My Wife Has Been Diagnosed with Lupus

Isn't that when the body attacks itself?

I think it largely depends on what type it is. Or, more specifically, how it manifests itself in her.

A girl I know beat its arse, and so can your wife. Good vibes to you both and Prayers sent!

One of my closest friends has this. She is a few years younger than me and frequently has bad arthritis pain in her hands. Otherwise than that, she lives a normal life. Couple years ago she got a medical marijuana card(her boss was the one to suggest it). She smokes maybe once a week(or takes edibles) and she says that has helped her lupus more than anything else. That she was able to get off a few meds because she wasn't having as much pain/swelling in her hands.

A friend's wife has had it for years and I never knew until recently. My mother's friend was 'diagnosed" with Lupus from a Baton Rouge doctor and then found out years later that she never had it. God Bless

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Some people have minimal symptoms and live normal lives

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that's me, good luck to OP

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Your friend is a criminal

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How so?

My wife's little cousin was diagnosed with that. Every med they put her on made it worse. After about 3 doctors and 2 1/2 years of missed diagnosis turned out to be lime disease. I'm no doc but I'm sure that's a better situation. Prayers to you and your family.

No family members, but I've had friends and I deal with it a lot, professionally (don't ask). I don't intend for this to be preachy, so sorry if it gets there for you.

The disease progresses differently, sometimes vastly, for most patients. There are exciting new drugs and treatment modalities coming out to treat various parts of it. Patients generally have to cycle onto Prednisone periodically, and that's a devil's bargain if there ever was one.

The basics remain the same, though. Remain as active as possible (although she will likely have to watch her sun exposure, particularly with various medications), eat right, get plenty of fluids, exercise, while avoiding things that cause inflammation. It is an autoimmune response, by and large (similar to RA), so you want an immune system that is neither robust nor weak - which will cause problems as she ages.

Her health maintenance just became a full-time job. She will have good days, and bad days (flares). Flares may last days or weeks. You will have to do more to help when she's doing poorly and you should not be resentful about it - it is what it is. You took some sort of oath, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, and all that - now is the time that stops being BS and starts to mean something.

Good news - there has never been a better time in history to have lupus and it is not a death sentence. It constitutes a lifelong, chronic disease that will affect the quality of both of your lives. The better you handle it the better off you'll be.

Good luck and G-d bless you both.

Should you start using condoms now?