re: My sister passed about a week ago

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Awful

Dont be alone. Go stay with your dad

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My mom is in bad health and stays with me. Dad is a lot like me and needs time alone to process it. I've come to the OT several times before when tragedy has stricken and every time yall help so much. Embo was my first friend I made here. I haven't posted much in the past few months dealing with other family stuff. I really hope all of you know you make such a difference in people's lives being there when everything goes to shite. I mean that with all of me. I did a telemed appt, got my Ativan filled and they're setting me up with a grief counselor, but reading these replies makes me not feel alone in this, and right now that's what I really need.

My condolences man. I lost my mom and my brother in August and November respectively. Mom was expected, she got a terminal diagnosis and it was mercifully quick. I felt like she prepared us all by the way she was and how she raised up. My brother, on the other hand, was totally unexpected. That makes it extra hard, You look back and start with the I should have. That's a dark spiral, get out of that as soon as you recognize it.

And don't be afraid to seek grief counseling, It is someone that can help you figure out how to release and channel your grief. Encourage your dad also. One thing I know, thankfully not from direct experience, losing a child is very very difficult.

I also lost two sisters in the past 6 years, my mom told my little sister that she did not think she could bury another child, it was a mercy she passed before my brother. So stay in frequent contact with your dad, if you go to grief counseling, tell your dad you want him to go with you to help you out.

Hopefully what I posted might be helpful to you.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I’m so sorry. I’m still in the pits of grief from a loss last year. I remember feeling weird the first time I laughed after. It’s such an odd, sad time. Rely on those who relate and don’t shy away when you’re at your lowest. Those are your people. Thinking of you!

I cope with losing loved ones by thinking I will soon see them in heaven.

That’s some sad stuff bro. I agree you need to go earth out by yourself. Get your thoughts together.

Sent a quick prayer that God dispatch angels of comfort, mercy, strength, hope and love to you and your family to help you through this awful time in your lives. I hope you find peace soon.

Sincere condolences, I don't handle grief well, I get angry and sullen. I hope you find peace, it can be elusive, but it's out there for you somewhere.

There is an old Native American Tale that basically says that when we enter the afterlife we are given a torch to light the path to our new journey and that if our loved ones we left behind linger too long with tears of grief that it extinguishes the torch and only delays that journey. It's ok to hurt and miss your sister but let her get on with her journey. I promise you that your sister does not want you or your family to suffer prolonged grief for her. She wants you to be happy and to get on with your journey. Acquire all the good traits that were in her and put them to use and their is no better way to honor her.