re: For those with pre-nups, how did it go when you brought it up with your S/O?

How many times in all that BS did she mention living out in the country and not valuing material things?

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gingerkittie

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Ginger, I get it (one of the few)...

As someone who has every comfort of life I would ever want, I could walk away from all the material possessions tomorrow and not feel a loss. To me, the fact that I had the ability to earn those things while starting with nothing is more of a gratification. After all is said and done, it is just stuff. For me, it is my family and close friends that bring joy (and Phish, of course). Possessions come and go (at least that is how I now see it).

It wasn't until I hit my 40's when I realized that. I now find gratification helping those with nothing in life find ways to better themselves.

With that said Gingerkittie, I really do understand your point of view...

Thank you for being able to understand it. I'm glad there is someone else who can comprehend it.




To the other posters: I said I was NOT perfect, I admit I have faults, in other words I am human. I said that there were things i could have done differently. I never really bashed him, just stated the facts, including the good points about him.

You guys bitch about women who use you, about how women use nice guys and dump them for guys who treat them like crap, you complain that men always get screwed in a divorce, women who don't appreciate all you guys do for them, etc.

But here I am, a woman who did not try to screw him over, never used guys and was more than fair in the divorce but I get bashed for that

I especially love the bashing by that poster who always posts about how he can't ever get women or a gf and whines like a bitch about it all the time here.

I am who I am. If you don't like the things I say, then skip my posts. Nothing wrong with that at all.

That's how my wife will sound when she leaves me

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Elizabeth Taylor

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Jesus Gawd, that woman was something.

The violet eyes?

Mercy.

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This is correct. Any property owned by the individual prior to marriage is their property. This is the law with or without a prenup. My prenup opts out of community property. We have 3 accounts... mine, hers, and a joint family account. The joint family account pays for the bills, vacations, childcare, house, etc. What she pays for is hers. What I pay for is mine. What the joint account pays is joint property. I cannot touch her 401K/investments and she cannot touch mine. I don't know how some of you "tricked" your spouse into signing. I had my lawyer draw up the contract and send it to her lawyer. The two of them agreed to the terms and made some amendments and sent it back to my lawyer. We all signed before notaries with separate legal representation.

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That's not a marriage. That's a business contract.