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re: Friend confided in me that he's having an affair (updates in OP)
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:28 am to meauxjeaux2
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:28 am to meauxjeaux2
Cheating is bad mmmkay
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Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:28 am to RedRifle
I couldn't be friends with a guy that did this.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:28 am to RedRifle
Ask him what he thought "forsaking all others" meant when he took his vows.
Then tell him to honor those vows, quit being a cheater, a liar and a crappy father.
If he doesn't quit doing it, I would quit hanging around with him. If his wife can't trust him, you damn sure can't.
Then tell him to honor those vows, quit being a cheater, a liar and a crappy father.
If he doesn't quit doing it, I would quit hanging around with him. If his wife can't trust him, you damn sure can't.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:29 am to Navytiger74
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What the frick is wrong with you guys? Were you all raised by Oprah?
1. Why does he owe more allegiance to his friend's wife than to his friend?
2. What would telling her solve? A good friend would try to persuade him to end the affair and point out the potential harm it could cause--not threaten to break up his marriage and ruin his life.
What the hell has happened to men in this country that would ear anyone to consider your post reasonable.
Jesus.
All of this.
Nothing wrong with urging him to "do the right thing".. something seriously wrong with taking the trust that a friend had in you and fricking him with it.
His trustworthiness (or lack thereof) between he and his wife is not at all related to you.
I imagine telling someone that you're doing a horrible this is very hard, and he wouldn't have told OP if he didn't trust him. It's perfectly fine to state how you feel and even stop being his friend if your morals just don't allow it, but don't jump into people's lives.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:30 am to Navytiger74
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1. Why does he owe more allegiance to his friend's wife than to his friend?
Because his friend is a piece of shite and cheating on the mother of his kids. She deserves to know more than he deserves to keep it a secret.
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2. What would telling her solve? A good friend would try to persuade him to end the affair and point out the potential harm it could cause--not threaten to break up his marriage and ruin his life.
It would get her out of the dark about it. She deserves to know if her spouse is cheating on her or not. And he should have thought about how it would ruin his family life before he cheated.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:30 am to meauxjeaux2
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you go home and find a stranger in your bed with your wife. Guy had no idea she was married.
Who do you get pissed at?
This guy does know the other woman is married. And how would anyone wind up in a married couples bed without a few context clues that another person lives there?
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:30 am to RedRifle
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That would be the worst thing that I could do. My wife can't keep anything a secret.
It WILL happen...You should tell her first, or you'll be in the shite when she finds out
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:32 am to GrammarKnotsi
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It WILL happen...You should tell her first, or you'll be in the shite when she finds out
Then there willl be 3 family's fighting or "in trouble".
This post was edited on 8/1/14 at 8:33 am
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:33 am to ForeverLSU02
Wife used to be super hot then she had a kid and she gained some weight. About two months in the gym and she could be back to her playing weight.
Sloot is a classic butterface.
Sloot is a classic butterface.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:33 am to jmcs68
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All I am going to say is you can tolerate alot for the sake of your children. I did what I thought was best for my child. But know that I plotted my exit for 8 years. I have no regrets
I know of a few people currently doing this. I just wonder if its best for the children to see their parents unhappy or get a divorce.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:34 am to Henry Jones Jr
I was friends with the guys before I ever met their SOs. With the exception of one or two, I really don't give a frick about their wives. In fact, a few clearly locked my buddies down for their cash and to get knocked up and stay at home. If they have gone crazy or are not putting out, I'm not judging the guy. I would advise them to stop for the kids, and that is it.
This post was edited on 8/1/14 at 8:35 am
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:34 am to OceanMan
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Nothing. Its just your perception, but one could argue if there were no dealers, there would be less users. That is, if it would be harde to find willing participants to cheat, there would be less cheaters.
You're right it is my perception but no one is putting a gun to someone's head saying "frick me or I'll shoot".....after I typed that I thought it was funny
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:34 am to GrammarKnotsi
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It WILL happen...You should tell her first, or you'll be in the shite when she finds out
she probably has secrets she keeps from him
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:35 am to Topwater Trout
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I always feel like people who are "ok" with cheating are only okay with it because they want to leave an out for themselves if they cheat
I tend to feel that folks that are quick to harshly judge someone for straying are just paranoid that this virus could spread to their marriage.
But, for what it is worth, I don't think I saw a single post in here by someone claiming that it was ok to cheat on your spouse.
Sadly, the US is full of unhappy couples that stay together mostly for the sake of their kids.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:35 am to Topwater Trout
People who stay together "for the kids" are actually creating a much worse environment for those kids to grow up in than if they split up and were happy IMO. Saw this first hand with a few friends growing up and they all said they wish their parents would have just split up.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:36 am to Topwater Trout
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she probably has secrets she keeps from him
No doubt, but she WILL find out he is keeping them...Chances are he will never find out hers...
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:36 am to Henry Jones Jr
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It would get her out of the dark about it. She deserves to know if her spouse is cheating on her or not. And he should have thought about how it would ruin his family life before he cheated.
Get her out of the dark about it? She deserves to know?
fricking idiot.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:36 am to Monk
So did this guy's wife that is being cheated on have a C section or natural birth? Important question here
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:36 am to reverendotis
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Ask him what he thought "forsaking all others" meant when he took his vows. Then tell him to honor those vows, quit being a cheater, a liar and a crappy father. If he doesn't quit doing it, I would quit hanging around with him. If his wife can't trust him, you damn sure can't.
THIS. You need to tell him to quit being so selfish prick.
Posted on 8/1/14 at 8:37 am to Bama and Beer
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So did this guy's wife that is being cheated on have a C section or natural birth? Important question here
This is going to go well
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