starting to get it and are able to better soak up the teaching. They are also a little more competitive than 9-10yr olds.
Dealing with the parents is another thing all together...like a couple other posters said, the best thing you can do is have a meeting with them prior to the start of the season and lay out your expectations, give them a sheet detailing all of your practices/games/team events so they know what to expect going on. Also let them know politely that if they disagree with something you are doing to take it up with you personally and not tell their kids to do differently.
We were really lucky and mostly got parents that supported and trusted us. They would also throw some killer parties and made sure all the alcoholic beverages a 18-23yr old could handle were available.
This post was edited on 3/6 at 12:37 am