re: Stock the Bar Party location

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The fact that the OP is asking people who he doesn't feel comfortable inviting into his home to stock his bar just feels funny to me. Why does the OP need the size bar that would be stocked by 50 people if he doesn't entertain groups of that size? It just feels like it crosses the line from good idea/fun activity with friends to a try hard/obligation type party.

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He said he didn't want it at his house because it's a long drive and small for that many people. Can y'all not read?

ETA: Apparently rustled some feathers with stating the obvious. Never change Food Board.

like someone said, it seems tacky. even if someone is throwing the party for you, youre still approving of the party. 30+ bottles of liquor to congratulate you on buying a house? lame

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it seems tacky. even if someone is throwing the party for you, youre still approving of the party.

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Yep. Not to mention OP says his buddy is throwing the party for him yet OP is doing all of the legwork sending emails and booking a place. The idea that my friends and family should purchase my wife and I's booze is completely foreign to me. I think you nailed it earlier when you said it may be a regional thing as it seems that most of the people supporting this idea hail from NOLA.

I am ok with doing it as a theme for a house warming party where the host is opening his house (and his new bar) up to his guests or possibly as a theme for their wedding shower. Although I strongly suspect the people who think it is their friends and families responsibility to stock their liquor cabinet will also insist on a stock the kitchen party and a honey do party, on top of the traditional couples and bridal showers.

This thread is blowing my mind. Why does the location of the party impact its legitimacy? Friends of ours hosted a stock the bar party for me and my wife, and it wasn't at our house. We weren't even in a house at the time, but a small apartment.

It's not like the guy is putting this on himself, and it's not like he's asking people to bring booze and then buy their own at a bar. It's just 4 walls and a roof where friends gather to celebrate a wedding/new house, offer a gift and drink free alcohol. Logically, the location has nothing to do with it.

People will bring $30-50 bottles of liquor or $20 glass sets/bar wares. Then they will hang out with friends and drink at least that much in alcohol.

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It's usually a wedding thing.

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Yea that was why I added the laundry list comment.

Engagement party(sometimes multiple parties depending on where the people are from)
bachelor/bachelorette party
rehearsal dinner
wedding+reception+registry gift
stock the bar party...

I mean shite this is a little ridiculous. For a few of my friends weddings, to attend all these events would be anywhere from $500-4k. I get the traditional things for a wedding but screw inviting me to an extra party in which I have to bring a gift to attend. If any of my friends did this, they would be getting a nice bottle of this

havent had one in a few years. had to chug the whole thing. disgusting

Never heard of it as a wedding thing, I always thought it was a substitute for a housewarming party.

Maybe things have changed as more people live together before marriage and move much more often than older generations.