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How to find your happy median between being happy and amount of money you make?
Posted on 11/11/16 at 11:46 am
Posted on 11/11/16 at 11:46 am
Im sure many have/are in the same situation Im in now. I worked my way up to a very well paying career over the course of 8yrs with the same company. But Ive gotten to the point that Im just miserable at work now. I work super long hours (leave at 530am and get home around 7-8) and barely see my kids now because they are typically in bed for 8. Im stuck in a tough spot where I know I could take a sizable paycut and we would be ok financially, but how would prospective employers typically look at that? Would they think something is wrong or that Im not very motivated that Im willing to take about a third of a paycut to be happier and be able to be home at a normal time? I like the role Im in, and wouldnt mind staying in a similar type role, but damn I just want to be able to turn off my phone and not have to answer an email at any time of the night once I leave, pick up my daughter from dance class, or be able to go to their practice or ball game when that time comes.
What was your tipping point and how has it worked for you? I wont lie, I love the fact that we have been blessed financially but Im really at that point where money isnt everything.
Thank you in advance to those who give meaningful responses but Im sure the fry cook to front counter comments will come as well.
What was your tipping point and how has it worked for you? I wont lie, I love the fact that we have been blessed financially but Im really at that point where money isnt everything.
Thank you in advance to those who give meaningful responses but Im sure the fry cook to front counter comments will come as well.
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Posted on 11/11/16 at 11:48 am to JOHNN
Johnn, goodd luckk heree withh yourr mee firstt atitudee.
Posted on 11/11/16 at 11:51 am to JOHNN
You sound like a delicate little snowflake
Posted on 11/11/16 at 11:52 am to JOHNN
I'm the opposite. I don't work very hard at all and make pretty good money. I could work a lot harder and make a lot more money but I'm happy
Posted on 11/11/16 at 11:54 am to JOHNN
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I just want to be able to turn off my phone and not have to answer an email at any time of the night once I leave
Is anyone going to die if you don't answer?
If not, turn the shite off and don't answer. If they can't respect that then id find somewhere else to work.
Posted on 11/11/16 at 11:57 am to JOHNN
Kinda in the same spot except I am waiting for my kids to come off child support. Daughter comes off next year and my youngest is 16 years old so not much longer to go. I have kinda plateaued at my position. Been with my company 17 years. I just want change and am wiling to take a paycut to find a better schedule and more me time. Want to travel and do bucket list stuff. Good luck 
Posted on 11/11/16 at 12:06 pm to gatorhater08
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I'm the opposite. I don't work very hard at all and make pretty good money. I could work a lot harder and make a lot more money but I'm happy
Thats part of the problem though. The company knows what Ive done and so its expected to always do better month after month. I know thats what I signed up for and have been compensated for. I'll work my arse off with any job Ive had but at some point you get to the point where you can only do so much and being miserable at work starts to show at home.
Ive been a firm believer that I would always promote positivity with my kids since they look up to my wife and I as their example in life. How can I expect them to be positive about things at school (essentially a childs first career) when I am miserable doing what I do. I obviously have stuck with it in order to provide for my family but when is enough enough and its time to move on to something that doesnt make me hate going to work every day?
Posted on 11/11/16 at 12:12 pm to JOHNN
Welcome to adulthood. You don't have off days? Vacation time? Nothing on this earth is more important than your children. Sounds like the kids are young and will be able to stay up later soon. I wouldn't leave a well paying job when in the next year or two, they will be able to stay up later. Make a conscious effort to leave work earlier some days. On your off days, spend 100% time with them. Let them know that you love them with all
Your being, but you also have to work to provide for them and their future. Hell. Take your lunch break and pick them up from school/daycare and just hang out with them/have lunch with them.
Your being, but you also have to work to provide for them and their future. Hell. Take your lunch break and pick them up from school/daycare and just hang out with them/have lunch with them.
Posted on 11/11/16 at 12:17 pm to JOHNN
How valuable is your time? My free time is extremely valuable, therefore I sell it at a very high price. I value my time away from work. I'm not willing to give it up unless the price is so great that it would change my life tremendously.
Work/life balance, everyone needs it. If you have kids, spending time is more important than making extra money unless it means they'll suffer.
Work/life balance, everyone needs it. If you have kids, spending time is more important than making extra money unless it means they'll suffer.
Posted on 11/11/16 at 12:18 pm to 7thWardTiger
I make ok money, but I won't kid you, I'm only at my current company b/c I get 8 wks of vacation a year. The time off is worth more to me than salary. I travel a lot and it's nice to have that time off. I have friends who make $20k a year more than me, but only get a week or two vacation time. They envy me, not the other way around
Posted on 11/11/16 at 12:38 pm to JOHNN
Either get a promotion, take the pay cut, or make a move to another company
Posted on 11/11/16 at 12:39 pm to 7thWardTiger
My daighters are 7, 4 and we are about to have another girl in mid Dec. And yes I have weekends off. I think part of my stress is the fact that my pregnant wife is beyond awesome with making sure the kids are taken care of every morning and evening, takes care of whatever needs to be done, and never complains about the hours I work despite having a stressful job herself. To me, she shouldnt have to do almost everything on her own because Im always at work. At least thats not how I was brought up as a child. Yea my job is to provide for my family but at the same time Im also supposed to be a father and husband as well.
I think Im going to start off by setting an alarm on my phone where I need to stop at 5/530 everyday no matter what. That would at least be a start. In the meantime I'll continue to see what else is out there
I think Im going to start off by setting an alarm on my phone where I need to stop at 5/530 everyday no matter what. That would at least be a start. In the meantime I'll continue to see what else is out there
This post was edited on 11/11/16 at 12:41 pm
Posted on 11/11/16 at 12:43 pm to JOHNN
Damn I wish I could turn my phone off at 5 o'clock everyday. Unfortunately if I'm not accessible I might as well shut the doors and go work someplace where I have to punch a clock.
Posted on 11/11/16 at 1:07 pm to JOHNN
I was in that spot. I took a big pay decrease for a less stressful position/life. My family life and quality of life improved a ton, but I have grown complacent and discontent with living on less. For me, it has been difficult to get back to where I was. I have been trying to find a happy middle ground, but no such luck yet with the right opportunity. However, I'm in process on a potential opportunity that sounds like it will be the perfect combination for me.
Long story short...it was probably worth it for me, but I do second guess my decision often.
Long story short...it was probably worth it for me, but I do second guess my decision often.
Posted on 11/11/16 at 1:14 pm to JOHNN
I am in a similar situation. I work really hard but a lot is expected from me.
I show up around 730, no one else come in until 830-9, I usually leave by 530 or when I am at a good stopping point.
My boss chastises me for leaving early even though I stay later than other people because they rely on my work. I work for a small company.
I want to have time to enjoy my life and not feel guilty for missing a day with a 100 degree fever. I am looking to get in with a larger company where I can go in, do my work, then go home and not worry about it and live my life
I show up around 730, no one else come in until 830-9, I usually leave by 530 or when I am at a good stopping point.
My boss chastises me for leaving early even though I stay later than other people because they rely on my work. I work for a small company.
I want to have time to enjoy my life and not feel guilty for missing a day with a 100 degree fever. I am looking to get in with a larger company where I can go in, do my work, then go home and not worry about it and live my life
Posted on 11/11/16 at 1:30 pm to RJL2
Money is absolutely meaningless if you do not have time for yourself or family.
If you are making enough to pay for your typical expenses and still have enough to put away for savings/retirement, that's all you need.
If you are making enough to pay for your typical expenses and still have enough to put away for savings/retirement, that's all you need.
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