re: Is Dating in 2017 & Beyond A Dying Mentality?

I bet you really start hating on women once you are drunk.

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Me and LL need to come party with you

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You aren't lying.

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I believe in that too, prob is I have countless friends married and divorced by 30. So it seems people aren't willing to put in the work anymore.

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I really and truly believe this is the case. People get all of these expectations of what marriage is supposed to "feel" like. They see the examples of their parents and think either "I don't want to be anything like them" or "I want to have exactly what they have". When anything's negative, they freak out about one side or the other turning into their parents. Or the inverse, they're not enough like their parents. It's extremely unreasonable to expect that one's marriage in the first 2 years will resemble what they remember of their parents' marriage in its 20th year, but that's cognitive dissidence for you.

People are impatient, and once you plan for failure, you basically resign yourself to it. In our culture, divorce is considered the norm, not the exception. It's always available if one is willing to go through the steps. Thus, when people get impatient, when things aren't going so well, they see an option to escape and eventually take it rather than sticking out, accepting that this should be permanent, and figuring out how to make it better.

Blaming others is easy. Blaming one's self is less easy, but actually changing one's self, actually accepting others for who they are and learning to love them and yourself despite those flaws, and learning how to live with another human being and not resent them for their annoying quirks is really really hard. As a society, we just seem to lack that grit, lack that driving motivation to stick it out. We have the option to run away, and so many of us do.

Kingbob dropping some Atomic truth bombs up in this bitch.

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(lust + security) x trust > 100
It seems like women are “in love” over 100, but they waffle internally when the score falls between 90 and 100. It seems like once the score drops below 90, they “fall out” of love and start looking for ways to rationalize why it’s his fault and why they need to find someone else.

Does this seem plausible or is there some other factor you would add?

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you have dropped some poignant observations in this thread, my dude, but this was like the ultimate expression of the male brain trying (read: failing) to understand women.