re: OT lawyers assemble. Child care question.

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This may shed some light or confuse you more.

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But if not, you are a usurper. it's hard enough to be a single dad without having some guy trying to muscle in on your territory.

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no one is trying to "muscle in". The OP stated the boyfriend is a good guy. Kid probably agrees.

The more we hear about the OP and his ex's insecurities... The more I get the feeling this is about the parents, not the kid. Get past the pissing match.

My little girl calls my gf by her first name. Not ms.... Not mommy.... Just her first name. It's disrespectful to her mom to call my gf anything close to mommy

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shite like this scares the hell out of me. There's an objective part that says "you know, there are going to be other men in my children's life because my ex decided she wanted to do her own thing, and the best I can hope for is someone decent to be around them"

Then there's the machismo who's pride and honor are hurt at the thought of my kids calling anyone but me "daddy"

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I hear you loud and clear. It took me a long time to accept the fact that my son had another father figure in his life. But it was and is a fact. Since the man married my son;s Mother he was around my son more than I was. It took a long time for me to get over the fact that my son looked up to another man. To my son's Mother's credit she did everything she could to have my son understand that there was "Pop" and there was "Dad" and we all loved him and he should love and be happy with all of us, wherever he was on a given weekend. It stings, but years down the road it is amazing to see he interaction. I (and my son) are fortunate that "Pop" is a good and decent man.

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I will NEVER have my kids call any woman, (if I ever decide to have a serious relationship again) "mom" or any derivative. They have a Mommy, and regardless of the way she treated me, she loves our kids and I wouldn't disrespect her in that aspect by trying to replace her role.

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I never could do this, either.

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Why not just leave the significant others out of the picture while the kid is around? Seems like there'd be so much less drama surrounding the kid. If I only had my kid half the time, the last thing I'd want is a third party competing for my attention.

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True. You stooped to her level on this one OP.

I think he was talking about you sticking her on the daycare pickup list.

Bitch move

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I would never be able to marry and have more kids by your suggestion. Or even move in with my gf. Bc then I'd have to kick her out half of the time. I would never have a relationship for 16 more years bc no woman would put up with that.

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And your kid would thrive in that kind of situation.

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.soothe my tempest soul.

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