My Mom has been getting worse with her dementia

Very sorry to hear that, dementia is absolutely brutal and I don't wish that upon anybody.

My grandma moved in with us in high school when she started suffering from it. It just got worse and worse, I would come home in the middle of the night and she would be sitting on the couch. "I'm just waiting for my ride", hadn't talked to anybody, it was 2am. She would accuse me of stealing her makeup (I was a 16 year old guy)...and crazy stuff like that. It really took a toll on my mom. I will ask my mom if there was anything that helped and get back to you.

Wish I had more to offer, sorry brother. I will be praying for y'all.

Sorry to hear. It’s just an awful illness. My best friends dad died a week ago. And his mom passed away just 5 months ag from it.

My grandmother has dementia. She is still in her house and we have two people stay with her and we do all we can. She is healthy as can be other then her mind is gone. She remembers things that happened in the past but nothing short term.
The worse is what they call sundowners syndrome. Around 4:00 everyday she gets mean as can be.
Meds do help with this (they just really take it down a notch).
It is a tough call to even out someone in a home and we have not had to yet because she is physically ok.
Make sure there are no car keys around they could get.
Keep them busy with little daily chores. Finding clothes for some reason works for us. If we are eating there we always have her do one thing like maybe the salad. If that becomes to stressful for them or just having food cooked to stressful with all the stuff going on just make it simple and order food to be delivered.
They will do stuff like throw their pills down the sink etc don’t take it to hard.

Prayers for the whole family.

My mom was the one to be with my grandma during the day as it progressed with her. It was rough on my mom when she would say mean or hateful things which wasn't her whatsoever. My grandmother would hide the most random things all over the house (pistachio bags, remotes, coasters, anything). They have yet to find multiple very expensive diamond rings, worth quite a lot of money.

So if there's anything valuable or sentimental that she won't know is missing, I would take it.

When she would get wound up, my mom would put her in their older car, and just drive around for hours and once she was "home" again, she was better. My grandfather who had been married to her for over 50 years told us that she would tell him to get out of the house. He was a stranger and he wasn't supposed to be there. I can't imagine the pain that was to hear and go through

So a couple of things:

Has she received an official Alzheimer's diagnosis from a doctor at this point? If she has (and I highly recommend getting her to one if she hasn't) and she's on Medicaid she should qualify for in-home care.

If I remember correctly, you're in Kentucky. Here are some links to possibly help you get local resources to help out with your caregiving. Jennifer Craig is the Dementia Services Coordinator and if you shoot her an email at Jennifer.craig@ky.gov she also may be able to direct you to services/groups in your area.

Kentucky Office of Dementia Services

Greater Kentucky/Southern Indiana Chapter of Alzheimer's Association

Join a dementia support group or 2 on Facebook. I thought they were very useful for information when I was taking care of my Dad.

Also, see if there is a council on aging in your town. They can offer services as well, like meals on wheels and other things.

Finally, if you leave her alone very much at all, I would take the knobs off the stove.

Does your mom receive a social security payment each month? If yes, it can be used to offset the cost of a nursing home. Depending on the facility chosen, additional costs to you or other family members may be minimal.

My mom was becoming forgetful in 2020 & 2021, but after having a heart attack in May '21, full blown dementia took over. She died in August of that year, but it was a LONG 3 months watching the rapid decline of a woman who had previously been so alert and aware.

You have my sympathies and prayers, as I don't know how you've managed it over several years. It has to be torturous.

Good luck, and may God bless you and everyone who loves and cares about your mom.

I am so sorry. I am sending up a prayer for you and your mother as I type out this reply.

Dementia is a hospice diagnosis.....They will not provide sitters, but will send Nurses to suggest meds, pay for meds, send volunteers to read to her or cut grass, etc. Nurse Aides to bath her, and a social worker to help find care needed, and a minister. It costs nothing and provides a lot of help.
Talk to her physician about admitting her and then call a hospice provider you know or trust, and get her signed up...Also Charlies's place is an Alzheimer's respite care facility where you can drop her off a couple of times a week to give your Dad some time away from her care. Good luck..I know it is impossibly hard.