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re: "Crying it out" with an infant - OT Parents, how was your first experience?
Posted on 3/31/14 at 11:32 pm to Robin Masters
Posted on 3/31/14 at 11:32 pm to Robin Masters
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Posted on 4/1/14 at 12:49 am to StringedInstruments
3 nights it lasted and was over.
Let them cry...if they get uncontrollable then go in and rub their little belly and reassure them you are there then walk out. It'll be a long three days but it worked forboth mine. Pro tip. Mine were both able to be calmed down by placing your hand palm side down on top of thier head and rub gently to the front of their face. Repeated strokes softly almost like your petting them worked like a champ on them and my niece. Really seemed to sooth them. If you give in restart the 3 days
Let them cry...if they get uncontrollable then go in and rub their little belly and reassure them you are there then walk out. It'll be a long three days but it worked forboth mine. Pro tip. Mine were both able to be calmed down by placing your hand palm side down on top of thier head and rub gently to the front of their face. Repeated strokes softly almost like your petting them worked like a champ on them and my niece. Really seemed to sooth them. If you give in restart the 3 days
Posted on 4/1/14 at 4:30 am to StringedInstruments
We did it at 12 months with our first. We gradually exceeded the amount of time we went back in to console her after she started crying. So we let her cry for 10 minutes, went in to console her for a few minutes, left, then gave her 20 minutes, but she was asleep after 15 minutes so we didn't need to go back in. We did this for 2 nights, and by the third night, she no longer cried. But all kids are different so you'll just need to see what works. If he's dependent on food, that's harder. Our second child we gave milk in a bottle in the middle of the night for about 18 months until we were able to cut it out by gradually mixing with water.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 4:59 am to STEVED00
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We were in the same boat. Our son handled it like this: 1st night 40 mins 2nd night 7 mins 3rd night 1 min
This is about how it went for my little boy. I think it like 36-10-3.
Now he's 9. I tell him every night at 9 its bed time, he goes to his room and lays down and is normally out for 9:15-9:30.
On the other hand my wife didn't want to do this with our daughter since it was our last child, she's 8. She's sleeping in my bed now.......... take it for what its worth.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 5:12 am to StringedInstruments
we had to do this with our oldest. we made the mistake of letting her sleep with us for several years.
the first night she cried, kicked, threw things and then cried some more for most of the night. night #2 was much like night #1 but a little shorter. if i remember right she fell asleep around midnight. night #3 was much btter, she only cried for a few hours. by night #4 she was asleep with in a 15 minutes of laying in her bed
the first night she cried, kicked, threw things and then cried some more for most of the night. night #2 was much like night #1 but a little shorter. if i remember right she fell asleep around midnight. night #3 was much btter, she only cried for a few hours. by night #4 she was asleep with in a 15 minutes of laying in her bed
Posted on 4/1/14 at 5:32 am to StringedInstruments
I'd take them for a ride in the car, it always knocked them out. I hear if you set them on a running dryer in a car seat it does the same thing.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 5:37 am to StringedInstruments
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didn't really want to do it either, but people we know with kids say they did it and that it was tough for a night or two and then it was perfect. No more rocking to go to sleep.
This is false to the highest degree. We did this with my kid a couple times for a week and she never once gave up fighting. She didn't want to do it...she wasn't going to do it.
There was a 3-4 month period where she would walk to her crib and put herself to sleep. But one night, and I remember it like it was yesterday, she decided it was time for a change and ever since she cried so bad it sounded like she was possessed. frick that
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Posted on 4/1/14 at 6:39 am to StringedInstruments
yall fricked up long ago. should have weened him off of the night feeding early on.
btw, any future parents should get the moms on call book. we have followed it to the 't' and have had great results.
btw, any future parents should get the moms on call book. we have followed it to the 't' and have had great results.
This post was edited on 4/1/14 at 6:51 am
Posted on 4/1/14 at 6:40 am to StringedInstruments
I lock them in the basement for a few days and they quickly learned..
Posted on 4/1/14 at 7:18 am to StringedInstruments
Find a routine and stick with it, no matter what. But be prepared for that routine to suddenly stop working before too long....
Our little guy just turned 2. He spoiled the hell out of the wife and I with his eating and sleeping habits when he was an infant. He actually started sleeping straight through the night so quickly that it freaked us out the first few nights - we kept going to check on him cause there was just no way we thought a 2 month old could sleep 8-10 hours without needing a bottle or a diaper change.
About 3 weeks before his 2nd birthday he decided our perfect bedtime routine was bullshite, and sleeping through the night was just no longer gonna work for him. We have modified our routine a little to give him more of a feeling of "being a big boy" and having some input (letting him pick out what PJs, what books we read, what songs we sing, etc) but it still can take 30-45 minutes to get him all the way down, with up to 15 minutes of that being us just letting him scream it out cause he just flat out does not want to go down. Some nights I can just tune it out, some nights it drives me to straight to the edge.
Good luck
Our little guy just turned 2. He spoiled the hell out of the wife and I with his eating and sleeping habits when he was an infant. He actually started sleeping straight through the night so quickly that it freaked us out the first few nights - we kept going to check on him cause there was just no way we thought a 2 month old could sleep 8-10 hours without needing a bottle or a diaper change.
About 3 weeks before his 2nd birthday he decided our perfect bedtime routine was bullshite, and sleeping through the night was just no longer gonna work for him. We have modified our routine a little to give him more of a feeling of "being a big boy" and having some input (letting him pick out what PJs, what books we read, what songs we sing, etc) but it still can take 30-45 minutes to get him all the way down, with up to 15 minutes of that being us just letting him scream it out cause he just flat out does not want to go down. Some nights I can just tune it out, some nights it drives me to straight to the edge.
Good luck
Posted on 4/1/14 at 7:18 am to RBWilliams8
All kids are different as are all parents' schedules and wants. Many people put their kids down at 9 or 10. My 3 year old and 18 month old go down at 7:30.
None of that matters. The most important thing is consistency. Move your infant to their crib and out of your room as soon as you can. Then, get a bed time routine and stick to it.
My daughter example:
Eat dinner between 5-6.
Play
Bath around 6:30-7.
Read book(s).
Brush teeth.
Potty.
Diaper.
In bed, prayer and sing her a song.
Kiss goodnight, we're done.
My son example:
Eat dinner between 5-6.
Play.
Bath around 6:30-7.
Play.
Brush teeth.
Bring him to his room 7-7:30.
Rock him while I pray.
Sing Jesus Loves Me.
Sing Twinkle Twinkle.
Kiss him, put him in crib and tell him goodnight.
Any variations to this and it brings in the possibility of problems. We're aware of that and give our kids some rope if that's the case.
TL;DR - find a routine that works for your family and do it every single night exactly the same.
None of that matters. The most important thing is consistency. Move your infant to their crib and out of your room as soon as you can. Then, get a bed time routine and stick to it.
My daughter example:
Eat dinner between 5-6.
Play
Bath around 6:30-7.
Read book(s).
Brush teeth.
Potty.
Diaper.
In bed, prayer and sing her a song.
Kiss goodnight, we're done.
My son example:
Eat dinner between 5-6.
Play.
Bath around 6:30-7.
Play.
Brush teeth.
Bring him to his room 7-7:30.
Rock him while I pray.
Sing Jesus Loves Me.
Sing Twinkle Twinkle.
Kiss him, put him in crib and tell him goodnight.
Any variations to this and it brings in the possibility of problems. We're aware of that and give our kids some rope if that's the case.
TL;DR - find a routine that works for your family and do it every single night exactly the same.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 7:38 am to StringedInstruments
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"Crying it out" with an infant - OT Parents, how was your first experience?
I don't know....our son is 4 and still sleeps with us.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 7:40 am to JPLIII
Dude. frick that shite.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 7:42 am to StringedInstruments
I found with my two girls the each had a sleep spot. My oldest a few pats on the butt and she'd be knocked out. My youngest would have to rub her hair and bam. Losing sleep sucks but like said before enjoy it you'll miss holding them. Now they to big to busy and just crash without my tricks. I lay with them now after they've passed out sneaking cuddle time
Posted on 4/1/14 at 7:50 am to The Sad Banana
Tell me about it. I love my lil man, but it's really fricked up right now. He's putting a serious cramp in my sexy time.....oh, and he's fricking up my sleep too.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 8:14 am to JPLIII
I don't see how any of you let your kids sleep with you for that long.
My neighbors kid is in kindergarten and still sleeping in their bed. I just can't understand that.
Let them cry and bitch. They are just trying to see what you will do. They aren't idiots.
My neighbors kid is in kindergarten and still sleeping in their bed. I just can't understand that.
Let them cry and bitch. They are just trying to see what you will do. They aren't idiots.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 8:54 am to StringedInstruments
Took a child psychology class. Professor suggested its best not to let them cry it out. I'm not sure if this changes with age though.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 9:05 am to StringedInstruments
Suck it up and put your foot down. It'll work out for the best in the long run. That is unless you'd like to be like me.
I moved out of my bedroom after my second child. My 5 year old daughter sleeps with me at night and my 2 year old son sleeps with the wife in the other. They're attached like white on rice.
I don't mind but sometimes it gets overbearing. It definitely puts a monkey wrench into personal time with the wife. And over a long period of time, it can take a toll into the marriage as it'll roll over into other things.
I moved out of my bedroom after my second child. My 5 year old daughter sleeps with me at night and my 2 year old son sleeps with the wife in the other. They're attached like white on rice.
I don't mind but sometimes it gets overbearing. It definitely puts a monkey wrench into personal time with the wife. And over a long period of time, it can take a toll into the marriage as it'll roll over into other things.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 9:12 am to StringedInstruments
It's brutal and we caved in after the first kid finally passed out sitting up with legs and feet sticking out crib.
I am a wimp but kids seem to be turning out well .............so far.
I am a wimp but kids seem to be turning out well .............so far.
Posted on 4/1/14 at 9:14 am to papz
Damn, after reading this thread I realized how lucky we have it with our 13 month old. We never did any sleep training and weren't very consistent with where he slept or how he went to sleep.
For the first 4 months or so, he slept in our room, some nights in the bed with us some nights in a little pack and play next to the bed. After that we started putting him in his crib in his room, we'd pick him up and rock him back to sleep on the few nights he'd wake up screaming. For the past 6 months or so he's been putting himself to sleep around 8 and sleeping through the night.
Also, I'm not sure where I stand on the "crying it out" method. There's more and more studies that point to the harm this method causes to children. And I'm not sure the validity of these studies either fwiw, but they point to psychological and emotional damage.
For the first 4 months or so, he slept in our room, some nights in the bed with us some nights in a little pack and play next to the bed. After that we started putting him in his crib in his room, we'd pick him up and rock him back to sleep on the few nights he'd wake up screaming. For the past 6 months or so he's been putting himself to sleep around 8 and sleeping through the night.
Also, I'm not sure where I stand on the "crying it out" method. There's more and more studies that point to the harm this method causes to children. And I'm not sure the validity of these studies either fwiw, but they point to psychological and emotional damage.
This post was edited on 4/1/14 at 9:24 am
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