re: Extreme opinions on parenting -- do you have any?

I wasn't trying to make it out more than what it is. I personally feel uncomfortable kissing my 9&8year old daughters on the lips.. Like I said there is a certain innocence to a younger child grabbing your cheeks and turning your head to kiss your lips instead of cheeks.. I wouldn't say I was making a big deal out of it..

She will definitely have a part time job and assist in filling up her vehicle and insuring it. That's an important life lesson.

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I personally feel uncomfortable kissing my 9&8year old daughters on the lips.

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My little girl is only 5 but I'd imagine she's going to be like her older brother and by the age of 8 or 9 be long moved over to kiss on the cheek only.

To be honest, right now i'm not too worried about where my 5 year old wants to kiss me between the lips or the cheek. My biggest worry is just getting her to wipe her own hiney.

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We both paid our way through college via TOPS scholarship and student loans and I'm still paying my student loans.

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Did you have a job while in high school..?

My god. There are few things I hate worse than wiping poop off my 3 year old's hoo-hah

Can't really sit here and tell you what I'd do in that situation, too many variables.

I'm on pace to have about 200k per kid saved for college so if I have to cut one off I'll just buy a nice boat for myself

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To be honest, right now i'm not too worried about where my 5 year old wants to kiss me between the lips or the cheek. My biggest worry is just getting her to wipe her own hiney.

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Mine will be 3 in August, and we're still trying to get her to use the potty. Doesn't help that there's now a newborn in the house getting diaper changes around the clock.

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Did you have a job while in high school..

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Starting in 10th grade off and on and then starting in 11th grade, I had a part-time job that paid more than minimum wage that my parents insisted I work. The only times I was able to take off after school were during finals and midterm weeks.
I paid for my gas, insurance, and all weekend activities since I was in 10th grade. My dad would, however, give me a $100 bill every homecoming or prom though. This was my "reward" for being a hard worker and maintaining a 3.7 GPA in high school.

Maybe it's just your creepy nature that makes it seem weird. Do you still make your kids take their pants off before you spank them?

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I think there are much more important things for a 17 year old to focus on than flipping burgers for minimum wage so they can pay for gas and insurance

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You're over-thinking this. What do you mean "focus on flipping burgers?" It's not like the parent is going to expect their child to continue down the fast-food route for their career.

For a part-time job (usually the first job someone will have when they're young) it's about getting a resume started and being able to show future employers (summer internships, summer jobs, etc.) that they have held a job, are reliable, and provides references. It also teaches discpline, time management, etc.

There is a need to be flexible with this though. If my child was a varsity athlete, I would not expect them to work a job during the season. That would be just too much (although it can be done).

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But I also don't expect my kids to work in college aside from internships.

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If by "internships",you mean summer internships, then that is just plain ridiculous. Holding a job while in college is not that difficult, and it accomplishes the same goals that I described above for the part-time job.

I had a job from my sophomore year until graduation. I do thank my parents for helping me out freshman year so I could get used to the college environment. I think that's pretty reasonable and fair.