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My girlfriend tried to kill herself
Posted on 6/20/17 at 8:57 pm
Posted on 6/20/17 at 8:57 pm
Umm I don't really know how to talk about this, but I feel like I need to get it out so here goes. Please ignore any misspellings or jumbled and non-sensible phrases. My mind is wandering and I'm not thinking straight.
My girlfriend, the love of my life, attempted to kill herself yesterday. I had talked her out of it before, and she had previously been to see a professional for help, but something snapped 2 days ago. I don't know why she chose to do this, no one knows yet, but she is in a very bad shape.
What I do know is this: she was rushed to the ER yesterday, and she had lost approximately 3 pints of blood by the time she arrived. For a tiny girl like she is, that's a lot. She spent last night in the ER; getting stitches, blood transfusions and being force fed.
Sometime today she was transported to a mental institution and she is being kept on round the clock watch for a minimum of the next 3 weeks. No one, not even her family, are allowed to see and have contact with her.
The worst part is I feel like I should've stopped it from happening. I've talked to her parents and they both say it wasn't my fault but I feel that if I had been there it wouldn't have happened. I can't help but blame myself for this.
Fellow OT baws, I'm asking for prayers. I'm very worried for her and I pray that she's getting the very best care possible. I'm worried that the next time I see the woman I had planned on spending my life with will be when she's laying in a casket.
Does anyone know how to deal with this? Have any of you ever been through something similar to this? The pain I feel in my heart I would not wish upon my worst enemy. I feel like absolute shite..
Thank you all for taking the time to read this. God bless you
My girlfriend, the love of my life, attempted to kill herself yesterday. I had talked her out of it before, and she had previously been to see a professional for help, but something snapped 2 days ago. I don't know why she chose to do this, no one knows yet, but she is in a very bad shape.
What I do know is this: she was rushed to the ER yesterday, and she had lost approximately 3 pints of blood by the time she arrived. For a tiny girl like she is, that's a lot. She spent last night in the ER; getting stitches, blood transfusions and being force fed.
Sometime today she was transported to a mental institution and she is being kept on round the clock watch for a minimum of the next 3 weeks. No one, not even her family, are allowed to see and have contact with her.
The worst part is I feel like I should've stopped it from happening. I've talked to her parents and they both say it wasn't my fault but I feel that if I had been there it wouldn't have happened. I can't help but blame myself for this.
Fellow OT baws, I'm asking for prayers. I'm very worried for her and I pray that she's getting the very best care possible. I'm worried that the next time I see the woman I had planned on spending my life with will be when she's laying in a casket.
Does anyone know how to deal with this? Have any of you ever been through something similar to this? The pain I feel in my heart I would not wish upon my worst enemy. I feel like absolute shite..
Thank you all for taking the time to read this. God bless you
This post was edited on 6/20/17 at 9:02 pm
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Posted on 6/20/17 at 8:59 pm to Zlatan
quote:
both say it wasn't my fault but I feel that if I had been there it wouldn't have happened. I can't help but blame myself for this.
You need to work past this. It's nothing to do with you nor could you have prevented it.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 8:59 pm to Zlatan
Damn son. I don't have anything to add, but I'm praying she pulls through. 
Posted on 6/20/17 at 8:59 pm to Zlatan
Well...
This post was edited on 6/20/17 at 9:00 pm
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:00 pm to Zlatan
First of all you cant STOP someone from feeling the desperation and pain that leads to an attempt on their life.
That pain comes from inside, DEEP INSIDE. Perhaps caused by past trauma, perhaps its chemical. Regardless its not something you can control.
Right now you probably need to find a therapist yourself, get some tools you can use to recover so that when shes ready you can be there for her.
That pain comes from inside, DEEP INSIDE. Perhaps caused by past trauma, perhaps its chemical. Regardless its not something you can control.
Right now you probably need to find a therapist yourself, get some tools you can use to recover so that when shes ready you can be there for her.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:00 pm to Zlatan
Damn
Y'all are in my prayers. That's some shite I've never had to deal with thank God.
Y'all are in my prayers. That's some shite I've never had to deal with thank God.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:01 pm to Zlatan
quote:
The worst part is I feel like I should've stopped it from happening.
Mental illness is something that comes from within one's own head. It's easy to blame yourself but it's something she'll have to deal with herself, with the help of mental health professionals and friends and family to support her.
It doesn't matter how great someone's life seems to be on the outside, mental illness can afflict anyone. And unfortunately is often the case they'll struggle with it their entire lives. There's not really a "cure". Just different ways of coping.
Good luck.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:03 pm to Zlatan
It's not about you. In a good way and, I guess, a bad way.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:03 pm to Zlatan
Best of luck to you and all involved.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:04 pm to Zlatan
quote:
I'm worried that the next time I see the woman I had planned on spending my life with will be when she's laying in a casket.
Man, I'm hoping she pulls through, but you have decisions ahead of you I'd hate to have to make. The above being the toughest.
Best of luck to you both. Depression is a mother fricker.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:04 pm to OWLFAN86
quote:thank you, and part of me knows that. there is just a part nagging at my brain and my heart saying that I could have prevented it
First of all you cant STOP someone from feeling the desperation and pain that leads to an attempt on their life.
That pain comes from inside, DEEP INSIDE. Perhaps caused by past trauma, perhaps its chemical. Regardless its not something you can control.
quote:I am going to. I want her to know that she has me to lean on when she gets back, and I need to be as strong as possible and prepared for it
Right now you probably need to find a therapist yourself, get some tools you can use to recover so that when shes ready you can be there for her.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:05 pm to Whoopdedo_LSU
quote:thank you, from the bottom of my heart
Y'all are in my prayers.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:05 pm to Zlatan
You need to bounce, man. She will be successful eventually, and you don't want to raise a few kids by yourself. Also, that shite will pass to your kids.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:05 pm to Zlatan
Prayers sent. Hopefully in 3 weeks she comes out with the proper treatment and short term and long term direction to continue to get her past this.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:06 pm to Zlatan
It's not a rational decision, so you can't overthink it as something that necessarily has a cause.
It can also be temporary. With younger people it can be a maturity issue that can be overcome with better coping skills.
Professional help CAN work, so stay supportive and open minded. If you want a relationship with her, be prepared to join her at several of her counseling sessions when she's ready.
It can also be temporary. With younger people it can be a maturity issue that can be overcome with better coping skills.
Professional help CAN work, so stay supportive and open minded. If you want a relationship with her, be prepared to join her at several of her counseling sessions when she's ready.
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:06 pm to Zlatan
quote:right now thats all you can do
I am going to. I want her to know that she has me to lean on when she gets back, and I need to be as strong as possible and prepared for it
Do that and be ready to do more when the time comes
Posted on 6/20/17 at 9:06 pm to Zlatan
No advice besides it's not your fault. It's something in her that she needs to get help dealing with. I feel for you and her family. Hopefully she'll get better after this.
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