re: Have you ever had an intervention with a friend if you didn't like their SO?

One of my best friends hooked up with a chick much younger than him. She is a complete bitch & I don't particularly care for her for a # of reasons. For the 1st year of their relationship my buddy cheated on her and I knew all about it. Well this chick has never liked me from the very beginning & has always blamed me for pretty much every problem that they have ever had as a couple. She used to constantly talk shite about me to some of our mutual friends & about 5 years ago I finally told my buddy that he had a choice. I told him that he could either get his bitch arse ole lady under control or I was going to allow my wife to fricking skull drag her arse the next time she opened her mouth about me. I also told him that he was a fricking bitch for not sticking up for me when she was running her mouth about me. I told him that I had held my tounge about a whole lot of stuff & that if she knew half of what I knew, he would be in all kinds of trouble with her.

That was a little over 5 years ago. he married the count & they have 2 kids together. he sent me a random email about 3 years ago asking how I was doing & he admitted that his wife was a total fricking bitch. I haven't heard from him since then.

I guess he is doing ok. Honestly I could care less. i don't have to deal with that dumb bitch everyday, so it's no sweat off my back. It really sucks that I lost one of my best friends over it, but oh well.

I've had discussions with one friend about his SO's in the past. Generally, I let him make his own decissions, but that doesn't mean I won't tell him when he's dating trashy fat whores. I have this one friend (early 20s) who rather than date women that have just one fatal flaw (ugly, trashy, morbidly obese, insane, mean, have kids, pathological lier, klepto, old, ect), he dates women that have all of these qualities at once. I often have to tell him my opinion on these women because when I don't, it blows up disastrously in his face like a package from ACME destined for Wiley Coyote.

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Stay the frick out of it.

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I was the only one out of 3-4 close friends to tell my buddy that his wife was almost certainly cheating on him (she was). Great guy and really good friend - thought he should know what everyone else suspected. He thanked me, they ended up working through it and remain married to this day. He hasn't spoken to me since (almost 20 years).

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Stay the frick out of it.

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B, B, B.

I have a similar situation right now. It's horrible to watch, but if you say something, you're the bad guy.

Then again, I know another couple...and the week before they got married, the groomsmen had an "intervention" with the guy, and told him they'd never talk to him again and would refuse to walk in his wedding if he didn't get a pre-nup with the girl. It was CRAZY. But, in the end, he got a pre-nup...and the girl was furious.