re: My dad is dying....Updated RIP Dad

Posted by Ace Midnight

Between sanity and madness

Member since Dec 2006

89552 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:20 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

quote:
He's 73 and his kidneys and liver are shutting down and his potassium levels are extremely high. He called me last night and told me to get ready for the worst. I feel completely helpless!

I lost my dad for similar reasons a couple of years back, and he was also about that age. He had dementia, but it was just immediate/new information he was losing - he still knew all of us, so we had that to be thankful for.

Do what you can, while you can. Prayers sent.

Posted by ctiger69

Member since May 2005

30616 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:23 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

Prayers sent

Posted by NatalbanyTigerFan

On the water somewhere

Member since Oct 2007

7615 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:25 am to ctiger69

I have to tell my boss I'm taking off tomorrow to help get things in order for my dad and I just know he's going to be a total dick!
Can't deal with that dude right now!

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Posted by Cali-to-Death Valley

SF Bay Area

Member since Dec 2004

746 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:25 am to rebeloke

Prayers sent for your father, you and those who love you both.

Posted by Keltic Tiger

Baton Rouge

Member since Dec 2006

19303 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:25 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

I lost my dad way too young, 61, so take whatever time you have left with him & make it quality time.

Posted by Gris Gris

OTIS!NO RULES FOR SAUCES ON STEAK!!

Member since Feb 2008

47397 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:27 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

Be with him. It will help him and you deal with this when the time comes. Prayers for strength. Such hard hard stuff.

Posted by LSUvegasbombed

Red Stick

Member since Sep 2013

15464 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:27 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

quote:
he's going to be a total dick

I wouldnt really ask him. I would just tell his arse whats up

Posted by allsports34

Dallas Tx.

Member since Dec 2010

1269 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:30 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

Sorry to hear, lost mine 15 years ago and still hurts, you just learn to live with it...
Best advice someone gave me was...after my dads passing you really just can't get those last few days out of your mind..You need to force yourself to look through all the fun times and what a great influence he was to you...that will make you smile every time you think of him....
Hang in there...

Posted by Droplinebacker

Member since Jan 2004

787 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:36 am to allsports34

Lost mine a couple of years ago at age 73. My only advice is spend as much time with him right now as you can, every minute you're not at work - stay with him in his hospital room even if it's only to sleep there, etc. Just be there as much as you can. You'll be thankful for it later. Very sorry you have to go thru this.

Posted by oleyeller

Vols, Bitch

Member since Oct 2012

32021 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:37 am to Droplinebacker

i wouldnt worry about the boss. They will get over it. Go be with your dad

Posted by ForeverLSU02

Albany

Member since Jun 2007

52148 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:37 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

I hate to hear this man. Keep him comfortable as possible

Posted by theronswanson

House built with my hands

Member since Feb 2012

2976 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:39 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

quote:
I have to tell my boss I'm taking off tomorrow to help get things in order for my dad and I just know he's going to be a total dick!
Can't deal with that dude right now!

Your dad is about to die, so don't those work things seem really trivial right now? If your boss isn't understanding then he is a total d-bag and doesn't deserve your being employed there.

Posted by Tigr4evr

Luziana

Member since Dec 2007

413 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:41 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

Prayers for him and you and Family.
When we knew Dad's time was near,he and I had a good long talk, just us two. Told him all the things I wanted him to know.

Posted by iSpy

Member since Sep 2015

274 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:42 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

My mom just passed away and it's so hard . Let your Dad know how much you love him and anything else you need to say to him. Do it now , don't wait. I thought my mom would be coherent for longer than she was and I didn't get to tell her I loved her one last time and it's breaking my heart. I am happy I was her caregiver and I was with her everyday . She went down so quickly , way before I thought she would . Prayers for you and your Dad !

This post was edited on 10/22/15 at 10:47 am

Posted by Isabelle81

NEW ORLEANS, LA

Member since Sep 2015

2718 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:43 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

I am so sorry.

Posted by FightinTigersDammit

Louisiana North

Member since Mar 2006

34695 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:46 am to lsusteve1

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Prayers bro Lost my Dad 3 years ago

Four years ago here. I think about him often.

Posted by bigwheel

Lake Charles

Member since Feb 2008

6491 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:46 am to tigerbutt

prayers sent

Posted by Droplinebacker

Member since Jan 2004

787 posts

Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:47 am to NatalbanyTigerFan

quote:
have to tell my boss I'm taking off tomorrow to help get things in order for my dad and I just know he's going to be a total dick!
Can't deal with that dude right now!

Jobs come and go. Dads, not so much.

If ur boss has lost a parent, he will understand. If he hasn't and has a problem with u taking a little time off, chances are you won't last much longer working with this guy anyway. Life happens.

Again, very sorry you have to go thru this, and prayers for you, your dad, and your family.