re: Creative ways to encourage or deal with a SO who hasn't aged well?

You could try being a man.

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All they would need is some yoga mats and a few weights

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This. Beachbody has a thing now, their on demand program. You pay like $100 and for a year you have access to ALL of their programs, including any brand new ones they release this year. You can easily do that at home... and add in other cardio you enjoy(running, walking, biking, etc).


I have couple sets of different size dumbbells, a resistance band, and some of those fitness mats(the ones that are in square tiles and you put together like puzzle pieces to however big you want). Every morning I get up and just pick a different video. Yoga one day, a dance cardio workout another, abs, upper body weights, etc. etc. The best part is I mix it up(and have plenty of choices) so I don't get bored. The more I work out, the more aware I am of my diet as well. Use myfitnesspal religiously and try to keep the cheat meals to a minimum and plan around situations where I know I will likely not eat the best.


2016 was not a very kind year to me. Found out I have a medical condition that not only makes it hard for me to naturally conceive a child...also makes losing weight more difficult. Add fertility medications(which mess with your hormones and contribute to weight gain), stress from dealing with all the stuff for my family regarding the flood, stress from work and school, a tendency to eat more when stressed, and a slowing metabolism due to my age, etc, etc.....and I gained a few pounds.


I'm hellbent on losing the weight though. My husband and I promised each other before we married we would always stay in good shape for each other. Even though my circumstances could not all be helped, I owe it to myself and to him to not give up.

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Dude, just how fat is your wife? I know I've seen you post about it three times. You really need to talk with her if it's this bad.

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Yeah I couldn't remember if he had started similar threads about it or I just remembered his posts in other threads.

OP...how much weight has she gained?

On the other hand, you don't have kids so you have time and energy to invest in maintaining your health.

While that is true, I know women with children that are in awesome shape. And just because you don't have children...doesn't mean you don't have other responsibilities in your life that take away from time/energy to work out. For several months I was working full time on nights and not getting much sleep, going to school, and helping my family. Even if I had some free time to work out...I had no energy for it physically and mentally.

My ole' lady asked me before we started dating "If I get ugly, would you leave me?"

Without even blinking I said "yes"

Needless to say she was offended and said that was wrong and asked why I would do that.

My response was simple. I said "If you simply allow yourself to get unattractive that shows me that you've taken me for granted and don't care what I want."

Over time she's come to see what I mean. I understand simple aging, but women just letting themselves go can GTFO.

What if you're an in-shape dude that doesn't work out or eat well, and doesn't want to, but still wants a hot wife?

She's fat. Went from ~115 at marriage to prob around 200-220 now. I have no desire to even cuddle. It grosses me out. In her mind, that's just life. I work around 60 hours a week and don't have the time or energy to go grocery shopping and cook all the meals. It doesn't help that my neighbors are fatties and the women always get together for margaritas and snacks.

The FDA has thousands of approved food additives. cook most meals at home with food with these absent if possible. Also, try to avoid foods that have been raised with roundup or glyphosate. avoid gmo foods if possible. Don't believe that stuff on fat unless its trans fats or cheap vegetable oils, healthy fats are not only good for you but required. cut sugar from the American average of 150lbs/year to much less.

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I started bringing hot women home. Eventually my wife got the idea. She doesn't even bother us anymore.

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