re: Study: Cry it out method doesnt harm kids

Yes, let them cry it out.

I can't remember exactly but I think it was around 10-12 months. Your kid is 6 weeks old. You should expect to be up regularly. However, make sure they aren't getting the days and nights mixed up. That makes things difficult.

If you are lucky, you won't really start getting "great" sleep until 3 months. Everything gets better after 3 months.

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Not because they "got over it", but because they just knew no one was going to come for them.

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Hence the 3, 5, 10 minute intervals of going in to soothe them.

Crack heads and the like let their kids cry for hours and hours. Normal people do not.

Watch the John Oliver piece on what horseshite these "studies" are that are often cited on Good Morning America, in your local paper, and generally used as clickbait.

Many are about as scientific as an OT poll, paid for by persons with a vested interest, and the press releases often spin them way beyond their results.

LINK

So be skeptical when Kathie Lee tells you: "This is interesting. A new study shows that a combination of chocolate and beer is the secret to losing weight."

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We'll have plenty of time when they are older to "toughen them up

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It's not about that, but to each his own.

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infants who would just stop crying all together. Not because they "got over it", but because they just knew no one was going to come for them. Just a horrible thought. Never going to do it for our kids. Never. Crying is their only way of communicating, and they are going to know that we'll be there for them.

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You'll learn with your kids what cries are significant and which ones are simply for attention and fake. They're smarter than you give them credit, but you'll see that when you have your own.

New study out next week - cry it out method harms kids.


New study out next month - cry it out method doesn't harm kids

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Crack heads and the like let their kids cry for hours and hours. Normal people do not.

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We get lots of abused babies at work sadly. Always makes me sad when I see a baby that has to be by themselves in the room(cause there is no responsible family to care for the child).....and they never make a peep or seem to be upset that they are all alone. Means they are just used to being by themselves all the time.


However, like you said....letting your baby cry for a few minutes to see if they can self soothe and fall asleep is certainly not the same thing as letting a baby just cry nonstop. We've had patients on our floor that we basically raised (social cases and the baby had medical issues). In some cases the nurse may not be able to go into the room right away to soothe the baby when they cry(nurse may be with another patient). So they may cry for a couple minutes. Sometimes...when the nurse is able to go to the room...baby is already back asleep on their own.

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I guess we've also been fortunate that he's not really a heavy crier. Never has been. When we went through our phase of sleep training, we'd space it out. First time he starts crying, give him 5 minutes. Second time 10 minutes. There were some rough nights but he sleeps right through the night now. But yeah, we can tell when it's just "I don't want to be in bed" or "I'm mad I'm awake" (he does that a lot), or he's legit scared. Usually if he wakes up now we can wait it out and he'll put himself back down.

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Sounds like you do let him cry it out. I think there are different perceptions as to what that means.

Both of my boys slept all night - never an issue.

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I just find it hard to believe that letting them cry themselves to sleep is actually advisable. Granted, what amount of time are we talking about is the key.

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As you already pointed out, it depends not the cry.

My daughter cries periodically at bed time. She's 21 months old. 80% of the time it is the inconvenient whine of having to go to bed, but sometimes she gets herself worked up to the point where we go get her and calm her down. I mean if they're crying vigorously they'll give themselves a headache just like an adult would, so that makes the problem worse.

I think we've found a good balance of when it is okay to get her and when she needs to stay in bed, and I don't think we've developed any bad habits as a result because most of the time she goes to bed without incident.

I shared this blog post last time we had a young child parenting thread and I'd encourage anyone with kids or those expecting to take a few minutes to read it. I think it does a nice job putting things into perspective - LINK