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re: In need of prayers
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:06 am to RandySavage
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:06 am to RandySavage
In. OP literally FAFO'd
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Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:07 am to RandySavage
Well, she didn't kill you in your sleep, so that's positive momentum, I guess.
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:07 am to RandySavage
Did you confess in an attempt to make yourself feel better?
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:07 am to RandySavage
TLDR version:
"Hey guys I am a PoS who now has to face the consequences of my actions. Please pray for me"
"Hey guys I am a PoS who now has to face the consequences of my actions. Please pray for me"
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:08 am to LSUSkip
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Well, she didn't kill you in your sleep, so that's positive momentum, I guess.
I doubt he slept. And now we have to see how this other fella reacts.
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:08 am to RandySavage
It's undefeated. Thy pussy.
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:08 am to jpainter6174
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This will also cost me my job
Stay at home dad?
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:09 am to RandySavage
You should pray for reconciliation. Your children don't deserve this over a piece of arse.
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:09 am to OysterPoBoy
She roughed me up pretty good and rightfully so. I've already talked to the other guy
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:10 am to RandySavage
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Soul crushing guilt
I could see "soul crushing guilt" if you made the mistake once and regretted it but you said you carried on the affair. You obviously felt no guilt or remorse to keep the affair going.
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:11 am to RandySavage
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In need of prayers
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I told my wife last night about an affair i had been carrying on with one of her good friends.
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RandySavage
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We have three young amazing children whose childhoods i have irreparably harmed.
This is true, and this is what happens when you think one pussy is better than the one you have.
One thing you will need to understand is that your wife will experience all the emotions. Shock, loss, betrayal, deceitfulness, hurt, anger, trauma, etc. You name it. She's allowed to, and she can do it on her own timeline, even if you are remorseful and have stopped your adulterous behavior. She not only loss the one person she should be able to trust the most, you, she also lost that with one of her good friends as well.
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:12 am to RandySavage
One year. That is how long it will take for the initial shockwave and fall out to settle down.
Five years. That is how long it will take you to get back to a manageable financial place.
In the meantime, the best thing you can do to insure a positive relationship with your kids and some workable relationship with their mother (whether that is continuing marriage or co-parenting as ex-spouses) is to work on yourself and find out why this happened.
I suggest you start visiting a counselor. You got a lot of shite to work through and if you are coming to a chat board for prayers then I suspect you do not have a strong support network.
Advice from a guy who has seen this same scenario played out over and over
Five years. That is how long it will take you to get back to a manageable financial place.
In the meantime, the best thing you can do to insure a positive relationship with your kids and some workable relationship with their mother (whether that is continuing marriage or co-parenting as ex-spouses) is to work on yourself and find out why this happened.
I suggest you start visiting a counselor. You got a lot of shite to work through and if you are coming to a chat board for prayers then I suspect you do not have a strong support network.
Advice from a guy who has seen this same scenario played out over and over
This post was edited on 7/3/23 at 10:27 am
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:12 am to Will Cover
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this is what happens when you think one pussy is better than the one you have
Sometimes it is, but I don't suppose that is the real issue here.
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:14 am to stout
I ended it several weeks ago. The first few weeks i felt amazing and free and resolved to spend the rest of my time on earth being the best husband possible then out of nowhere the overwhelming guilt kicked in and was a force like nothing I've ever experienced. I obviously have great regret that it took so long
Also we never had sex
Also we never had sex
This post was edited on 7/3/23 at 7:16 am
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:15 am to RandySavage
Randy,
one thing I would is to start to look for counseling. Do the research yourself without asking and without expectations. Find something like this in your area that offers family, individual, marriage and youth counseling.
Speak to someone yourself and get guidance. Ask about a session for you and your kids offer for the wife too and make sure they have an outlet that is not you or your wife.
I know you said this might cost you your job but many employer based health insurance plans even cover 10+ sessions a year so look to see if your have any coverage. Maybe your wife has something that covers the kids, etc.?
one thing I would is to start to look for counseling. Do the research yourself without asking and without expectations. Find something like this in your area that offers family, individual, marriage and youth counseling.
Speak to someone yourself and get guidance. Ask about a session for you and your kids offer for the wife too and make sure they have an outlet that is not you or your wife.
I know you said this might cost you your job but many employer based health insurance plans even cover 10+ sessions a year so look to see if your have any coverage. Maybe your wife has something that covers the kids, etc.?
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:15 am to RandySavage
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Yes unfortunately
Oof
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:17 am to BR92
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Sometimes it is, but I don't suppose that is the real issue here.
I agree, it's something much larger than this. This is more of a symptom. The root of the issue is failed communication, not listening to the other's needs, no longer feeling wanted or desired, forgetting to date each other, etc. --- which leads to a person seeking validation outside of their marriage.
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:18 am to RandySavage
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Also we never had sex
So you fricked around and didn't even frick around? WTF
This post was edited on 7/3/23 at 7:19 am
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:18 am to RandySavage
How was the sex? Was she hot?
Asking for us married guys who stay faithful to their wives.
Asking for us married guys who stay faithful to their wives.
Posted on 7/3/23 at 7:18 am to RandySavage
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I ended it several weeks ago
Doesn't matter IMO. You carried on the affair for a period of time. It wasn't like it was a one-time accident which is not right but more forgivable.
Every time you were with the other person it was about you and you were not thinking about what you were doing to your wife and kids.
Then you say this...
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. The first few weeks i felt amazing and free and resolved to spend the rest of my time on earth being the best husband possible then out of nowhere the overwhelming guilt kicked in and was a force like nothing I've ever experienced.
So you waited a few weeks to tell her and only did so to relieve yourself of guilt. You didn't do this for your wife and kids and yet again they were the furtherest thing from your mind. This is not about your wife and kids but about you. You are a self-centered person.
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Also we never had sex
WTF?
This post was edited on 7/3/23 at 7:20 am
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